Pissing in the answer. I didn't piss and got epidimitis. Basically the cords in my balls got infected and my right nut swelled to base ball size. Very painful.
Is this a thing with a new partner? Some guys might have a hard time staying erect, and I don't think it was your fault. He might have been extremely nervous tbh
In San Francisco there's the Power Exchange. Single females get in for free. Single males have to pay a higher fee than couples https://www.powerexchange.com
But did you lie or just didnt respond.. seems like their are double standards for men and women one is a Stud the other a slut . Dont understand it. Take care
If iâm sending him a naughty picture, itâs not to get one back. I just like to bring a bit of thrill and excitement to his day. As long as you are giving her some acknowledgement and appreciation for it, i would say you are good (and sincere compliments are always very appreciated).
When you say uncle, the immediate assumpton is that you are discussing a person who is a generation older. He is only 6 years older than you, and his partner is only 4 years older than you. It is a bit odd to consider someone who is closer to being your peer, as an uncle. So if I strip the title away… You are 18, and your flat mate is having sex next to your room and it is making you uncomfortable. In response you tried to virtually “participate” in their secxual acts by masturbating to what you were hearing. I wont comment on that part, but it strikes me as a bad idea to engage with those intrusive thoughts. Re the sex… You ought to make your discomfort clear. You can make yourself heard loudly… make noise, play music etc… to ensure that they understand that you can hear and do not consent to witnessing their sex lives. Appealing to your nan is not working so you unfortunately need to assert yourself more.
Itâs very attractive being outspoken. But the men that are intimidated probably worry they wonât be able to satisfy you. Women are not usually outspoken so when they are itâs surprising. That first time might be distressing cause now he feels the pressure to leave a good impression. He might start thinking he has to âperformâ extremely well or offer things he canât.
That's your body telling you to form a bond with the man you love. Remember you are hard wired to your instincts, if you had sex in the past you would get pregnant and if the guy you were with was not serious you would die. So you are hard wired to want to be with a single guy that you love, so I recommend you try a relationship with someone you love.
I have an âaverageâ size and Iâve heard this occasionally from my wife (together more than three decades). Sometimes all the feelings are overwhelming and you canât exactly figure out whatâs going on. Itâs not a criticism. Itâs a check-in.
Sperm lives for days so itâs most definitely possible for her to get pregnant and isnât safe at all you still need reliable birth control if having sex regardless of a woman being on her period or not
Make sure you give therapy time to work if you go down that route. It's not a 1 time or 2 time thing (in fact there is no set number of times)… My wife and I have gone to therapy for around 5+ years now for various things and it saved our marriage (for sex reasons and other).. I want to say it took us at least a year or two before we really made progress. It also takes both people committed to it. If only one is it won't help Hang in there
In addition to the comments about missionary/spooning, I'd like to toss in my contribution of her sitting in your lap, facing you (on bed/in a chair/etc). Accessible for PIV or fingers, you can hug/kiss/touch all over, can look in each other's eyes… Arguably up there as one of the most intimate ones like missionary.
I can think of 2 main categories of reasons personally : Constant rejection and lack of enthusiasm. If trying to have sex feels like I'm forcing on her that she doesn't want, yeah, I'll go back to porn. If sex becomes a negative or stressful experience rather than something fun. For example, if performance anxiety issues are there and gf gets visibly upset or frustrated, adding to anxiety levels and crushing self confidence.
It makes complete sense that you're bad at blowjobs because you're EIGHTEEN FREAKIN' YEARS OLD! I mean, I know y'all are young and all but Jesus H.W. Christ, tell your boyfriend to stop being a little turd. I think even at 18 I would've been able to see that I was being an ass like that. God damn it, to be 18 again and for my worries to be being bad at blowjobs. Man y'all don't know how good y'all got it! Stay with your parents for as long as you can cause the cost of living is higher than Willie Nelson and Snoop Dogg at Woodstock. Do they even still hold Woodstock? I don't know, but damn it that has to count for somethin' 'cause we were a team.
It makes complete sense that you're bad at blowjobs because you're EIGHTEEN FREAKIN' YEARS OLD! I mean, I know y'all are young and all but Jesus H.W. Christ, tell your boyfriend to stop being a little turd. I think even at 18 I would've been able to see that I was being an ass like that. God damn it, to be 18 again and for my worries to be being bad at blowjobs. Man y'all don't know how good y'all got it! Stay with your parents for as long as you can cause the cost of living is higher than Willie Nelson and Snoop Dogg at Woodstock. Do they even still hold Woodstock? I don't know, but damn it that has to count for somethin' 'cause we were a team.
No reason for others to downvote your comment, diet 100% contributes to the taste. I've had LOTS that I loved and 2 guys that I'll only always remember because of how they tasted. To the point it actually made me almost throw up. If a person (even women) has a really bad diet, smokes, etc, it WILL affect the taste.
PS. I hate when ppl on these threads get bitchy about ppl not going to the doctor right away. đ It comes off as dismissive and arrogant. Sometimes ppl generally arenât sure if something is an emergency or they feel embarrassed. So they ask questions online first to get some support. Also, not everyone has access to healthcare and going to the ER and ending up with a huge bill only to be told âyouâll be fine in a few days, take some advil.â, can be financially devastating for some. She might also be very young and still under parents insurance. Under 25 I believe still qualify. Might face real shame as a woman for even having a sexual encounter based on cultural factors. Even cut off financially or physically abused. If you can just âgo to the doctor or ERâ for anything without a second thought to finance and social consequenceâ-congrats. But many cannot.
Same. Female here and I want to be used for your pleasure and owned. But I still want to be valued and respected. Iâve had this combo. Itâs amazing and totally possible.
Every woman is different but generally being open and eager about what she likes will help her open up. Not on a way that puts her on the spot, but voicing and showing how much you enjoy the noses she makes or how she looks when youâre going down on her or having sex will help her feel more confident in enjoying herself and being vocal about her wants and needs. Donât fake enjoying something, but when you do enjoy it just make it known somehow, either during or after depending on the timing of things an orgasm isnât ruined.
Unfortunately some ppl r just assholes and canât take rejection, yes it sucks but rejection is a part of life she needs to learn that she canât just be a bitch whenever she is rejected Itâs her not u, Iâm sorry u had to experience this
Touch your nipples he most likely will find it hot You probably put yourself under pressure with thinking you need to come fast. A trick I use to get that pressure out of my head: I think that I am in charge/the dom/he is my sub/he has to obey or any other intensity of this. I think it doesn't matter how long I take, he has to go down until I finish. (I myself aint the dominant type normally) I just think this. I don't say it out loud (most of the time) but it helps me getting in the right mindset I fantasize a lot when I feel like I take too long. (Mostly with him in a staring role) My clit personally gets very easily overstimulated. When he uses fingers in side me that helps and when je does that I can switch my focus from his fingers to his tongue. That mostly helps. I'm honest with my partner when I think I can't come so fast. He mostly continues anyway (and actually is motivated to get me finsihed) but after I said that all pressure to come fast is gone because I told him he can stop and whatever he does now is his own choice
From a woman here: a tip for giving oral, you can start out with the mouth only, but as you progress itâs best accompanied by 2 fingers. You can slowly move them in and out (not all the way out) or you can place your fingers inside with your fingertips facing the ceiling and do a âcome hereâ motion with your fingers.
“Coomer” isn't a term people use outside of the Internet. You sound like a normal person stuck in a repressive environment. It sucks, and I'm sorry you're there. But you're not doing anything wrong. I sadly don't have any advice for how to safely find partners when you live in such a repressed place. Good luck to you.
It sounds like you are doing the right thing by choosing someone who will probably stick around. You might find it a bigger deal, or not, afterward. Having someone willing to stick around might make a difference. I've never been a good communicator either. I realized a few years ago that we all have an obligation to communicate as effectively as possible. How you tell him is not as big a deal as just letting him know. Learning to communicate if a life skill you won't regret.
I always come back to this one too!
Pissing in the answer. I didn't piss and got epidimitis. Basically the cords in my balls got infected and my right nut swelled to base ball size. Very painful.
If your wife already has experience with squirting, then just ask her. Sheâd probably know best.
I love foreplay . It helps both side honestly
Is this a thing with a new partner? Some guys might have a hard time staying erect, and I don't think it was your fault. He might have been extremely nervous tbh
Because it's fun. For some people, the foreplay is the point and the orgasm is more of a bonus.
Have a massive shit, shower and lube. In that order.
In San Francisco there's the Power Exchange. Single females get in for free. Single males have to pay a higher fee than couples https://www.powerexchange.com
Stuff an IUD in there for good measure.
Itâs actually rather rare that individuals orgasm at the same time
But did you lie or just didnt respond.. seems like their are double standards for men and women one is a Stud the other a slut . Dont understand it. Take care
Bc youâre not supposed to ask.. try to hint at it like caress her thigh or kiss her while youâre laying in bed
There is a reason certain vegetables are compared to dicksđ
If iâm sending him a naughty picture, itâs not to get one back. I just like to bring a bit of thrill and excitement to his day. As long as you are giving her some acknowledgement and appreciation for it, i would say you are good (and sincere compliments are always very appreciated).
When you say uncle, the immediate assumpton is that you are discussing a person who is a generation older. He is only 6 years older than you, and his partner is only 4 years older than you. It is a bit odd to consider someone who is closer to being your peer, as an uncle. So if I strip the title away… You are 18, and your flat mate is having sex next to your room and it is making you uncomfortable. In response you tried to virtually “participate” in their secxual acts by masturbating to what you were hearing. I wont comment on that part, but it strikes me as a bad idea to engage with those intrusive thoughts. Re the sex… You ought to make your discomfort clear. You can make yourself heard loudly… make noise, play music etc… to ensure that they understand that you can hear and do not consent to witnessing their sex lives. Appealing to your nan is not working so you unfortunately need to assert yourself more.
Itâs very attractive being outspoken. But the men that are intimidated probably worry they wonât be able to satisfy you. Women are not usually outspoken so when they are itâs surprising. That first time might be distressing cause now he feels the pressure to leave a good impression. He might start thinking he has to âperformâ extremely well or offer things he canât.
Thank you so much for this answer I just learned something about myself.
I don't drink much, but whenever I'm really lacking sleep it makes me super horny too sometimes leading to really bad decisions
That's your body telling you to form a bond with the man you love. Remember you are hard wired to your instincts, if you had sex in the past you would get pregnant and if the guy you were with was not serious you would die. So you are hard wired to want to be with a single guy that you love, so I recommend you try a relationship with someone you love.
I have an âaverageâ size and Iâve heard this occasionally from my wife (together more than three decades). Sometimes all the feelings are overwhelming and you canât exactly figure out whatâs going on. Itâs not a criticism. Itâs a check-in.
Yeah, we do this too, but I can only touch her for 15-20 seconds before she'll explode!
Sperm lives for days so itâs most definitely possible for her to get pregnant and isnât safe at all you still need reliable birth control if having sex regardless of a woman being on her period or not
Like? Std?
big lips are meant for kissing! this guy is a douche.
Make sure you give therapy time to work if you go down that route. It's not a 1 time or 2 time thing (in fact there is no set number of times)… My wife and I have gone to therapy for around 5+ years now for various things and it saved our marriage (for sex reasons and other).. I want to say it took us at least a year or two before we really made progress. It also takes both people committed to it. If only one is it won't help Hang in there
In addition to the comments about missionary/spooning, I'd like to toss in my contribution of her sitting in your lap, facing you (on bed/in a chair/etc). Accessible for PIV or fingers, you can hug/kiss/touch all over, can look in each other's eyes… Arguably up there as one of the most intimate ones like missionary.
Yeah I do but I wasn't prepared that we'd sleep together so I didn't bring it to help during the ACT đ
I can think of 2 main categories of reasons personally : Constant rejection and lack of enthusiasm. If trying to have sex feels like I'm forcing on her that she doesn't want, yeah, I'll go back to porn. If sex becomes a negative or stressful experience rather than something fun. For example, if performance anxiety issues are there and gf gets visibly upset or frustrated, adding to anxiety levels and crushing self confidence.
Just try anything that seems best for you him seeing you trying and struggling would more than likely turn him on.
Sounds like he is the one who needs more practice tbh
It makes complete sense that you're bad at blowjobs because you're EIGHTEEN FREAKIN' YEARS OLD! I mean, I know y'all are young and all but Jesus H.W. Christ, tell your boyfriend to stop being a little turd. I think even at 18 I would've been able to see that I was being an ass like that. God damn it, to be 18 again and for my worries to be being bad at blowjobs. Man y'all don't know how good y'all got it! Stay with your parents for as long as you can cause the cost of living is higher than Willie Nelson and Snoop Dogg at Woodstock. Do they even still hold Woodstock? I don't know, but damn it that has to count for somethin' 'cause we were a team.
It makes complete sense that you're bad at blowjobs because you're EIGHTEEN FREAKIN' YEARS OLD! I mean, I know y'all are young and all but Jesus H.W. Christ, tell your boyfriend to stop being a little turd. I think even at 18 I would've been able to see that I was being an ass like that. God damn it, to be 18 again and for my worries to be being bad at blowjobs. Man y'all don't know how good y'all got it! Stay with your parents for as long as you can cause the cost of living is higher than Willie Nelson and Snoop Dogg at Woodstock. Do they even still hold Woodstock? I don't know, but damn it that has to count for somethin' 'cause we were a team.
No reason for others to downvote your comment, diet 100% contributes to the taste. I've had LOTS that I loved and 2 guys that I'll only always remember because of how they tasted. To the point it actually made me almost throw up. If a person (even women) has a really bad diet, smokes, etc, it WILL affect the taste.
well that sucks
Nice
Doesnât sound like a nice person, only cares about himself, youâre better than that, youâve done nothing wrong, đ©!!
PS. I hate when ppl on these threads get bitchy about ppl not going to the doctor right away. đ It comes off as dismissive and arrogant. Sometimes ppl generally arenât sure if something is an emergency or they feel embarrassed. So they ask questions online first to get some support. Also, not everyone has access to healthcare and going to the ER and ending up with a huge bill only to be told âyouâll be fine in a few days, take some advil.â, can be financially devastating for some. She might also be very young and still under parents insurance. Under 25 I believe still qualify. Might face real shame as a woman for even having a sexual encounter based on cultural factors. Even cut off financially or physically abused. If you can just âgo to the doctor or ERâ for anything without a second thought to finance and social consequenceâ-congrats. But many cannot.
Same. Female here and I want to be used for your pleasure and owned. But I still want to be valued and respected. Iâve had this combo. Itâs amazing and totally possible.
I was thinking about this. Maybe do a 69 position to finish him off. Just an idea.
I answered in a different comment – I work at a sex shop. Just bc I don't consume porn recreationally doesn't magically mean I don't know the subject.
Every woman is different but generally being open and eager about what she likes will help her open up. Not on a way that puts her on the spot, but voicing and showing how much you enjoy the noses she makes or how she looks when youâre going down on her or having sex will help her feel more confident in enjoying herself and being vocal about her wants and needs. Donât fake enjoying something, but when you do enjoy it just make it known somehow, either during or after depending on the timing of things an orgasm isnât ruined.
Unfortunately some ppl r just assholes and canât take rejection, yes it sucks but rejection is a part of life she needs to learn that she canât just be a bitch whenever she is rejected Itâs her not u, Iâm sorry u had to experience this
I've watched it 6 times through and through and even I didn't exactly remember what happened, had to open up Netflix and check it out.
Usually, toilet paper which sticks and gets fucking everywhere and is then painful to peel off. I do not recommend.
Touch your nipples he most likely will find it hot You probably put yourself under pressure with thinking you need to come fast. A trick I use to get that pressure out of my head: I think that I am in charge/the dom/he is my sub/he has to obey or any other intensity of this. I think it doesn't matter how long I take, he has to go down until I finish. (I myself aint the dominant type normally) I just think this. I don't say it out loud (most of the time) but it helps me getting in the right mindset I fantasize a lot when I feel like I take too long. (Mostly with him in a staring role) My clit personally gets very easily overstimulated. When he uses fingers in side me that helps and when je does that I can switch my focus from his fingers to his tongue. That mostly helps. I'm honest with my partner when I think I can't come so fast. He mostly continues anyway (and actually is motivated to get me finsihed) but after I said that all pressure to come fast is gone because I told him he can stop and whatever he does now is his own choice
From a woman here: a tip for giving oral, you can start out with the mouth only, but as you progress itâs best accompanied by 2 fingers. You can slowly move them in and out (not all the way out) or you can place your fingers inside with your fingertips facing the ceiling and do a âcome hereâ motion with your fingers.
I didn't assume anything. I specifically used the words “possibly” and “maybe”.
RUN FORREST RUN
I don't think you really understand the question. I said he answered when I called him to make sure he got my package.
“Coomer” isn't a term people use outside of the Internet. You sound like a normal person stuck in a repressive environment. It sucks, and I'm sorry you're there. But you're not doing anything wrong. I sadly don't have any advice for how to safely find partners when you live in such a repressed place. Good luck to you.
Can you prove it is you?
It sounds like you are doing the right thing by choosing someone who will probably stick around. You might find it a bigger deal, or not, afterward. Having someone willing to stick around might make a difference. I've never been a good communicator either. I realized a few years ago that we all have an obligation to communicate as effectively as possible. How you tell him is not as big a deal as just letting him know. Learning to communicate if a life skill you won't regret.
I feel like it's just the older generations that dislike it but idk
Pure refined coconut oil, from loads of places, or Foria oil which contains both coconut oil and CBD (which I buy online)