If you see your gynie regularly, I suggest you consult her/him to make sure there are no physiological conditions. If there are, it is a simple procedure to correct. If not, talking to your boyfriend about your fears is very important. Nothing replaces open communication and intimacy. With lot of foreplay, arousal and lubrication, it should happen smoothly.. Best wishes..
My partner and I don't ever fight or raise our voices at eachother (no judgement) BUT whenever we have difficult conversations and go over things that are stressing us out, the sex is phenomenal. There's something about connecting with someone with a lot of stress involved, like moving through a conflict, that probably triggers our monkey brains to bond
Finding a good partner for something like this takes time. It might happen on your first night, it might take a month to find someone. Be upfront about what you are looking for, that this is a one night thing (or whatever your plans are) and throw whatever details you can/want to in there. And again, apps vary from city to city. Feeld works best for me in the upper midwest since it's more specific to open relationships.
It is ABSOLUTELY hot for a number of reasons: It shows she’s comfortable with me It takes some of the pressure off me to satisfy without any tools If she is willing to let me interact/use them on her, it’s a lot of fun for me, personally. Like a sexy video game I know there’s this idea that guys are intimidated by sex toys and see them as competition, and maybe some of them do, but they can get bent if so as far as I’m concerned. That’s just immaturity/insecurity. They’re not competition…they’re more like a teammate.
If you see your gynie regularly, I suggest you consult her/him to make sure there are no physiological conditions. If there are, it is a simple procedure to correct. If not, talking to your boyfriend about your fears is very important. Nothing replaces open communication and intimacy. With lot of foreplay, arousal and lubrication, it should happen smoothly.. Best wishes..
Just find someone else to give you a bj on the side and problem solved
Thank you this is a good idea and will help me feel more in control of the moment.
My partner and I don't ever fight or raise our voices at eachother (no judgement) BUT whenever we have difficult conversations and go over things that are stressing us out, the sex is phenomenal. There's something about connecting with someone with a lot of stress involved, like moving through a conflict, that probably triggers our monkey brains to bond
Finding a good partner for something like this takes time. It might happen on your first night, it might take a month to find someone. Be upfront about what you are looking for, that this is a one night thing (or whatever your plans are) and throw whatever details you can/want to in there. And again, apps vary from city to city. Feeld works best for me in the upper midwest since it's more specific to open relationships.
It is ABSOLUTELY hot for a number of reasons: It shows she’s comfortable with me It takes some of the pressure off me to satisfy without any tools If she is willing to let me interact/use them on her, it’s a lot of fun for me, personally. Like a sexy video game I know there’s this idea that guys are intimidated by sex toys and see them as competition, and maybe some of them do, but they can get bent if so as far as I’m concerned. That’s just immaturity/insecurity. They’re not competition…they’re more like a teammate.