Wow, it sounds like you've been living in a romantic paradise for the past 9 years. I mean, who wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who blames their lack of attraction on your physique and finds your sexual moves “gross”? But seriously, his behavior is beyond egregious. It's clear he's not interested in taking any responsibility for his own issues or working on himself, but rather, he makes you the scapegoat for all of his problems. I'm glad to hear that you're working on yourself and seeking therapy, but it's not your responsibility to fix your husband's issues for him. Maybe it's time to start considering whether this relationship is really serving you in a positive way. Life is too short to be stuck in a sexless marriage with a partner who refuses to take responsibility for his actions.
She should see a doctor. Sounds like vaginismus
Wow, it sounds like you've been living in a romantic paradise for the past 9 years. I mean, who wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who blames their lack of attraction on your physique and finds your sexual moves “gross”? But seriously, his behavior is beyond egregious. It's clear he's not interested in taking any responsibility for his own issues or working on himself, but rather, he makes you the scapegoat for all of his problems. I'm glad to hear that you're working on yourself and seeking therapy, but it's not your responsibility to fix your husband's issues for him. Maybe it's time to start considering whether this relationship is really serving you in a positive way. Life is too short to be stuck in a sexless marriage with a partner who refuses to take responsibility for his actions.