Your girlfriend needs to grow the fuck up. If you go off-roading, you need to expect a little mud on your tires. It's okay to be grossed out, but to tell you that you personally are fucking disgusting for having poop in your rectum (where poop is formed!) is ridiculous. What did she think would be up there? Glitter? Use condoms on your toys in the future for easier clean up.
There's nothing wrong with, on some level, enjoying what happened to you. Just because it was inappropriate and exploitative doesn't mean you need carry trauma over it. The trust issue will be harder, I deal with it myself after emotional abuse I suffered.
Genitals in general arenโt that attractive. For many people itโs the overall attraction to a person that makes that personโs genitals seem attractive.
Talk to your partner, talk to a therapist. Someone else suggested working up to it slowly, that's good advice. Have your boyfriend maybe start kissing your belly, inner thighs etc, find out how close he gets to your pussy before you start getting anxious. Work from there.
Luckily my wife cums from PIV, but sheโs in the minority. She has a separate way of cumming from PIV, which is cumming from the feeling of me cumming inside her. When I creampie her as deep as I can it sets her off 100% of the time. You might try that if you havenโt already. Of course she also gets off from clit stimulation during PIV. Try that as well if you havenโt already. Enjoy the exploration!
To put it in perspective; Iโm not horny when I masturbate. I just know the result will make me fall asleep faster. Pop 20mg melatonin + orgasm with 2min vibrator stimulation = sleep within 20 min. Itโs great! But has nothing to do with sex and being horny
A few of my exes were this way about using toys in general. Didnโt bother me. Some men are ok with it and some arenโt. Iโve never used a dildo because in my mind itโs too similar to a manโs part. I donโt want anything to replace that or come close. Iโm fine with small devices though. Would you be willing to compromise with your boyfriend and use a small device instead?
Itโs literally not consensual so itโs literally rape. Your husband wants to watch you get raped. Not he wants to watch a pretend rape, he wants to watch an actual one. This isnโt okay if you havenโt figured that out by now. I donโt care what he didnโt really like doing, unless it was people beating him up and raping him while you watched, itโs not equal, itโs not karma, he shouldnโt even be trying to pressure you into what is basically a crime. Holy hell. The word that isnโt here in consensual, itโs forced. Things have went to far. You need to reel it back in. I donโt know how it got here but my guess is you both have been doing some boundary pushing to make you feel guilt for not being okay with this.
Look at some Japanese blow job porn they focus a lot on tricks and techniques. Near the end rhythm is the thing, don't change at that point. I'll repost something in a minute that got me over 500 upvotes on the whatv to do with the orgasm bit. Not good at position names but are you straddling knees down? Try sitting on him feet down. This allows you to change your knee position a lot as well.
Ooo okay, thank you for listing ones too!
Your girlfriend needs to grow the fuck up. If you go off-roading, you need to expect a little mud on your tires. It's okay to be grossed out, but to tell you that you personally are fucking disgusting for having poop in your rectum (where poop is formed!) is ridiculous. What did she think would be up there? Glitter? Use condoms on your toys in the future for easier clean up.
Thanks I j learned about in class.
So inappropriate. Do not do it in the same room as her. Go in the washroom.
I mean, I'm a girl and I don't share too much with my friends, my bf is shy and I don't want to cross any boundaries
Find you a new bf
There's nothing wrong with, on some level, enjoying what happened to you. Just because it was inappropriate and exploitative doesn't mean you need carry trauma over it. The trust issue will be harder, I deal with it myself after emotional abuse I suffered.
Get a couples therapist. Donโt take Reddit therapy – you need someone to guide you through your particular issues and the root of them.
Genitals in general arenโt that attractive. For many people itโs the overall attraction to a person that makes that personโs genitals seem attractive.
Talk to your partner, talk to a therapist. Someone else suggested working up to it slowly, that's good advice. Have your boyfriend maybe start kissing your belly, inner thighs etc, find out how close he gets to your pussy before you start getting anxious. Work from there.
Luckily my wife cums from PIV, but sheโs in the minority. She has a separate way of cumming from PIV, which is cumming from the feeling of me cumming inside her. When I creampie her as deep as I can it sets her off 100% of the time. You might try that if you havenโt already. Of course she also gets off from clit stimulation during PIV. Try that as well if you havenโt already. Enjoy the exploration!
Phrasing…
I'm a bit confused..why is it a problem if you look sad when you say bye…wouldn't that be somewhat normal?
LMAOO should probs consider that
Go see a doctor
To put it in perspective; Iโm not horny when I masturbate. I just know the result will make me fall asleep faster. Pop 20mg melatonin + orgasm with 2min vibrator stimulation = sleep within 20 min. Itโs great! But has nothing to do with sex and being horny
This is toxic and disturbing behavior on his part
I did it before, too excited, miss timing. But it was still only partial not full amount.
A few of my exes were this way about using toys in general. Didnโt bother me. Some men are ok with it and some arenโt. Iโve never used a dildo because in my mind itโs too similar to a manโs part. I donโt want anything to replace that or come close. Iโm fine with small devices though. Would you be willing to compromise with your boyfriend and use a small device instead?
Itโs literally not consensual so itโs literally rape. Your husband wants to watch you get raped. Not he wants to watch a pretend rape, he wants to watch an actual one. This isnโt okay if you havenโt figured that out by now. I donโt care what he didnโt really like doing, unless it was people beating him up and raping him while you watched, itโs not equal, itโs not karma, he shouldnโt even be trying to pressure you into what is basically a crime. Holy hell. The word that isnโt here in consensual, itโs forced. Things have went to far. You need to reel it back in. I donโt know how it got here but my guess is you both have been doing some boundary pushing to make you feel guilt for not being okay with this.
Yes, it happens. That's how we got our second child.
I think this just might be a case of incompatibility.
Look at some Japanese blow job porn they focus a lot on tricks and techniques. Near the end rhythm is the thing, don't change at that point. I'll repost something in a minute that got me over 500 upvotes on the whatv to do with the orgasm bit. Not good at position names but are you straddling knees down? Try sitting on him feet down. This allows you to change your knee position a lot as well.