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Whilst I agree that that idea is ultimately damaging because it leads to people in low prevalence populations engaging in risky behaviour that can and sometimes does lead to infection with HIV, I think where OP is coming from is in terms of stats/probabilities. Because he is in a low prevalence population, being that he's white, and I'm assuming heterosexual, in a country with low rates of HIV transmission and not a drug user, the probability of it being a false positive is actual higher than it being a true positive. That's how the guy that was doing my testing explained it to me anyway when my false positive occured.
Okay, so first, long sex isn't necessarily good, and short sex isn't necessarily bad. If you want it to last longer, I'd say communicate that to him. There are certainly ways to help it last longer. With that said, it's a pretty average time, especially if you're both relatively inexperienced. Sometimes, guys can go more than once. Other times, they might not. Sometimes, it takes a bit to recharge. Other times, it might not take long at all. It all really just boils down to finding a balance of what works for you both. If it's working for you both, then great. If not, communicate what you'd like to do differently. Side note: This can be a sensitive subject for guys, so just consider how you're going to say it.
Advice regarding your original question: I think the closest thing you could do to shaving would be to cut it (yes, with scissors), as short as you possibly can. Maybe it would put less tension on the root of the hair. I do not suffer for the same condition so I can't really tell. On another note, please don't forget that it's about your pleasure too. Your body, your choice. I'll quote my favorite writer because it feels like you might need to hear it “I understand that you love him, but you have to love yourself more.” Good luck OP. You have an army behind you.
Yes i was in the same boat as you and what i did with my new girl i just was straight up honest af and told her i kinda suck at this right now and that was a huge weight lifted off my chest lol and it all worked out in the end
When I come really hard I get hallucinations. Sometimes really weird or violent images, like insects, dismember bodies, monsters… but it doesn’t bother me because it’s when my mind is at maximum intensity (like I’ve been cumming over and over for minutes), and nothing can distract me. I’m not obsessed by violence in my daily life, nor do I watch gore/horror films, so I don’t know what that’s about. Fun stuff. Not synesthesia per se.
& it does come off as him gaslighting me when I can tell he’s being serious about wanting sex & then downplaying it as if he were just joking. We can definitely laugh about it & move on but don’t make me feel bad because I didn’t understand a joke that wasn’t a “joke”
Figure out where you're hurting. Is it the skin, muscle, prostate? When I was having sex for the first few times, my prostate was sore because I was cumming HARD. If it's a localized area in your penis, maybe I'd guess some scar tissue. I want to say what it sounds like means that as time goes on, the pain will reduce. That's my hunch tho
I was in therapy for a year after it happened and was diagnosed with PTSD and we worked through the bulk of it until I felt better. We stopped when the panic became minimal and I could get through the days again. He’s been so great at dealing with this with me and used to be super sensitive to my feelings but it’s a stark difference recently where he doesn’t seem to care as much. Maybe I’m overthinking it. I guess I’m just worried I’ll trust him like I did my ex and should probably go back to therapy after all before my issues with trust grow more
My tip is only for my girlfriend. But she seems to enjoy all motions. Insertion is slow let her get used to your cock for a second or 2, then start to slowly thrust and build up speed. When I'm tried from thrusting I switch to deep hard thrusts. This she loves because surprisingly I hit her cervix and it causes her a little pain and a lot of pleasure. Motion is just thrusting pelvis forward and backwards. Nothing special.
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Whilst I agree that that idea is ultimately damaging because it leads to people in low prevalence populations engaging in risky behaviour that can and sometimes does lead to infection with HIV, I think where OP is coming from is in terms of stats/probabilities. Because he is in a low prevalence population, being that he's white, and I'm assuming heterosexual, in a country with low rates of HIV transmission and not a drug user, the probability of it being a false positive is actual higher than it being a true positive. That's how the guy that was doing my testing explained it to me anyway when my false positive occured.
Okay, so first, long sex isn't necessarily good, and short sex isn't necessarily bad. If you want it to last longer, I'd say communicate that to him. There are certainly ways to help it last longer. With that said, it's a pretty average time, especially if you're both relatively inexperienced. Sometimes, guys can go more than once. Other times, they might not. Sometimes, it takes a bit to recharge. Other times, it might not take long at all. It all really just boils down to finding a balance of what works for you both. If it's working for you both, then great. If not, communicate what you'd like to do differently. Side note: This can be a sensitive subject for guys, so just consider how you're going to say it.
I'm confused you're saying it's the most enjoyable you've ever had but talk about it like something you'd want to avoid?
Clearly.
I hate it too! It doesn’t feel good to me and I feel so distant over there, not a fan.
Yeah, honestly no one should be having PiV unless they explicitly plan on having a baby
An intact hymen does not make you a virgin. Busting it does not take your virginity. That ridiculous.
Advice regarding your original question: I think the closest thing you could do to shaving would be to cut it (yes, with scissors), as short as you possibly can. Maybe it would put less tension on the root of the hair. I do not suffer for the same condition so I can't really tell. On another note, please don't forget that it's about your pleasure too. Your body, your choice. I'll quote my favorite writer because it feels like you might need to hear it “I understand that you love him, but you have to love yourself more.” Good luck OP. You have an army behind you.
Yes i was in the same boat as you and what i did with my new girl i just was straight up honest af and told her i kinda suck at this right now and that was a huge weight lifted off my chest lol and it all worked out in the end
Just couldn’t resist her coming on to me. She was just too hot man.
Because he’s married, she’s barely legal, almost definitely didn’t use protection (esp for oral) and he’s bragging. This dude is vile.
My wife gets off on extreme BDSM porn. Yet doesn't ever want to do it.
I am 56, my wife is 48. We both masturbate. I don't see any problem with that.
When I come really hard I get hallucinations. Sometimes really weird or violent images, like insects, dismember bodies, monsters… but it doesn’t bother me because it’s when my mind is at maximum intensity (like I’ve been cumming over and over for minutes), and nothing can distract me. I’m not obsessed by violence in my daily life, nor do I watch gore/horror films, so I don’t know what that’s about. Fun stuff. Not synesthesia per se.
The more you do it the less sore it gets, it's like muscle the more you work it the more it repairs and responds
& it does come off as him gaslighting me when I can tell he’s being serious about wanting sex & then downplaying it as if he were just joking. We can definitely laugh about it & move on but don’t make me feel bad because I didn’t understand a joke that wasn’t a “joke”
Just don't let them press the gay button.
Figure out where you're hurting. Is it the skin, muscle, prostate? When I was having sex for the first few times, my prostate was sore because I was cumming HARD. If it's a localized area in your penis, maybe I'd guess some scar tissue. I want to say what it sounds like means that as time goes on, the pain will reduce. That's my hunch tho
I was in therapy for a year after it happened and was diagnosed with PTSD and we worked through the bulk of it until I felt better. We stopped when the panic became minimal and I could get through the days again. He’s been so great at dealing with this with me and used to be super sensitive to my feelings but it’s a stark difference recently where he doesn’t seem to care as much. Maybe I’m overthinking it. I guess I’m just worried I’ll trust him like I did my ex and should probably go back to therapy after all before my issues with trust grow more
Sorry to break it to you, but that's not true at all
My tip is only for my girlfriend. But she seems to enjoy all motions. Insertion is slow let her get used to your cock for a second or 2, then start to slowly thrust and build up speed. When I'm tried from thrusting I switch to deep hard thrusts. This she loves because surprisingly I hit her cervix and it causes her a little pain and a lot of pleasure. Motion is just thrusting pelvis forward and backwards. Nothing special.