Attempting to publicly humiliate someone is bullying Did OP's ex do that? To my reading he didn't; he showed photos around and talked about his ex. We don't know that he said anything humiliatingly, or disrespectful or untrue. If he did, there's a valid case of libel and slander somewhere in there. He might have said something like “look at this hot chick, I goy oy enjoy her perky tits for 4 years” – which may be uncomfortable to OP, but doesn't qualify as an attempt at humiliation by any stretch of yhe imagination. Maybe you grew up coddled thinking that you can do whatever abusive behaviour to other people and you wouldn’t be punished if it didn’t break the law but that’s not how the world works. The “facts” are that schools have a code of conduct and this behaviour likely broke their school rules. I actually grew up in a police state (a real police state, with a dictator n stuff). What I leaned is that adherence to rules – and laws for that matter, being just different types of ruled – is going to be ablut just as useful to society at large as the rules are useful and sensible. Otherwise, one way or the other, nobody cares.
I agree it’s enjoyable on its own, and shouldn’t be done with the expectation of receiving. However I’ve had partners that love giving as much as I do, and you have to admit being with someone who enjoys it too (if you enjoy receiving that is) make a difference. You
I may have the unpopular opinion here but I don’t think she’s completely in the wrong but she does need to communicate further. I don’t think it’s necessarily a guessing game. This can actually be a kink for many men/women but IT DOES require communication. A very light CNC if you will. You can ask her if she often feels like she wants her “no” to be ignored or if she’s rather you take the “no” immediately for what it is. What many couples do is create a safe word. Unfortunately, having your no ignored can be a turn on for many women for multiple reasons. Talk to her about it if she’s doing this often and create a SAFE WORD for in the event that she seriously does not want you to touch her in a sexual way. Instead of saying no she may say no and the safe word or just the safe words. Safe words are an IMMEDIATE no or stop. You did the right thing FOR SURE by taking her no seriously. This needs to be communicated further.
You need to sever the relationship. If you can't be your true self around someone, then the relationship is not healthy. It will eventually come to a head, so save yourself the grief and go be yourself. You'll be a lot happier if you do.
Guy here – deal-breaker for me, and I wouldn't blame a woman who felt the same way. No judgment on the person specifically, just sexually incompatible. Additionally, if I was dating a woman who did not enjoy getting oral sex it would be an incompatibility issue, though I could potentially deal with it. A question for folks here What if a guy is willing to give oral but with caveats – eg not after finishing inside, not after piv, not after periods (a few days or a week), only if trimmed/shaved, or only after a shower?
It's all a matter of opinion! Virginity is a made up thing to take control away from women's bodies. Turning a very personal thing into something that a man is included in. You using a dildo is for self pleasure and has nothing to do with a man and everything to do with you and your needs. Tell him so he knows you're working towards a better self-awareness that he will benefit from as well!
I seriously doubt it's as bad as Jan and Michael. That was the most toxic shit ever. Unless she's having you get multiple vasectomies, I'd say you just keep trying to set some boundaries and fight the urges, or just get a new job and see if the sex is the same without the taboo. You already know the risks, and leaving a retail job is not as scary as a bigger career that you've built through blood, sweat, and tears. She knows the risks of losing her job too and she hasn't shown any signs of abusing her position so the stakes here aren't as high. The choice is yours.
Make sure you are getting her aroused and use lube. Some poeple just don't produce enough natural lube, and penetration is difficult if her body isn't ready. I also strongly recommend her seeing the doctor, could be something as simple as an infection, by only a doctor would know.
dont confront him…. he can be ashamed why? because many men still think its weird, and gay to do stuff like that, you say he doesnt want to be the receiver.. is not manly enough at his opinion to be the receiver… Maybe you could try to get the topic started in a different way.. Many men would still fantasize about doing that stuff with someone else..
It doesn’t make me hornier but it doesn’t prevent me either. I know I can get a little loud and I know some of my hook ups roommates etc have heard us. It is what it is.
I've never had it so I can't say much haha. Maybe I prefer it with a condom on. I genuinely have no idea! I know I made a blunder by bringing you up her fluids and conversation. While she didn't take too much offense, I see how that would negatively impact our relationship. I didn't prepare myself and kind of just started talking. I come from a very tidy and organized house and I pride myself on my cleanliness and hygiene so I hope maybe I can emphasize that more to her.
What a beautiful experience and relationship!❤️❤️❤️ My (F) partner (M) hasn’t cried in my arms after sex but I would welcome it. He does let me snuggle him up and love on him and treat him like the precious cherished boy he is. I am honored he trusts me enough to be vulnerable with me. And I love that I’m a safe space for him.
Just remember that you've got a lot of discovery ahead of you and you can take your time figuring things out. Don't expect everything to be great the first time either. There's matters of acclimation and skill development. How many things do you expect to be great at when you first start doing them, after all.
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No, in most instances. Some guys lose their hard-on with condom during piv. Most guys don't like 'em & they're thinking with their little head in the moment. Don't let them change your mind. You're much more at risk than they are. Do make 'em aware long b4 sex, you're needs.
Legitimately, what is in it for her? Is sex an enjoyable and pleasurable experience for her, or are you honking her boobs and getting annoyed that didn’t lead to more?
This is honestly one of my biggest fears. I need to feel desired to feel loved and wanted. Having a child is already difficult, but then almost feeling punished for the inevitable changes that happen to your body sucks. I'm super concerned with who I have children with for many reasons, and this is one. I need them to still have the capacity to want me after. Sorry this happened to you!
This isn't just some inconvenience he's enjoying hurting her. Its sick.
Attempting to publicly humiliate someone is bullying Did OP's ex do that? To my reading he didn't; he showed photos around and talked about his ex. We don't know that he said anything humiliatingly, or disrespectful or untrue. If he did, there's a valid case of libel and slander somewhere in there. He might have said something like “look at this hot chick, I goy oy enjoy her perky tits for 4 years” – which may be uncomfortable to OP, but doesn't qualify as an attempt at humiliation by any stretch of yhe imagination. Maybe you grew up coddled thinking that you can do whatever abusive behaviour to other people and you wouldn’t be punished if it didn’t break the law but that’s not how the world works. The “facts” are that schools have a code of conduct and this behaviour likely broke their school rules. I actually grew up in a police state (a real police state, with a dictator n stuff). What I leaned is that adherence to rules – and laws for that matter, being just different types of ruled – is going to be ablut just as useful to society at large as the rules are useful and sensible. Otherwise, one way or the other, nobody cares.
I agree it’s enjoyable on its own, and shouldn’t be done with the expectation of receiving. However I’ve had partners that love giving as much as I do, and you have to admit being with someone who enjoys it too (if you enjoy receiving that is) make a difference. You
I may have the unpopular opinion here but I don’t think she’s completely in the wrong but she does need to communicate further. I don’t think it’s necessarily a guessing game. This can actually be a kink for many men/women but IT DOES require communication. A very light CNC if you will. You can ask her if she often feels like she wants her “no” to be ignored or if she’s rather you take the “no” immediately for what it is. What many couples do is create a safe word. Unfortunately, having your no ignored can be a turn on for many women for multiple reasons. Talk to her about it if she’s doing this often and create a SAFE WORD for in the event that she seriously does not want you to touch her in a sexual way. Instead of saying no she may say no and the safe word or just the safe words. Safe words are an IMMEDIATE no or stop. You did the right thing FOR SURE by taking her no seriously. This needs to be communicated further.
You need to sever the relationship. If you can't be your true self around someone, then the relationship is not healthy. It will eventually come to a head, so save yourself the grief and go be yourself. You'll be a lot happier if you do.
Guy here – deal-breaker for me, and I wouldn't blame a woman who felt the same way. No judgment on the person specifically, just sexually incompatible. Additionally, if I was dating a woman who did not enjoy getting oral sex it would be an incompatibility issue, though I could potentially deal with it. A question for folks here What if a guy is willing to give oral but with caveats – eg not after finishing inside, not after piv, not after periods (a few days or a week), only if trimmed/shaved, or only after a shower?
Nope, don’t talk about it at all. What I do with my partner is our business.
Yeah what they said. Cultivate absolute trust first. Otherwise it won’t be good for either of you
with a previous partner who was taller, doggy worked fine cuz he could just spread his legs wider to bring his pelvis lower
It's all a matter of opinion! Virginity is a made up thing to take control away from women's bodies. Turning a very personal thing into something that a man is included in. You using a dildo is for self pleasure and has nothing to do with a man and everything to do with you and your needs. Tell him so he knows you're working towards a better self-awareness that he will benefit from as well!
Come as you are….. What is that? A book?
Thanks, I appreciate it
I seriously doubt it's as bad as Jan and Michael. That was the most toxic shit ever. Unless she's having you get multiple vasectomies, I'd say you just keep trying to set some boundaries and fight the urges, or just get a new job and see if the sex is the same without the taboo. You already know the risks, and leaving a retail job is not as scary as a bigger career that you've built through blood, sweat, and tears. She knows the risks of losing her job too and she hasn't shown any signs of abusing her position so the stakes here aren't as high. The choice is yours.
Make sure you are getting her aroused and use lube. Some poeple just don't produce enough natural lube, and penetration is difficult if her body isn't ready. I also strongly recommend her seeing the doctor, could be something as simple as an infection, by only a doctor would know.
dont confront him…. he can be ashamed why? because many men still think its weird, and gay to do stuff like that, you say he doesnt want to be the receiver.. is not manly enough at his opinion to be the receiver… Maybe you could try to get the topic started in a different way.. Many men would still fantasize about doing that stuff with someone else..
My wife loves her Lelo Sona 2. It’s a clit sucker and it gets her off like magic
ohh i am a very visual type haha, like seeing the girl from behind in doggy and…
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No, that’s not normal. Thank your lucky stars he showed his colours early, this man does not value women at all.
It doesn’t make me hornier but it doesn’t prevent me either. I know I can get a little loud and I know some of my hook ups roommates etc have heard us. It is what it is.
I've never had it so I can't say much haha. Maybe I prefer it with a condom on. I genuinely have no idea! I know I made a blunder by bringing you up her fluids and conversation. While she didn't take too much offense, I see how that would negatively impact our relationship. I didn't prepare myself and kind of just started talking. I come from a very tidy and organized house and I pride myself on my cleanliness and hygiene so I hope maybe I can emphasize that more to her.
What a beautiful experience and relationship!❤️❤️❤️ My (F) partner (M) hasn’t cried in my arms after sex but I would welcome it. He does let me snuggle him up and love on him and treat him like the precious cherished boy he is. I am honored he trusts me enough to be vulnerable with me. And I love that I’m a safe space for him.
Just remember that you've got a lot of discovery ahead of you and you can take your time figuring things out. Don't expect everything to be great the first time either. There's matters of acclimation and skill development. How many things do you expect to be great at when you first start doing them, after all.
đź’Ż Always personalize it.
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No, in most instances. Some guys lose their hard-on with condom during piv. Most guys don't like 'em & they're thinking with their little head in the moment. Don't let them change your mind. You're much more at risk than they are. Do make 'em aware long b4 sex, you're needs.
Legitimately, what is in it for her? Is sex an enjoyable and pleasurable experience for her, or are you honking her boobs and getting annoyed that didn’t lead to more?
This is honestly one of my biggest fears. I need to feel desired to feel loved and wanted. Having a child is already difficult, but then almost feeling punished for the inevitable changes that happen to your body sucks. I'm super concerned with who I have children with for many reasons, and this is one. I need them to still have the capacity to want me after. Sorry this happened to you!