Well here is the thing. Sexual preferences can change. But you can't force it. It's not something you can just flip a switch on. Part of relationships is that it can take time to get close and feel “in love”. Same can happen with attraction. There is more to sex than the visual appeal. Dirty talk, foreplay, even certain fetish's. If you are conditioned by porn too much then you might struggle with other partners too.
You talk to them outside of the bedroom. Keep it fun and casual. Start by sharing your own likes and desires. “Remember that time we did this…” “I really like when you do this…” “I’ve always been curious about this…” Then ask what you do that they like or don’t. Do they have any fantasies? Is there anything they’d like to try? Again do it outside of the bedroom, when you’re not having sex. That way there’s no pressure to do anything in the moment. You can discuss it.
Well here is the thing. Sexual preferences can change. But you can't force it. It's not something you can just flip a switch on. Part of relationships is that it can take time to get close and feel “in love”. Same can happen with attraction. There is more to sex than the visual appeal. Dirty talk, foreplay, even certain fetish's. If you are conditioned by porn too much then you might struggle with other partners too.
You talk to them outside of the bedroom. Keep it fun and casual. Start by sharing your own likes and desires. “Remember that time we did this…” “I really like when you do this…” “I’ve always been curious about this…” Then ask what you do that they like or don’t. Do they have any fantasies? Is there anything they’d like to try? Again do it outside of the bedroom, when you’re not having sex. That way there’s no pressure to do anything in the moment. You can discuss it.