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I believe you when you say you enjoy it. I meant if I were in her place that would be how I feel. If my partner told me they don’t get aroused from non-oral sex but then they reassure me that they enjoy non-oral sex because I’m into it that would give me mixed messages and cause confusion. That might be what your girlfriend is experiencing. She might be feeling hurt because she’s not sure what to believe since you’re saying it doesn’t give you pleasure but it does. Confusion can also lead to questioning (e.g. your partner is probably wondering why she doesn’t bring you pleasure in other ways, and if that’s the case, that will be extremely destructive to her self-esteem which will most likely lead to resentment later on). My advise to you is to try to look for things in non-oral sex that you enjoy besides your partner enjoying it. The key is for you to enjoy it too because if the only reason you like it is because your partner likes it then that can sting quite a bit. My partner is like that when it comes to giving oral. Even though he enjoys giving me oral because I like it that’s the only reason he enjoys it. It breaks my heart knowing that’s the one and only reason, the reason being my pleasure, not him. I want it to be just as much about him as it is me. That might be another thing your girlfriend is thinking. I hope this helps.
For quicker sessions, I’ve found it nearly impossible. In fact, for most of my sex life (43M) I’ve never been able to, even in my younger days. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve found that I enjoy longer sessions, and I can fairly easily cum twice, sometimes 3-4 times. Usually this involves 20-30 minutes of pleasuring my partner with oral, fingers, toys, having them sit in my face, etc, before going to PIV. I usually will cum within a few min once starting PIV sex, then after about one minute I make it my goal to make my partner cum through PIV. Usually if I can get them to cum again, then I’m not far behind. Rinse and repeat. Basically, as I’ve gotten older, putting my sexual energy focused on pleasuring my partner first, I’ve been able to extend sessions and cum multiple times fairly easily. It may sound counterintuitive, but don’t put a lot of effort and focus into cumming multiple times. Focus on your partners pleasure and the rest will follow in my experience.
Bit of a conundrum, because there's no easy way to bring this up without your lady getting offended /taking it personally. But let me just say this. Thanks to perpetual bombardment from advertising by cosmetics companies, clothing companies and pop culture in general, women are generally very aware of how their bodies look. Your partner is well aware that she's gained weight, and likely feels less good about herself as a result. So, ultimately, if your subtle hints aren't enough to make her proactively change her lifestyle accordingly, then she probably isn't going to do anything about her weight. People need to want to do these things themselves, and when partners pressure their S.O into losing weight when the S.O hasn't made that decision yet in their own mind, it doesn't tend to end well. Tbh, This is a common issue with long term relationships these days. Much of it stems from this false notion that your partner will just remain perpetually attracted to you regardless of how much your looks and behaviour changes from when you first got attracted to them. In an ideal world, people would make conscious effort to maintain their appearance / body in a manner that they know is appealing to their partner (health issues notwithstanding, obviously). But in reality, life can get in the way, alongside misconceptions of “he/she should find me attractive no matter what!” Put it this way. I keep up an active gym routine, including weightlifting, swimming and running (alongside boxing and rock climbing) to ensure I am in shape and lean (which my current partner prefers), and also fit from a cardiovascular perspective (beneficial for the bedroom!). Obviously these things I do for myself as well, but make no mistake, making sure I'm the type of man that can make my gf weak at the knees, is a significant motivator.
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Already seen the that's not a bf then comment but u tried. People are all different. Some people dont like oral and some don't like sex at all. People are just different and to say someone needs to change or do things the way u think is normal is bullshit. Either love them for who they are or move on. As u said there needs to be open and honest conversation. 75% of these posts could be avoided if people would just talk to the other person. Explain ur position and let them explain theirs. If u can meet in the middle or accept that they might not meet u in the middle and ur ok with that then ur golden. But if u can't then it's time to find the person who more suits u.
I wish I could upvote this twice because their sarcasm is right, OP. You really need to look within to your inner self and evaluate your warped-perceptions, in regards to what an average partner wants, from their lover. Good luck!
I’ve always asked ALLLLLL the time. It’s the best way to get things exactly right for your partner. This girl I’ve been seeing is rather difficult to read. I’ve been asking her to be vocal, tell me what you like. I ask is this good, what do you like, how do you like it, etc. she says she’s shy and can’t/won’t answer me. It’s driving me crazy.
From what you've written, it seems you've personalised this to an unhealthy degree, and only see yourself as a 25 year old virgin. Life isn't that 1 dimensional, and if you're struggling to think about the opposite sex in a healthy way you definitely need therapy.
Please help me here
As men we really don't care morning wood is the best wood and it's just don't factor in we understand now pretty boy's may have a different opinion but real men understand get it when you can .
He isn’t asleep leave immediately and report it to the police!
Maybe. But I’m worth more than that. I have enough self confidence, I hope.
Heads up OP, there is no test for HSV unless there is an actual outbreak.
Well at least I’ve got the last part down, as for the pressure and pacing, I may just ask my partner for some detailed feedback (outside of sexy time to avoid killing the mood) cause I’m always looking to improve
He probably wanted her to give him a blowjob “to prove him wrong”.
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Definitely have a conversation about it because it could be one (or more) of many things. Stress, medications inducing low-libido, porn addiction, lack of sexual experience, low testosterone, or possibly he’s not very attracted to you. He could also just be a more sexually passive person, or naturally low libido, in which case sexual compatibility becomes something to consider. You’ll never know until you talk about it.
Please run from assholes like that guy. He does not represent real men.
It is. And this was. He was basically saying, you are beautiful and I'd love for you to prove to me you give great blow jobs, and are the exception to the rule. It has enough of a hint or truth, that she might just take offense not at the statement, but that he would think it applied to her. Because she is the exception.
This is up there with the “I've never finished from a blowjob before” people use to try at partys in their early 2ps
It depends on how you're being stimulated
okay it's time to seek out a sex therapist, with professional psychology training and all that… everything you're saying ain't healthy OR normal :grimacing:
That’s untrue, I’m pretty and I give bomb head 😪 my boyfriend refers to me as a succubus from time to time.
Time. I still have trouble being in public with someone of the opposite gender. I live on the other side of the country from my ex. It's tough, but time will heal it.
Yeah you know some people who are into that?
True in.my experience
Which one? And how is it setup?
No, you’re all good.
I would say this dickheads too stupid to keep his mouth shut and move on, nothing to suck here. This one sucks without any assistance
Well there you go. She can.
YES, I DO. ahahah The idea of my precious one to get broke always scares me. A few times has happened that, even during doggy, we get the wrong rhythm and i push it hard on her glutes, it hurts only a bit but scares me so much that i have to stop and it get soft for the anxiety. She never rides me as we both feel nothing but, the few times we tried (and also with other positions we actually do) i always control the movement of her body with my hands, so I'm always in control of the situation. By lifting her up and down with your hands, you'll always be able to prevent problems; it also helps her to don't fatigue too much and you can decide the speed
It sounds tedious. Like won't i get tired? And do i have to go up and down too? Like is that good?
I hope you can find it even a shred helpful! It's a great starting off point even if it doesn't have all the answers. It breaks down the science in a way that is easy to understand and apply to your life.
Need flash: Your best friend is the BEST person to have sex with.
She didn’t “set a boundary”. “I don’t do anything during sex except lay there motionless and bark criticism and if you ask me to interact during sex I’ll call you rapey” is not a boundary Y’all learn a word one time and run with it….
If you told the first girl to blow you she was the best you ever had you couldn’t have been lying
She sounds very anxious. The idea that someone lying there unresponsive is a lazy lover who’s fully enjoying themselves and just too selfish to give back is a common misunderstanding – more often, when people are acting like this, they’re actually trying to white-knuckle through something they’re not enjoying. I’m not saying that your sexual skills are bad, there could be a lot of reasons that sex makes her feel bad (past experience, body insecurity, performance anxiety, etc), but she clearly is very anxious about pleasing you and also scared about sex and touch that hurts her. Yes, blurting out criticism is not a gentle communication strategy, but if you’re touching her in a way that hurts her, I don’t think it’s unfair of her to prioritize getting you to stop quickly rather than gently and slowly correcting you. If you see the situation from this perspective, does that help you understand why your conversation with her went so badly?
Sounds too much. I’d leave him. “You weren’t arguing so I figured it was fine”
What are your conversations about sex like? Does he have issues talking about it?
go see a urologist Get your hormones checked Have your blood sugar checked Have your hemoglobin checked Rule out any medical issues first, then Viagra or Cialis may help, but get everything else checked first.
I am actually I'm just waiting for current health insurance to kick in. I haven't had therapy since like high school.
Find a partner who will, with your consent, force you to go down on them after.
I have never excused myself for cheating. That is 100% my fault. I put our relationship in this hole. I understand that. What I'm saying is shouldn't take 2 to put in the same amount of effort to make it work. If I'm doing everything to rewrite my wrongs shouldn't she decide if she can move on and either break ot up or actually start trying?
Gee! You’re really smart aren’t you…?
Stop using “I am an addict” to justify your behavior or to support your expectations. Every time you say that as part of why you deserve sex it makes you look worse. Yes, healthy relationships have sex incorporated, but it happens because the two partners desire it not because one partner owes it to the other. You keep saying “I'm an addict” like it matters, it doesn't. You aren't entitled to sex. Being an “addict” means your desires result in actions that are detrimental to your life (that's basically what differentiates addiction from libido) and you need to get that addiction under control rather than using it to justify your expectations.
Is it a sin to watch porn?
Over one third of vegetarians will eat meat when drunk. Even if it runs counter to your values or preferences, these are very powerful drives.
Absolute incel response right here. Stop trying to coerce her into fucking someone she doesn’t want to. This reply wreaks of insecurity and incel shit
I'll be honest, if it was me I wouldn't be worried about. Specifically because you are in a sexual relationship already, he was drunk too, and you were actively participating. Whether you believe that he didn't purposely have sex with you and maybe did it in his sleep is up to you to decide, based on whether he's generally a truthful person. If he has any history of sleepwalking or sleep sex then it makes it much more likely. But if you initiated while he was asleep he might not have fully woken up for it. It is going to be important for both of you to talk about how you feel, because regardless of whether anyone did anything wrong there are a lot of feelings involved. And you'll want to take precautions to avoid having anything similar happen in the future.
how am i leading him on ? you think i removed my pants like that ? no he asked me. i also removed my top cause he asked him. the whole time he was the one initiating.
You pretend to suck a golf ball through a garden hose! I like when my girl uses her hands to play with my balls/taint/booty while she is using her mouth on my penis.
Keep the lights off and let it go. Don't go there.
Is he doing the porn thing where he only touches it with his tongue? If he is, ask him to get his whole face in there
Is it illegal, assuming the photo of her is of legal age? No. Should you have found photos of someone else to masturbate to, who aren't literally of a barely-adult person who is friends with your daughter? Yes. What is your wife thinking now? That you will be attracted to friends of your daughter. This may sound cliche, but therapy is probably your best bet at this point.
It's just one week. Seems like he not asking alot
2 possibilities: she could have a “larger” vagina or she was so wet it took the friction away. i’ve had this before a few times in the past where i was so wet i couldn’t feel much & same for the guy (although it did happen w/ my ex & not my bf, who is more average sized & not thick where my bf is on the bigger side & thick). i’m betting probably she just got really wet & the friction wasn’t right.
Just get tested.
maybe take this time to try and quit?
How do I correct him? I can’t remember what my ex did differently to make it feel good, so I’m not sure what to ask for or how to ask it
I cannot imagine a single situation where it's ever okay to mock your partner's genitals. Ever. Why would you want to tear down someone who trusts you, who you are supposed to be making happier?
Obviously communication – everyone is covering that. I’ll cover the details of executing a successful threesome. Put on the hat of a host for a party. You need to have something’s readily available: vibrator (like a wand), a cockring in case you get nervous and lose your erection, water based lube, latex free condoms, bottles of water, towels, I generally have a few joints if anyone wants to partake. I usually provide a cocktail option but never let anyone get drunk — too sloppy. One couple even had a fucking fruit tray for intermission which was genius and very appreciated.
I questioned my partner how she can give me a blowjob when I’ve literally just woke up and haven’t showered yet when I’ve been all sweaty and smelly through the night. Lol
It can especially if dirty hands are involved as well as other partners are not cleaning themselves as well.
It can especially if dirty hands are involved as well as other partners are not cleaning themselves as well.
Vaping while getting head is some top G shit. Once you go top G, everything gotta stay top G.
Have you both made sure you're negative for STDs, etc? (And shared results with each other) Condoms sometimes break, so also consider letting them know when you're about to cum, so they can pull back. I hope you have fun!
Thank you 🙏. I’m so sorry to hear that you have the same problem. It’s really horrible. And you’re right, nobody really understands. I’ve missed family outings because of it and they have told things like “it can’t be that bad” and even accused me of exaggerating. It’s very painful!! I would never wish it on anyone but sometimes I just wish others would feel the pain for even just a few minutes so they could understand! It’s not “just a pimple”. My uncle had one on his bum cheek and he was screaming. Nobody took me seriously until it happened to him and he confirmed the pain. I hope you’re doing okay and that you have managed to find a way to avoid this problem. The only thing that works for me is just leaving the area alone. I hope that works for you too! I feel for you.
Nope.
Hey, as far as kinks go this is pretty tame. If it was me I would just own it. I'd say “yeah I tried it. But it wasn't for me.”
How about you just make her come and then just stop, no orgasm or anything for you. Feels weird, doesn't it? Well, that's what a quickie feels like for women. But to answer your question, yes, you are incompatible. You don't really care about her pleasure, you're just waiting for her to change so that you can stop spending so much time on making her feel good. Please let her go and find someone who actually enjoys making her feel good.
This is probably your best bet
As a 34 year old man who has spent the last 9 months getting healthy and working out a lot more, I'd say it does. It in general increases your energy so for everything is heightened–libido being one of the things. As long as you aren't being inappropriate with your newfound high sex drive, I don't see the problem though.
He’ll get over this…
Thank you! It's something we've explored in the past but we've outwardly said what we'd like to happen and I'm just wondering what I can say or do to enhance the experience. Cheers!
I feel I'd be on the opposite side of this, and lmao if it freaked or grossed out my mail person! Like, I'd reach for it as they handed it off and make eye contact. Then do the eye brow raise (three times ofc) and say, “finally”. But that's just me and I try and find the humor in awkward situations. That is ridiculous, for those who do like more discretion. Shame on Adam and Eve for knowing better and sending it out anyway.
Don't know the reason but maybe he don't wanna get bedsheets dirty
Cool, same. I didn’t mention anything about slapping asses or choking, but ya. The dude asked for suggestions. I am a woman and this is what I like. Further proof that everything is subjective and everyone is different. Consent always comes first, that should be obvious.
like left to right? while its in her mouth?
Complain about damaged mail and get a video if possibly
M here. I wish I had a vagina. Does that sound weird? 🤔 yes. Yes it does.
Thanks. The OP doesn’t seem to have much experience with women and may have seen these commonly depicted degrading behaviors in porn. Just trying to point out you don’t dehumanize women out of the blue.
You could always start with asking him why he does it and then tell him what you would like him to do and see what he has to say.
I think sex can be just as good for men, women, or non-binary persons. It just depends on a lot of different factors. Your personal experience, your chemistry with your partner, ect. As a trans woman who's had sexual experiences with mostly men, but some women, I can definitely say cuming inside of a woman is amazing. I can also say, that the multiple orgasms that women have are definitely a plus, but that people who have penises can also have multiple organisms anally. My suggestion to you, fool around, find out what you're into. You're only 18, you have all the time in the world to figure out your particular kinks and predilections. 😉
Ah sorry, I thought you heard it from multiple but that was about a positive comment. The rest still stands though. I'm Happy it helped you out!
Sex for hours, cool! Do I want to be riding that whole time? Hell no lol. My legs couldn’t do it. I’ve never timed it myself but I’d guess 15-30 mins?
So if a woman is unwilling to be “second best” to women she could never realistically compete with, then she is insecure? So would you be ok competing with men with physical appearances that you can't attain? What if she started enjoying getting off to them more than being with you? Are you insecure or is she not respecting you and the relationship?
Not at all.
Our minds are amazing thing, it can focus on something to the point, it can hurt. It can also focus on other things, and something you thought about intensely few minuites a go could just be forgotten. There is nothing productive about focusing on the past that you have no power to change. Also women and men go through phases, develop and change their sexual preference – a person may enjoyed carefree casual sex at certain point of life but it could be something she / he may never want to repeat. I recommend when you start to think about her past and start feeling insecure, simply change the focus to what you are doing at that moment and pay attention to the present.
She once confessed she's masturbated about some guy from a Netflix show. She also said his 'thing was down to his knee'
You guys need to discuss boundaries NOW. Having boundaries against porn is fine, but if you agree with porn use, then you guys are not compatible. Straight up.
exactly my thoughts
I'm sorry but the mental imagine of him clutching at his dick and scurrying away is just too funny 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Ejaculate 30 minutes prior to initiation of sex. You will be less sensitive, and able to last longer.
Does he see other women?
So it's one or more of several issues: As you suggest, he's scared of getting you pregnant, but maybe to a degree of real phobia, such as maybe he's been sipping the internet koolaid and is afraid that you'll “steal” his sperm and make yourself pregnant to trap him or some such nonsense that goes around the lonely, angry boy's subreddits. If he hasn't had many partners or relationships this is likely. Or maybe he just doesn't really understand biology and thinks that you can get pregnant by touching damp sheets and scratching your vulva and is hyper-paranoid. Another very likely possibility is he has a health or medical condition that makes some kind of issue when he ejaculates that he is embarrassed about. No idea what, but sometimes guys have issues with their foreskins, or have to be in certain positions, or has uncontrolable muscle reactions, etc. Maybe it's very limited sexual knowledge and experience. A lot of people, men and women alike, have grown up with TERRIBLE sex education, and maybe he views ejaculation as something akin to going to the bathroom and thinks if you're not making a baby then it only belongs in a toilet, that it's dirty or gross. On that note, he may be ashamed of ejaculating. He may feel that it's gross to his partner, maybe a previous partner reacted badly to him ejaculating. This is extremely common honestly, most guys pretend it doesn't bother them but it can really eat at a guy if a girl he's having sex with shrieks or goes “eww” or otherwise reacts disgusted when a man has an orgasm and it gets on her body. Some guys fall deep down a rabbit hole of over-worrying about being gross or offensive to a female partner and have spent all their time reading only women's stories about how they are grossed out by the things they see in porn and literally develop a massive amount of shame in their own sexuality. Why don't you talk to him about it. It's weird and unusual and if you want a relationship together you should probably come to a better understanding of each others sexuality and feelings.
I recommend love honey, everything was super discreet and in plain brown boxes. Super affordable too, they always have deals and sales
Most men have the “post nut clarity” as its referred to (I don't remember the scientific words for it) which brutally lowers the mental side of that sexual drive and for many men that mental drive is what is keeping it hard, so I would say it is on the more common side to lose your hard one after you finish.
This is the only answer needed. You unlocked a new level. And get ready for the fun. This is the level where she starts sucking your dick like her life depends on it. Asking for anal on a Tuesday night. And fucking more often.
I get it, but I'm just saying if he's been living there, he technically has rights to stay there until a true eviction status
Doesn’t mean he has to be with her.
Yeah I don’t think what you’re describing is a prostate orgasm
Ass to mouth is hot!
Start by giving him a handjob, and then grab his hand and say “help me out” and move it to his penis while you massage his balls and taint.
Glad you've decided to leave him, he's trying to coerce you into something that he knows will harm you for his own pleasure and that's wrong
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And tongue!
Powdered lube?
…i would not continue this relationship. co parenting sounds better
Can do lmao, we’ve been with him before so probably fine. Will update if there’s a fist fight though 🙂
Try anyway. It’s the diameter, not the length that counts when it comes to bloodflow
Sure real sex feels pleasurable but the key ingredient is tied to the other person. Intimacy/desire may be the missing ingredient. Everyone is wired differently. Masturbation is different than sex. Sometimes you just need a release – guessing that putting a dildo inside isn’t doing it for you. Maybe look for other ways to self pleasure that does not involve penetration? Good luck!
Same for me mate, unless she's playing with my junk I go soft.
It’s none of her business what he gets off on. Don’t ask questions you might not like the answer to.
If you partnered up and have an active sex life.. porn does you no favors. I truly believe that. If her clit it stimulated during sex she can climax that way. And the vagina will contract. The entirety of a mans dick is condensed in that little tiny button.
This definitely sounds like a therapy issue, look into your options for that.
You’ve been with her only 3 months and she’s pregnant and you already know you want to spend the rest of your life with her? Wow! Dude, you barely know a person 3 months into a relationship. And on top of that she acts insecure and is making unrealistic demands of you. This is a sure fire sign that you’re in for a bumpy ride ahead. That’s not a relationship I would even stay in as I would cut my losses and run. But you do you! Just isn’t healthy in the least bit! Hope you’re able to resolve it.
ive searched that… but you know, this fear. Im sure it was not much sperm, but there was in my fingers. Also it was not instantly, it was already in my fingers for a couple of minutes. I hope everything will be okay. Also ive searched about finger size and how its unlikely that the sperm wil just Travel from my fingers (3inch max) to inside her. Idk. Im afraid.
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Awesome. And IMO it's not a red flag no, I was also a super horny teen and honestly, 1x a day was probably a low estimate. So yeah, for a young guy in his late teens, early 20s, not a red flag.
Lol
It’s funny how you are supposedly the one being controlling, but yet you are the only one thinking about the needs of the other person. I don’t think you are doing a damn thing wrong.
Oh how many have asked. It's as varied as size and any other human attribute. It's also evolution and genetics driven. You've also been conditioned to think in terms of time as virility. Porn would have you think that it has to be a long long time. These guys have learned how. Ask them. Some guys can go longer because they have less sensitivity in their penis so it takes longer. Some have learned to control it. On average its only a few minutes. We evolved to be quick. 100 k years ago being distracted too long by sex got you eaten or maybe killed by a competing male. If you last long enough to make her orgasam your gold. If your quick you need to work on your foreplay game and physical condition. I don't last long but recover quick enough for two or three rounds. Women are the same. Some are quick and some require a lot of work. If your quicker than her you need to become the King of foreplay. This is the one thing where practice is not a bad word. It's the only way to figure it out. Enjoy the learning curve and stop trying to quantify it. You are what you are.
then you guys are not compatible. Straight up.
She insists on condoms, which is fine with me, but not really something I can try. I've laid off the porn and masturbation, however, so we'll see how that goes.
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Op literally said they identity as asexual. Don’t dismiss that by saying they “should still have a high sex drive.” What’s normal for one person isn’t normal for another. Saying that wasn’t helpful at all.
There shouldn't be couples therapy because they shouldn't be a couple. At least not in this context. There is basically no realistic good outcome here unless they get an abortion.
I think the biggest thing with the worship in not so much what you verbalize/say.. but also your moans, your kisses and tongue gliding, the cockplay in your hand, the smirk, the desperation in your eyes to have more and more of it. Have a make out session with it as if it’s just you and the cock, and he’s kicking back enjoying the show. Tell him how beautiful it is, how good he feels in your mouth, how yum he tastes. Edging is perfect for cock worship- and you want to do it with your seductress cape on. Devour him.
I asked her to get tested. She refuses ans says I’m clean. But I don’t wanna take a chance for sure and regret later. 😣
Adding 4 cloves of garlic will also help
This has got to be a troll post. Who does this?
This is why communication is so important when you open your relationship at all. Boundaries should’ve been set from the jump. You gotta address it now or you’re gonna be uncomfortable in your own home.
Leave. He won't keep the oral up for years, and you're basically masturbating all the time. However, if he makes a lot of money. Hang around as long as you can. Get stuff you can walk away with.
This is why I’ve never been in favour of the ideology marriage before sex. Sexual comparability is such an imperative foundation to a great relationship.
You either have lower density of receptors on the clitoral glans or you need more time for it to swell before he goes down on you. The alphabet and other nonsense taken from porn won't help. It really is about repetitive motion to allow you to focus mentally. If you feel too wet and there is no friction your partner can press harder with his tongue or remive some of the fluid.
Good luck 🙂!
It looks fuckin' sexy, don't you worry.
My wife post vaccination, has been diagnosed with sjrogrens disease, interstitial cystitis, retinal neuropathy, and has a a c5-6 disc replacement. Definitely makes me suspect it had something to do with it, but we will likely never know.
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Why not get him to make you come before you have PIV? Or make him cum before it. The second time should last longer
I don't have to ask for it 🤷.
Say whatever you want and feels good whether it’s just moaning or dirty talk. You can also tell her things that turns you on and want her to do for you. There’s no script really just go with whatever feels good in the moment
I have a 12 year old that was the result of a broken condom…. We were married and if a baby came a baby came so we didn’t do anything…
Lol
Obviously not common sense if you're the only one ruling that way. Please explain your reasoning. If rape is having sex with someone against their will, how is having sex with someone who is asleep without previously making sure it was ok not rape?
If you have to wonder it’s probably a bad idea.
Let me tell you. He was not asleep. He pretended to be asleep, but he was right there and he had plenty of time to react. Me personally, I would get awoken instantly after 5 seconds if somebody is touching me there while I sleep. I don't believe anyone saying you can sleep while somebody is stimulating you down there, penis is not like it has life by itself, it does not go erect by itself, brain is key here to feel estimulated. For your brain to realize something is happening there, it has to be awake, feeling it.
Insulting someone like this then playing the victim is really something. Are you trolling?
Yes this happens irl. It’s a lot more rare though and when it does, I don’t normally orgasm, I end up giving up.
42m here, We do foreplay, where I eat her pussy, finger her slow and hard, 2 fingers. After she cums her pussy is sensitive so we fuck while I rub her clit. We start slow and when she gets close to cumming we flip to doggy and I fuck her as hard as I can while reaching around and rubbing her clit, her request She usually has a massive extended orgasm from that and it gets me so hot I smash her pussy until I cum
I don’t think this is acceptable even without the trauma may I add. You don’t owe anyone anal sex. If it’s a deal breaker for him he should leave not try to coerce your decision.
It seems to happen to many women when they are relaxed and highly aroused. For some women it often happens, others it may not happen at all. It seems, if you are fully relaxed, you will release it naturally.
I don’t know I would love to know how to make a girl squirt tho it would be a dream
Maybe it's time for a sit-down and an open conversation.
Ah yes, I guess it may be a bad translation issue since english is not my native language, sry.
I would try fore play ending with you going down on her to lube her up and get her wet. The slowly try penetration.
Also have thick thighs and my husband is obsessed. Like I never felt good about my legs until he couldn’t stop touching them and to him their “strong thighs” not “big/fat” and I think switching that perspective for me was great for my body image too. From one woman to another, if a man doesn’t want you because of something about your body, they are not the man for you. You deserve someone who will love and accept you for who you are. Don’t settle for someone that superficial.
Guys and girls can’t be friends, the guy will always take the chance if the opportunity arises!
Nowhere in her post did OP mention trans women? If anything she said she'd like to experience having a penis herself. There's plenty of chasers posts on this sub, but this isn't one.
Tell me more 👀
Do other things with her until you naturally get hard. Focus on her pleasure and it’ll happen when you relax.
Onions, try it.
If you haven't already taken it, go get it. It's only $50. $50 is waaaaay cheaper than a baby.
Mind. Body reflects the mind.
Try doggy style, but instead of having your legs spread wide. Keep your legs together the whole way, you’re knees will be under your stomach and you’ll lower your ass down. (Think fetal position but on your knees and arms) Arch your back like normal, and bam, have fun
Do you still see those chubby women as actual people, or as sex toys? Fetishizing someone is reducing them down to the single aspect you find sexual attractive.
Had a ons with a guy like this and the edge of the couch was PERFECT for grinding into his hips. He had fun I had fun. Def recommend this for getting a more engaged experience. And to OP My bf isn't small at all and there are times when we still have issues with me being too wet for him to feel me satisfactorily. It doesn't matter size, it's communication that makes the best compatibility 🥰 you're doing great and I hope he's game; good luck!
lol no it's not common. Do you love getting fucked in the ass?
Didnt mean poly relationships, those are different of course.
Take the pill
Listen…it doesn't bother most people, just clean up and quit the crying.
I think she wanted your ok to tell you she liked it. Let her know you think it’s hot that she got it (if you find it as hot as I do)
Men ask for anal all the time because it’s tighter.
I have already been going to the gym. Like you said it's great for stress and to occupy my mind. On top of that I do enjoy working out and I had wondered why I found it so hard the last few years, its pretty obvious why now that I see the situation a little more objectively. I know I'll be fine, I'm working on improving my relationship with myself, and how I deal with solitude at the moment and I think that could take some time. Experiences like this help us grow and learn more about who we are in the world. One day I will have what you do, and feel the mutual emotional and sexual connection with my partner. Thank you for the empathy and reassurance in the meantime.
Porn addiction most likely.
The toys for stretching are for things like vaginitis which I don’t have.
Sorry about your experience.
What if it is. Weve been tricked. Weve been lied to and weve quite probably been bamboozled…
💀 bro what aw hell nawr dawg vape he said
I’m still feeling pretty devastated honestly. It’s been really tough. I’m genuinely doing my best and I hope one day my brain and me can really be on the same page. Healthy. Thank you.
Feeld or FetLife, but imo this is something that's not going to, and shouldn't, happen in a hookup context. Even mild BDSM relationships require a great deal of trust and a keen read of the other's state of being.
It's not just me. Hormones are a lot more powerful than most people think. Most people who have experienced orgasms on testosterone, then on estrogen, report the same thing. All y'all go around complaining about how “nobody will ever experience both” and ignoring the trans folk who literally have.
Go down on her for a good 10 minutes, watch a few sex ed videos first to actually discover where the clit is and how to properly stimulate it. Then chuck a condom on and go nice and slow. You should need lube but buy some anyway just in case.
💀 how do you experience both? I would love some evidence if you have some because as far as I know all you allegedly experience that isnt researched well either is the “feeling” of being the opposite gender which doesn't make sense if you ask me 🤷♂️ just being honest and besides that, there is nothing biological that you can change or feel like the opposite gender ( male or female )
Well ever since I am with my GF I can't get excited about anyone else. People are different and change with time. Don't think of yourself as broken. You don't need fixing. What you need is to find someone you actually want romantically so you can desire them sexually.
I'm (44F) in the Swinger community and it's definitely very commonplace ans normal to see people in their 40s, 50s, 60s doing blowjobs still!
Start a conversation about what he's said previously. Ask him what he imagines when he says, “dominated in bed.” Ask him if there are any special words he'd like to hear or be required to say. The range of what it could mean is pretty wide. He might mean something as simple as you taking charge and giving clear directions on what he needs to do to please you. The easiest thing is to use your words. Calmly but firmly with eye contact, tell him to kneel. Take two fingers and lift his chin if you have to, so he must hold your gaze. Tell him, “I have need of servicing provided without question. This isn't about you or your needs. Do you understand?” Then ask him if he consents to being your eager little sex toy until you're done with him. If you get clear and enthusiastic consent, give him this simple safeword system: RED means everything stops and talk to him. YELLOW means back off and slow down. You may need to stop. GREEN means all systems go. If he needs everything to stop and for you to return to being equals, he just needs to say SAFEWORD. Tell him what honorific he is to use to refer to you (Princess, Mistress, whatever). From there follow through and use him to pleasure yourself. When you're ready for him to orgasm, tell him to give you what ks yours, tell him to cum for you. Anyways, that's a broad overview of something to try. But the real secret is to get him to tell you the details of what that”dominated in bed” is in his mind's eye. Make sure you know what aftercare you'll be providing too. Have fun.
Well ofc she got offended if you said it like that. Tell her what you want and like, not what she is doing wrong.9
Yes but that's novelty. Completely different stimulus. There are many people who are still instantly excited by their partners naked body for years to come. The way you see women is coming through from your comments and it's clearly very porn fuelled.
Sometimes I can.. it’s like a pulsating feeling especially if it’s a lot but I really love when they tell me when they’re about to do it Something about the few moments right before.. phew One of the best feelings
Oh boy😂
Not all men watch porn, but the vast majority do. I don’t think that’s the problem that needs to be addressed here. It isn’t healthy to control a significant other’s sexuality and body. What if the tables were turned and he pressured you into watching porn? If this is a firm boundary, I think you’d need to find someone who naturally conforms to it.
Yeah. Fapping on weed is a lot of fun too.
Sounds like a great time. I now have a chair in mind.
Honestly, this is where frank and direct discussions about ethical non monogamy should come in. The fact we are so rigid with our expectations of sex and partners stops many people from finding a balance for their own pleasure. If we weren't so hung up on the fact that sex should be exclusively between a couple there would be a lot less stress and relationship/marital strife in my opinion, and perhaps less of jealousy and feelings of ownership and control that so often can end up damaging an entire relationship.
“you telling her to do kegels, as if altering her anatomy is the key or suggesting she is not tight enough” I simply cannot figure out where you get this crap. NOWHERE was it “suggested” she wasn't tight enough. You need to take it down a notch. Everyone here seems to understand that “he's small” is the problem and not “she's loose” except you.
Lol my bf did two nights ago and didn’t care, that’s what the towels are for, haven’t let us down so far!
Ahhh that definitely changes things. I might’ve missed that part as well. Then everything you’ve said and suggested should work well. The only piece of advice I have would be maybe to have a “ramp up” period where you try it in small doses to make sure you can handle it. Then increase the intensity/frequency
Butt hurt? Pun intended? LMAO