Thank you so much for your advice! I'm not sure if I want to take it off the table yet as I'm still figuring out if I like it. I think I would be willing to try it once if my girlfriend really likes it. Though at that point we're talking about future me who has an overal good mental health.
Talk to your partner beforehand to learn if they want to spit or swallow, but tell them when you’re about to bust regardless so they aren’t caught off guard.
Yea that’s what you need to nail down. Ask her why or how this excites her and what is missing compared to now. Don’t move on from that convo until she either talks to you or agrees to talk to a third party. That’s basically what a lot of people need therapy for – someone to help orchestrate confronting their own thoughts. It’s hard to give advice otherwise because it’s usually very rare for someone to change. If she had a high libido in the past and it dropped then it would be different but it sounds like she will instead be working to change her whole world view on sex. I don’t think all hope is lost if she is willing to do the work. If she isn’t then you have to decide if things as they are for you can work long term.
It sounds like you are doing everything just fine, is it possible that you are overthinking? Just enjoy the ride and I'm sure thinks will evolve. Maybe you could test the waters by giving some back during your sessions? You could also tell hom how you feel and ask if he likes some form of response?
Food, sometimes it can a such a lot of work. When you’ve already done a LOT of work (work you get paid for) Then come home and think of the thing you want to cook (many of us have an overwhelming list of dishes “to try’s”) Pick it, shop for it, execute it, critique it, clean up after it and then do it all again tomorrow. Sounds like you want some cuddly sexy time as the icing on your cupcake, as we ALL do after a great meal, but I think you might get an inkling here of what may have gone south for her. Meal planning, prepping, execution is a demanding series of chores that never go away. Moreover there are always complaints from SOMEBODY. (Kidz)
I'm in a similar situation but I'm 41. I have a new partner for the last couple of months who is just so incredible. We typically hang out and have sex a few times each night we're together. I can typically only cum once. We make out, I get hard, and we start to have sex, but I typically have to just stop once I know it's just not going to happen for me. But for me it's fine. I'm happy, but I get self-conscious about her thinking that I don't want her or think she's not amazing or something. I definitely make sure I take care of her though. For me, I feel most of it is in my head. When we first started having sex, I finished super quick, so I started to think too much about trying to last longer. That has turned into me thinking too much, so once I start to feel the tingle, I distract myself and it ends up where I can't finish. We haven't actually talked about it, but she doesn't seem too worried about it. I have also had dry orgasms before if that means anything. I'm not sure if this helps or not, but I feel I'm similar to your partner. I can have sex, not finish every time, and still be happy that I'm with that person.
It's truly scary how much we let slide. From the top rank reddit comment, which is Objectivley good advice to, litterally, the victim. Then there's the advice of the painfully real redditor: Rape. Call the cops. Go to therapy. Also, I suggest the guy who sexually harassed you. He goes to therapy. Also, the people around you in the club, there's no reason all of them shouldn't be going to therapy. And since I can't suggest anything that is objectively heartless in this situation, it is also the obvious first choice that everyone thinks about, but dismisses, because real life doesn't work like that. For example:(He cheated on you with someone from his workplace) What do you mean you can't set everything your husband owns outside, and mail the woman's family a set of your wedding photos and an individual tiny corked glass bottle filled with your actual real tears? He's Abusive? That's why I said leave his stuff OUTSIDE the door. Have you suggested therapy to him? Having that door as a physical barier makes it the perfect time. You have no excuse NOT to honestly, and I'd say you'd actually be as bad as him if you didn't shoot that secretary in her kneecaps and start reading your wedding vows outloud. Don't let her interrupt you, she doesn't know how much emotional damage you've already caused her, don't give her that chance to pretend like what she has to say is more important than what YOUR saying. (She's screaming for help.) Sorry I'm having way too much fun with my posts tonight. I don't really have anything to add. This guy's advice is real as fuck. But I'll just add in some truth. Its horrifying that, like I was saying, from OP to the commenter above, we just let go of the fact that after being told no multiple times he thought that Asking why you don't like anal was the right move. I wonder if this girl who has already given me #consent to have sex with me in a way that is MY KINK, BUT EXTREMELY PAINFUL IN ALMOST EVERY CASE FOR HER, and instead of discussing it before starting, giving her the ♤Ol' Fuckboy Backdoor Knock♤ (Where you knock on *the backdoor with intent to come inside, and leave real quick to hit the vape). But seriously, after he was turned down, he used his hands to do what he wouldn't let you do? •Can I fuck your daughter? •I… No. She's deaf, not dumb. Ask her yourself. •Starts fingering daughter •Okay Like that brings up so many issues I can't even argue with the reddit tards that solve every post with Ol' Reliable: •”That's rape. She said no. He did it anyway. Gl on your trial and both of you enjoy your #THERAPHY Also fuck man he litterally said (with his actions), “Getting consent wasn't good enough. It doesn't do it for me aanymore. I need to do things they don't consent to, but with my hands.”. Anyway. This situation sucks im sorry that happened to you Chica. flies away
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My parents were cool with it, presumably you have your own room? Just close the door and do it when they’re home, maybe try to keep the noise level to a minimum.
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“Brat” is sub-type of a submissive person in BDSM. A submissive (sub) is the person who gets things done to them and the Dominant is the person doing those things. A bratty sub would be someone who talks back, goads, teases and irritates the Dom and tries to get a rise out of them. The brat usually thrives on the Dom paying attention to them because of their bad behaviour, and loves being “punished” and put in their place for it. It's totally up to the individuals involved what kind of D/s dynamic works for them, and bratty behaviour from the sub is just one of them.
Literally no form of birth control is 100% effective. People get pregnant even when having safe sex. Irresponsibility is a stupid argument against abortion.
After one month, he should still be on his best behavior. He obviously doesn't care about your health and boundaries, this would be a deal-breaker for me. Cut your losses!
It has only ever happened for me when my partner was a fellow woman. Men have never been able to satisfy me in bed like a woman could. Not in that way that just goes on and on and fucking on. When two women are fucking, someone usually just has to call it. I will never forget spending 4 beautifully exhausting days in bed with my ex. I have never experienced anything like that with a man. Men are done so quickly and then everything is over. Women come over and over and over and over, and we just want more and more. I miss that. Sigh…
You could dress like woman or do your makeup or shove things in your butt all day but the moment your interested in men is when you officially become gay or bi.. There are straight CDs and TS women So u cant assume everyones choices make them gay. That's just a logical response, The majority of society would consider a straight pantie boy to be gay regardless of the explanation or anything feminine.
Do you think its more you wanting to be lusted over by these guys or that it is a dominance thing? Sounds like there's more going on than you can currently work out. Sex is weird like that.
Guy shouldn’t ask questions he doesn’t want answers to. People care too much about the most pointless stuff. 🤷 The translation, if you’re looking for one, of the question was, “should I still feel good about myself/us even though you’re sleeping with somebody else?” He decided to attach comparative dick size to the answer, which was dumb and pointless.
Possible your last two partners weren't sexually compatible with your needs. I don't think it's a reflection of your attractiveness, more their disposition. There's nothing wrong with being a passive sexual partner but it's not going to work if that's what both people want. There are lots of people who do want to be dominant out there.
Dealbreaker
Thank you so much for your advice! I'm not sure if I want to take it off the table yet as I'm still figuring out if I like it. I think I would be willing to try it once if my girlfriend really likes it. Though at that point we're talking about future me who has an overal good mental health.
Talk to your partner beforehand to learn if they want to spit or swallow, but tell them when you’re about to bust regardless so they aren’t caught off guard.
Both are immature and stupid. This isn’t sexism, equal stupidity around
Are you not cleaning your showers? Disguisting
Maybe he doesn't want that and just wants to watch, or treat his wife. But offering it might offend.
4 . Is rather hot you do clearly have dominant side you guys can explore more
Yep. And if you sent nudes, they get shown to friends too.
Yea that’s what you need to nail down. Ask her why or how this excites her and what is missing compared to now. Don’t move on from that convo until she either talks to you or agrees to talk to a third party. That’s basically what a lot of people need therapy for – someone to help orchestrate confronting their own thoughts. It’s hard to give advice otherwise because it’s usually very rare for someone to change. If she had a high libido in the past and it dropped then it would be different but it sounds like she will instead be working to change her whole world view on sex. I don’t think all hope is lost if she is willing to do the work. If she isn’t then you have to decide if things as they are for you can work long term.
He wouldn’t be cumming in me anymore if he couldn’t respect me enough to announce it. That’s a privilege, not a right.
thank you so much, this means the world to me and my partner
It sounds like you are doing everything just fine, is it possible that you are overthinking? Just enjoy the ride and I'm sure thinks will evolve. Maybe you could test the waters by giving some back during your sessions? You could also tell hom how you feel and ask if he likes some form of response?
Food, sometimes it can a such a lot of work. When you’ve already done a LOT of work (work you get paid for) Then come home and think of the thing you want to cook (many of us have an overwhelming list of dishes “to try’s”) Pick it, shop for it, execute it, critique it, clean up after it and then do it all again tomorrow. Sounds like you want some cuddly sexy time as the icing on your cupcake, as we ALL do after a great meal, but I think you might get an inkling here of what may have gone south for her. Meal planning, prepping, execution is a demanding series of chores that never go away. Moreover there are always complaints from SOMEBODY. (Kidz)
Good for you! Go for what makes you feel good. You deserve it.
When you marry someone with a lower libido.
I'm in a similar situation but I'm 41. I have a new partner for the last couple of months who is just so incredible. We typically hang out and have sex a few times each night we're together. I can typically only cum once. We make out, I get hard, and we start to have sex, but I typically have to just stop once I know it's just not going to happen for me. But for me it's fine. I'm happy, but I get self-conscious about her thinking that I don't want her or think she's not amazing or something. I definitely make sure I take care of her though. For me, I feel most of it is in my head. When we first started having sex, I finished super quick, so I started to think too much about trying to last longer. That has turned into me thinking too much, so once I start to feel the tingle, I distract myself and it ends up where I can't finish. We haven't actually talked about it, but she doesn't seem too worried about it. I have also had dry orgasms before if that means anything. I'm not sure if this helps or not, but I feel I'm similar to your partner. I can have sex, not finish every time, and still be happy that I'm with that person.
It's truly scary how much we let slide. From the top rank reddit comment, which is Objectivley good advice to, litterally, the victim. Then there's the advice of the painfully real redditor: Rape. Call the cops. Go to therapy. Also, I suggest the guy who sexually harassed you. He goes to therapy. Also, the people around you in the club, there's no reason all of them shouldn't be going to therapy. And since I can't suggest anything that is objectively heartless in this situation, it is also the obvious first choice that everyone thinks about, but dismisses, because real life doesn't work like that. For example:(He cheated on you with someone from his workplace) What do you mean you can't set everything your husband owns outside, and mail the woman's family a set of your wedding photos and an individual tiny corked glass bottle filled with your actual real tears? He's Abusive? That's why I said leave his stuff OUTSIDE the door. Have you suggested therapy to him? Having that door as a physical barier makes it the perfect time. You have no excuse NOT to honestly, and I'd say you'd actually be as bad as him if you didn't shoot that secretary in her kneecaps and start reading your wedding vows outloud. Don't let her interrupt you, she doesn't know how much emotional damage you've already caused her, don't give her that chance to pretend like what she has to say is more important than what YOUR saying. (She's screaming for help.) Sorry I'm having way too much fun with my posts tonight. I don't really have anything to add. This guy's advice is real as fuck. But I'll just add in some truth. Its horrifying that, like I was saying, from OP to the commenter above, we just let go of the fact that after being told no multiple times he thought that Asking why you don't like anal was the right move. I wonder if this girl who has already given me #consent to have sex with me in a way that is MY KINK, BUT EXTREMELY PAINFUL IN ALMOST EVERY CASE FOR HER, and instead of discussing it before starting, giving her the ♤Ol' Fuckboy Backdoor Knock♤ (Where you knock on *the backdoor with intent to come inside, and leave real quick to hit the vape). But seriously, after he was turned down, he used his hands to do what he wouldn't let you do? •Can I fuck your daughter? •I… No. She's deaf, not dumb. Ask her yourself. •Starts fingering daughter •Okay Like that brings up so many issues I can't even argue with the reddit tards that solve every post with Ol' Reliable: •”That's rape. She said no. He did it anyway. Gl on your trial and both of you enjoy your #THERAPHY Also fuck man he litterally said (with his actions), “Getting consent wasn't good enough. It doesn't do it for me aanymore. I need to do things they don't consent to, but with my hands.”. Anyway. This situation sucks im sorry that happened to you Chica. flies away
My gf has both pierced and when I play with them, it really turns her on.
This. A doctor will help you find the resources you need to get away. This is excellent advice.
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My parents were cool with it, presumably you have your own room? Just close the door and do it when they’re home, maybe try to keep the noise level to a minimum.
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“Brat” is sub-type of a submissive person in BDSM. A submissive (sub) is the person who gets things done to them and the Dominant is the person doing those things. A bratty sub would be someone who talks back, goads, teases and irritates the Dom and tries to get a rise out of them. The brat usually thrives on the Dom paying attention to them because of their bad behaviour, and loves being “punished” and put in their place for it. It's totally up to the individuals involved what kind of D/s dynamic works for them, and bratty behaviour from the sub is just one of them.
Literally no form of birth control is 100% effective. People get pregnant even when having safe sex. Irresponsibility is a stupid argument against abortion.
Take the pass. As in, pass this shit up and move one.
After one month, he should still be on his best behavior. He obviously doesn't care about your health and boundaries, this would be a deal-breaker for me. Cut your losses!
Yeah, you couldn't have answered that any better. (former young man).
Thank you ❤️ I don't think anything is wrong with him, we are just mismatched in communication maybe?
It has only ever happened for me when my partner was a fellow woman. Men have never been able to satisfy me in bed like a woman could. Not in that way that just goes on and on and fucking on. When two women are fucking, someone usually just has to call it. I will never forget spending 4 beautifully exhausting days in bed with my ex. I have never experienced anything like that with a man. Men are done so quickly and then everything is over. Women come over and over and over and over, and we just want more and more. I miss that. Sigh…
You could dress like woman or do your makeup or shove things in your butt all day but the moment your interested in men is when you officially become gay or bi.. There are straight CDs and TS women So u cant assume everyones choices make them gay. That's just a logical response, The majority of society would consider a straight pantie boy to be gay regardless of the explanation or anything feminine.
He sounds like a narcissist, run!
Do you think its more you wanting to be lusted over by these guys or that it is a dominance thing? Sounds like there's more going on than you can currently work out. Sex is weird like that.
It’s only been 4 days though, mines usually isn’t as light as it is until the very last days (6-7)
Guy shouldn’t ask questions he doesn’t want answers to. People care too much about the most pointless stuff. 🤷 The translation, if you’re looking for one, of the question was, “should I still feel good about myself/us even though you’re sleeping with somebody else?” He decided to attach comparative dick size to the answer, which was dumb and pointless.
Possible your last two partners weren't sexually compatible with your needs. I don't think it's a reflection of your attractiveness, more their disposition. There's nothing wrong with being a passive sexual partner but it's not going to work if that's what both people want. There are lots of people who do want to be dominant out there.
Or in a few days “my girlfriend wants to suck another dude's penys while i watch, and i don't know what to do”