I wore condoms for years, because my wife's birth control messed with her libido too much. I didn't love it, but I loved it more than having zero sex – but I will admit that they got old after a while. I didn't ever get to a point where I would stop having sex with a condom on, but I definitely found myself struggling to finish towards the end of my condom stint.
It's common. Do your best to not take it personal. Maybe mix up your finale. Whisper dirty things to him. Tell him to close his eyes and let you do the work. Etc.
You are not the asshole. But what you don't understand is that you have hit the sexual jackpot with this woman. If you follow her lead, you will discover a new world (swinging) and have tons of fun, play with hundreds of women. Or, you can remain you boring self, and she will leave you, or cheat on you, or both Go to r/swingers for advice.
I wore condoms for years, because my wife's birth control messed with her libido too much. I didn't love it, but I loved it more than having zero sex – but I will admit that they got old after a while. I didn't ever get to a point where I would stop having sex with a condom on, but I definitely found myself struggling to finish towards the end of my condom stint.
It's common. Do your best to not take it personal. Maybe mix up your finale. Whisper dirty things to him. Tell him to close his eyes and let you do the work. Etc.
You are not the asshole. But what you don't understand is that you have hit the sexual jackpot with this woman. If you follow her lead, you will discover a new world (swinging) and have tons of fun, play with hundreds of women. Or, you can remain you boring self, and she will leave you, or cheat on you, or both Go to r/swingers for advice.
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We have done it a bunch in the past, but know we combine it with shower sex so things are on auto-clean.
Slapping and choking is not “how sex is”, unless you've specifically said you want to do that. He learned that from porn and porn is not real.