Fr no prep? I keep reading about the scenarios and wanting to happen with the wife BUT every post about ass play begins with so much prep she is reserving trying in special occasions
I think the tough part for answering “Is this a red flag?” is that we lack the context of everything else in the relationship. If he has been understanding, attentive, kind and respectful to you up until now, then I think it's a green flag. Like others have said, it's him offering a compromise that let's you move at the pace you are comfortable with while still being able to enjoy a sexual activity together. However, if he's made you uncomfortable in other ways and you don't feel like he's been a trustworthy partner, then it could be a red flag. As a guy, I'm not sure I would personally do what he did at the point of the relationship you are in. I don't think it's a bad gesture, but I do feel like sex toys are something you incorporate after a discussion about it, ya know? You talk about what you feel comfortable with and then you can gift with knowledge of what your partner likes or even better, you shop together for it. So ultimately, I think it really depends on how you feel about this guy as a whole.
Fr no prep? I keep reading about the scenarios and wanting to happen with the wife BUT every post about ass play begins with so much prep she is reserving trying in special occasions
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I think the tough part for answering “Is this a red flag?” is that we lack the context of everything else in the relationship. If he has been understanding, attentive, kind and respectful to you up until now, then I think it's a green flag. Like others have said, it's him offering a compromise that let's you move at the pace you are comfortable with while still being able to enjoy a sexual activity together. However, if he's made you uncomfortable in other ways and you don't feel like he's been a trustworthy partner, then it could be a red flag. As a guy, I'm not sure I would personally do what he did at the point of the relationship you are in. I don't think it's a bad gesture, but I do feel like sex toys are something you incorporate after a discussion about it, ya know? You talk about what you feel comfortable with and then you can gift with knowledge of what your partner likes or even better, you shop together for it. So ultimately, I think it really depends on how you feel about this guy as a whole.
It is absolutely not the same. If you were my GF I would have honestly left you.
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