As someone who’s actually had mine for five years and then had it replaced it’s really not as scary as it sounds. Your arm will hurt like a bitch for about a week (I recommend lots of weed and ibuprofen for the pain) but then it’s not too noticeable. She’ll feel it for a while when she moves her arm (about a month) but eventually it won’t be easy to feel. Honestly best birth control I’ve ever been on. The pill always fucked with my hormones immensely so I wanted an alternative.
I'm no expert, but I think pelvic floor therapy is the way to go. You can also buy a dialator kit to use at home while waiting for your referral. Check out r/vaginismus, they should have some good resources too. Vaginismus is an extreme form of pelvic floor dysfunction.
My husband doesn't want to give, but can only come from receiving. I love giving oral, so I do it anyway, even though I don't like the inbalance. I don't come from oral and like fingering more, but I do like to receive sometimes. That's how we we're well into the falling in love once I started realizing I wouldn't get any. And I just couldn't make a deal breaker out of it because everything else is nearly perfect. But I did get frustrated. And not only on the oral part, we are just not that sexually compatible. So now I have a lover…
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You’re just going to have to communicate a little more clearly and ask her to do the same. Tell her she needs to be clear about what she wants, and then you also be clear with her about what you want. “How far are you okay with going?” Is very broad and unspecific. Try “Do you want to have sex?” Or “Can I take off your pants and touch you?”
I'm sorry this happened to you. It's sadly super common for casual partners and hookups to lie or omit things that are relevant. Even when you DO ask the right questions, you have no way of knowing if this person is being truthful or not. As far as his “she's clean because I tested clean after banging her” goes, that's BS unless SHE isn't having unprotected sex with other dudes (unlikely) OR he's re-testing every time he has sex with her (even more unlikely). Anyway, this is the reason I never had unprotected sex outside of long term monogamous relationships (after mutual testing). Even then you sometimes get burned when someone cheats on you and not only betrays your trust, but risks your health.
This. So hot when in the right moment. And I’ll just tap my husband’s arm or side or whatever I can reach if it starts to be too much/uncomfortable and he backs off. He definitely pays extra attention to my reactions and body language when doing something like this. And checks in after to make doubly sure I was good with it. I would agree with several other comments to just ask her. Everyone’s different and has their own preferences.
I had a pituitary tumor that secreted prolactin (the stuff that makes women lactate), which in men basically just suppresses testosterone and not much else. I got the tumor treated and it’s all back! These are like the easiest tumors to treat, literally just some medicine that rarely has any side effects (at the dose used for this, it’s oddly enough the same as a Parkinson’s drug, but these tumors only require a super low dose), but a lot of people don’t get them diagnosed since talking to a doctor about low libido isn’t something people are usually eager to do There’s also other health problems that low libido can be a symptom of, it’s worth getting checked out if you’re noticing it’s lower than what’s normal for you for a while. I wrote my thing off as stress for a long time, but if it’s long standing, it may be a smart idea to ask a doctor, since sometimes there’s other things going on that are dangerous in addition to the low libido that you want to be dealing with
The next time you have sex, ask her to masturbate while you watch. Then you can masturbate and when your ready to go, put one on without saying anything and then proceed with piv. Putting on the condom signifies that watching her masturbate turned you on so much that your ready to mount her
For all the people talking about revenge porn laws and all that – I think she gets it, but that wasn’t the point of the post. Flip it around ladies – you get sent videos of YOUR current boyfriend with an ex, and she’s absolutely gorgeous, huge tits, skinny, blonde and she’s just worshipping his dick – deepthroating, loving anal etc. How would you feel? How would you recover? I think we forget that emotionally, we’re not that different (men and women). Cuts still cut and we still bleed the same blood. That stigma that men should just get over it is really old school (not to say that’s what’s implied here). My ex was considerably more …. I don’t know … gifted? In the sex game than my current gf, and I KNOW to tread lightly on that because we’re all emotional creatures and tact plays a big part in all relationships. This one might sink the ship.
Anyone complaining about not having sex probably shouldn’t be having sex. Who wants to do it after one party involved whined or complained there way into it? Fuck that.
Firstly, kudos on trying something new and enjoying it! So, some commenters are suggesting you’ve experienced subdrop, which is a state of intense emotional vulnerability following coming out of sub space, a mental state where you are enjoying the experience of giving up all control. I’m not sure this is the best description of what you experienced. Another description of what you’re feeling could be simply sexual shame, or the anxiety about the thought of people finding out that you enjoyed receptive anal. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying this and I hope you can find a way to feel confident that all of the things you enjoy sexually are OK!
There's a reason why women his own age weren't dating him… You'll be fed up and leave him before you reach the age he was when he met you. Even better, leave him before it gets worse.
It’s not the end all be all for you but it kinda is for him. With that being said, the experience should be mutually beneficial. Communication is definitely key. As for tips-I wish I had been more willing to embrace/express fantasies when I was younger. I also wish I had tossed my insecurities aside sooner. Not until my thirties did I fully acknowledge that life is short and it leveled up my sex life in every way.
It’s not the end all be all for you but it kinda is for him. With that being said, the experience should be mutually beneficial. Communication is definitely key. As for tips-I wish I had been more willing to embrace/express fantasies when I was younger. I also wish I had tossed my insecurities aside sooner. Not until my thirties did I fully acknowledge that life is short and it leveled up my sex life in every way.
It’s not the end all be all for you but it kinda is for him. With that being said, the experience should be mutually beneficial. Communication is definitely key. As for tips-I wish I had been more willing to embrace/express fantasies when I was younger. I also wish I had tossed my insecurities aside sooner. Not until my thirties did I fully acknowledge that life is short and it leveled up my sex life in every way.
I went there will my classmates:) so basically, people from the street or co workers could do all the same things in the club. But how to identify the ones who don't ?
The hardest battles people face are those against themselves. Your scars are evidence of a hard battle you fought and won. Their age shows how many days you have continued to hold your ground. They are physical evidence of exactly how strong you are. Those places in your life closest to your heart are reserved for a few people that deserve them. I know rejection hurts, and it's painful to find out someone isn't what we wanted them to be or thought they were, but anyone that doesn't recognize how awesome you are doesn't deserve one of those places near your heart. With him gone, you now have that space available for someone that deserves it.
Blind fold him during sexy time, open and close the front door to make it seem like someone else has come inside and then pleasure yourself in front of him with a toy, can confirm this worked for me 😉
Best you can do is go slow and use a lot of lube.
I'd just say that the sex is great but the condoms slipping off is distracting and suggest he gets a different size.
Wanna come over and watch X-Men?
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Depends on who you ask.
As someone who’s actually had mine for five years and then had it replaced it’s really not as scary as it sounds. Your arm will hurt like a bitch for about a week (I recommend lots of weed and ibuprofen for the pain) but then it’s not too noticeable. She’ll feel it for a while when she moves her arm (about a month) but eventually it won’t be easy to feel. Honestly best birth control I’ve ever been on. The pill always fucked with my hormones immensely so I wanted an alternative.
Has this been a natural progression or all of the sudden?
I'm no expert, but I think pelvic floor therapy is the way to go. You can also buy a dialator kit to use at home while waiting for your referral. Check out r/vaginismus, they should have some good resources too. Vaginismus is an extreme form of pelvic floor dysfunction.
My husband doesn't want to give, but can only come from receiving. I love giving oral, so I do it anyway, even though I don't like the inbalance. I don't come from oral and like fingering more, but I do like to receive sometimes. That's how we we're well into the falling in love once I started realizing I wouldn't get any. And I just couldn't make a deal breaker out of it because everything else is nearly perfect. But I did get frustrated. And not only on the oral part, we are just not that sexually compatible. So now I have a lover…
Yeh, thats on the sex pest spectrum
She only cares after she got to know his actual age. Before that he looked good enough to f*ck. I call that age shaming, not preference.
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You’re just going to have to communicate a little more clearly and ask her to do the same. Tell her she needs to be clear about what she wants, and then you also be clear with her about what you want. “How far are you okay with going?” Is very broad and unspecific. Try “Do you want to have sex?” Or “Can I take off your pants and touch you?”
Idiot.
Again. It changed once he decided he’s moving
I'm sorry this happened to you. It's sadly super common for casual partners and hookups to lie or omit things that are relevant. Even when you DO ask the right questions, you have no way of knowing if this person is being truthful or not. As far as his “she's clean because I tested clean after banging her” goes, that's BS unless SHE isn't having unprotected sex with other dudes (unlikely) OR he's re-testing every time he has sex with her (even more unlikely). Anyway, this is the reason I never had unprotected sex outside of long term monogamous relationships (after mutual testing). Even then you sometimes get burned when someone cheats on you and not only betrays your trust, but risks your health.
This. So hot when in the right moment. And I’ll just tap my husband’s arm or side or whatever I can reach if it starts to be too much/uncomfortable and he backs off. He definitely pays extra attention to my reactions and body language when doing something like this. And checks in after to make doubly sure I was good with it. I would agree with several other comments to just ask her. Everyone’s different and has their own preferences.
Great, I hope that some of the tips you haven't tried work for you!
LOL no. Men at best just talk about how they got a girls phone number etc etc. nothing about what happens behind the bed sheets
Okay! We will try thank you!
I had a pituitary tumor that secreted prolactin (the stuff that makes women lactate), which in men basically just suppresses testosterone and not much else. I got the tumor treated and it’s all back! These are like the easiest tumors to treat, literally just some medicine that rarely has any side effects (at the dose used for this, it’s oddly enough the same as a Parkinson’s drug, but these tumors only require a super low dose), but a lot of people don’t get them diagnosed since talking to a doctor about low libido isn’t something people are usually eager to do There’s also other health problems that low libido can be a symptom of, it’s worth getting checked out if you’re noticing it’s lower than what’s normal for you for a while. I wrote my thing off as stress for a long time, but if it’s long standing, it may be a smart idea to ask a doctor, since sometimes there’s other things going on that are dangerous in addition to the low libido that you want to be dealing with
The next time you have sex, ask her to masturbate while you watch. Then you can masturbate and when your ready to go, put one on without saying anything and then proceed with piv. Putting on the condom signifies that watching her masturbate turned you on so much that your ready to mount her
I can’t believe this is a thing. Any man who wants to fuck immaculate, hairless buttholes, can buy themselves a butt Fleshlight, in my opinion.
For all the people talking about revenge porn laws and all that – I think she gets it, but that wasn’t the point of the post. Flip it around ladies – you get sent videos of YOUR current boyfriend with an ex, and she’s absolutely gorgeous, huge tits, skinny, blonde and she’s just worshipping his dick – deepthroating, loving anal etc. How would you feel? How would you recover? I think we forget that emotionally, we’re not that different (men and women). Cuts still cut and we still bleed the same blood. That stigma that men should just get over it is really old school (not to say that’s what’s implied here). My ex was considerably more …. I don’t know … gifted? In the sex game than my current gf, and I KNOW to tread lightly on that because we’re all emotional creatures and tact plays a big part in all relationships. This one might sink the ship.
You're confusing carelessness for confidence
I just turned it 65. Still women that want an affectionate man out there.
I JUST CHOKDE
divorce him what the fuck
How old are you? Bodies change all the time with hormones. Plus gravity sets in.
Anyone complaining about not having sex probably shouldn’t be having sex. Who wants to do it after one party involved whined or complained there way into it? Fuck that.
Its called marriage.
Firstly, kudos on trying something new and enjoying it! So, some commenters are suggesting you’ve experienced subdrop, which is a state of intense emotional vulnerability following coming out of sub space, a mental state where you are enjoying the experience of giving up all control. I’m not sure this is the best description of what you experienced. Another description of what you’re feeling could be simply sexual shame, or the anxiety about the thought of people finding out that you enjoyed receptive anal. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying this and I hope you can find a way to feel confident that all of the things you enjoy sexually are OK!
I make my own based on the ingredients! I live with an herbalist so they are easy access for me. Here’s the salve: https://momotaroapotheca.com/en-ca/products/salve
This shit pisses me off so much. I hate people who do this is relationships. Super fucked up.
He knocked on poops door and was surprised poop answered…
There's a reason why women his own age weren't dating him… You'll be fed up and leave him before you reach the age he was when he met you. Even better, leave him before it gets worse.
It’s not the end all be all for you but it kinda is for him. With that being said, the experience should be mutually beneficial. Communication is definitely key. As for tips-I wish I had been more willing to embrace/express fantasies when I was younger. I also wish I had tossed my insecurities aside sooner. Not until my thirties did I fully acknowledge that life is short and it leveled up my sex life in every way.
It’s not the end all be all for you but it kinda is for him. With that being said, the experience should be mutually beneficial. Communication is definitely key. As for tips-I wish I had been more willing to embrace/express fantasies when I was younger. I also wish I had tossed my insecurities aside sooner. Not until my thirties did I fully acknowledge that life is short and it leveled up my sex life in every way.
It’s not the end all be all for you but it kinda is for him. With that being said, the experience should be mutually beneficial. Communication is definitely key. As for tips-I wish I had been more willing to embrace/express fantasies when I was younger. I also wish I had tossed my insecurities aside sooner. Not until my thirties did I fully acknowledge that life is short and it leveled up my sex life in every way.
I mean, I always wanted a serious relationship with her since the moment we met. And knowing that it finally happened it makes me happy hahaha
I went there will my classmates:) so basically, people from the street or co workers could do all the same things in the club. But how to identify the ones who don't ?
Those cultures are trash medieval ones anyway. Shouldn't be respected.
Index finger is more reliable apparently
The hardest battles people face are those against themselves. Your scars are evidence of a hard battle you fought and won. Their age shows how many days you have continued to hold your ground. They are physical evidence of exactly how strong you are. Those places in your life closest to your heart are reserved for a few people that deserve them. I know rejection hurts, and it's painful to find out someone isn't what we wanted them to be or thought they were, but anyone that doesn't recognize how awesome you are doesn't deserve one of those places near your heart. With him gone, you now have that space available for someone that deserves it.
Blind fold him during sexy time, open and close the front door to make it seem like someone else has come inside and then pleasure yourself in front of him with a toy, can confirm this worked for me 😉
And you will be lonely will no real love in your life, have lots of fun!
she definitely wasn’t traumatized just by jerking you off dude
Don’t put up with it , cut him off until he meet the -basic- requirement or being clean , don’t settle for this