It is something he needs to deal with and get through but it is very normal for guys to be like this. But ultimately it is impossible to be addicted to a person it is more the idea of that person in our own heads we get addicted to.
The fastest ways to kill anyoneâs sex drive is entitlement and lack of appreciation. Seriously, there are men who would kiss the ground you walk on for the amount you do for this loser. You get one sided sex, constantly coerced into giving bjs day and night, and get shit on if you donât comply to his needs or wants. He interrupts your sleep schedule and disrupts your study time. He treats you like a sex doll than his actual girlfriend. Heâs the most loving, sweetest and gentlest man as long as you donât defy him. The moment you try to stand your ground and have boundaries, youâre facing a man you donât recognize at all. This is a man who is not supportive of your goals and disregards your wants and needs. You do not want to marry this man or have children with him. What youâre experiencing will become worse if you enter a marriage and parenthood with him.
And I agree. I even said that I'm not at all proud of having thought that. However, my thought process at the time was literally the opposite of ego – it was a combo of actually thinking myself as inadequate sexually (the opposite of ego, I would say) and having heard horror stories from friends and older family members who had stayed in severely unsatisfying relationships/marriages all the while wishing that they didn't have to ever have sex because it never felt good for them and made them resent their partners any time they made any kind of advance. I didn't want my wife to resent me for anything, even if it meant letting her go to find a better sexual partner than me.
This is a good point. Another thing to point out and try /u/waitingforkit is to have designated ear rings, rings, socks, whatever you want that are 'concent' accessories. In a freeuse or cnc kink relationship the couple will have something they put on that shows they're concenting and open to 'being used' or whatever it is. So you can talk to her and if she gets wasted she can put her ring on a specific finger, or put on the green ear rings, etc etc. Then you don't have to wonder if she's concenting or is unable to concent due to being too inebriated at that point in time.
Omg, this is trash and body count is trash and your bf is trash.
Been there. Such a sucky feeling.
if you're in a big city feeld. otherwise set bumble to “something casual”
It is something he needs to deal with and get through but it is very normal for guys to be like this. But ultimately it is impossible to be addicted to a person it is more the idea of that person in our own heads we get addicted to.
I also second âbypassingâ the tongue but that wonât work if she has a strong gag reflex because it requires you to go quite deep.
The fastest ways to kill anyoneâs sex drive is entitlement and lack of appreciation. Seriously, there are men who would kiss the ground you walk on for the amount you do for this loser. You get one sided sex, constantly coerced into giving bjs day and night, and get shit on if you donât comply to his needs or wants. He interrupts your sleep schedule and disrupts your study time. He treats you like a sex doll than his actual girlfriend. Heâs the most loving, sweetest and gentlest man as long as you donât defy him. The moment you try to stand your ground and have boundaries, youâre facing a man you donât recognize at all. This is a man who is not supportive of your goals and disregards your wants and needs. You do not want to marry this man or have children with him. What youâre experiencing will become worse if you enter a marriage and parenthood with him.
And I agree. I even said that I'm not at all proud of having thought that. However, my thought process at the time was literally the opposite of ego – it was a combo of actually thinking myself as inadequate sexually (the opposite of ego, I would say) and having heard horror stories from friends and older family members who had stayed in severely unsatisfying relationships/marriages all the while wishing that they didn't have to ever have sex because it never felt good for them and made them resent their partners any time they made any kind of advance. I didn't want my wife to resent me for anything, even if it meant letting her go to find a better sexual partner than me.
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This is a good point. Another thing to point out and try /u/waitingforkit is to have designated ear rings, rings, socks, whatever you want that are 'concent' accessories. In a freeuse or cnc kink relationship the couple will have something they put on that shows they're concenting and open to 'being used' or whatever it is. So you can talk to her and if she gets wasted she can put her ring on a specific finger, or put on the green ear rings, etc etc. Then you don't have to wonder if she's concenting or is unable to concent due to being too inebriated at that point in time.
No medications, smoke weed and drink the occasional beer.
My wife promised me anal after marriage, 5 years past marriage no anal.