It is absolutely impossible for me to do it with my fingers. I would have had to just give up on it if I couldn't have purchased any toys. You aren't going to “cum” from a prostate orgasm, it is completely different than a penile orgasm.
Wow. So there are two problems here. One is that yis dude is a fuckboi, and kinda twofaced as well as being a flake. He is problem 1. You wrre right about your behavior not helping you out here. Dont give dudes like this the time of day. If he texts you from work, he just ignored you and you basically let him get away with doing whatever. He gets off by knowing he could hang out with you but doesnt have the guts to do anything in person nor the respect for your time that you should expect. In the future, try to learn from this and dont be such a doormat. You dont deserve to be treated that way, but you will habe to stand up for yourself. Move on right away next time.
What? Why does he need to ask permission to masturbate? That's not reasonable. If you're done and he still wants more, why wouldn't he masturbate? You don't get to tell someone about their own body or how their libido works. When it comes to your body, your nudes, and what you want to do, these are all your decisions and you need to be the one to make those decisions without any other person pressuring you. For your partner, you need to give him the same level of respect and deference with his own body. If he wants to masturbate, that's his choice although, asking him to leave the room isn't unreasonable. You don't need to be part of that but it would be creepy and controlling of you to tell him he wasn't allowed to masturbate. Generally speaking, in a sex positive relationship every person in the relationship controls their own body and their consent. In healthy relationships everyone is generally allowed to masturbate without asking anyone else for permission.
so does he. Like we like having sex with you guys we just like to be made to turn on as well. I think women have this idea that men always get instantly hard or turned on and honestly that si not always the case. we need build up as well.
Well I definitely don’t have a problem achieving orgasm with him as there are other ways but it would be sad to go a lifetime without my favorite sexual act, especially with someone I love as much as my husband. I understand needing to have an open conversation or do something about this but I want to approach the conversation in a positive way and not make him even more nervous or uncomfortable
Yeah sex is important to me, even if I can't get off the intimacy is very crucial. Our sex life now is already miles above my last relationship but literally anything would have been an upgrade from that depressing shit.
Only way if found is to masturbate less and I use a variety of toys and hands, if I'm on denial all week the moment I have sex I will orgasm. If I used my wand every day I would find it much harder to climax from oral and hands. I really like clitoral suction toys, I find it doesn't fuck with my sensitivity as much
I haven't yet, tho a couple of times it has felt absolutely amazing. Usually spontaneous or where I can take a bit of control. I think for me it's a power/security thing. I get the majority of my pleasure from how much I am pleasuring my partner. Her excitement and enjoyment gets me off, as long as it's genuine. I also get more enjoyment when I'm in control. I don't like being on the bottom and I don't like being a passive receiver of pleasure. It feels boring. It's probably a security and anxiety thing too. If a woman was fully focused on me and my pleasure I would feel self conscious and more pressure to perform in order to meet her expectations and ensure that she is enjoying herself. It's weird lol
Ok as a woman I’m telling you, I do not care about dick size. If anything, if it’s big I can’t ride it as easily and the smaller ones can go all the way in and allows more clit stimulation. The best men I’ve slept with haven’t had the biggest dicks, they’ve made me feel comfortable and willing to put their focus on me to make me cum. Tongues, hands, making a woman feel comfortable and cherished are far more important than dick size.
Firstly, dont beat yourself up. Womens bodies are all different and respond to different things, same as men. The first time between a couple is rarely amazing as youre still learning each other. Listen and look during. Are they making positive noises at what youre doing? Is their breathing getting faster? Look at their hands, are they getting tense, grabbing the covers etc (people often clench their hands when very aroused). Look at their face, do they look like they are writing their shopping list in their head? If so, its probably not hitting the spot for them. Alot of these can help you see if they are enjoying what you are doing. Yes you can ask is this good, but refrain from asking it over and over, it can make it uncomfortable. Try aaking what do you like, when things are starting to heat up. Are you using anything or just going with what you have? Clit stimulation often benefits from a bit of lube. Same with penetration depending on the person. If you have condoms that are different, eg textured, warming or cooling, check if they are ok with that. Not everyone likes the same things. Lastly, dont immediately apologise afterwards. It feels like defeat. My ex had issues with premature ejaculation. He'd apologise then get into a mood. It didnt bother me about the issue, what bothered me was he would just give in and get moody. Not ok lets find another way to get you to finish too. Not talk about what can be done different next time to make it better. If you get into your head afterwards you tend to abandon the person you're there with. Noone likes being ignored immediately after, it doesnt make you want to repeat the event
Whisper in her ear during sex, “Ooh baby I want you to feel me push my cock deep inside you while I cum so hard for you” .It'll make her melt. Just verify a few days beforehand that she's not ovulating and/or on birth control so she feels comfortable and confident saying yes.
Dating apps is like a numbers game, you get one good un for every 20 bad ones I reckon. The more you stick with it the better you get at separating the wheat from the chaff. I met my partner who is the love of my life on tinder. I was conscious of my size when I was dating, and like you I think I have a pretty face, but don't be tempted just to put head shots on your profile. I did that to begin with and then felt like once I started talking to someone I had to tell them that I am a curvy girl…as if its something I have to explain to someone. I did get some guys who were trying to fetishise me, but I learned to spot them early on.
If you enjoyed it, please keep doing it. Learn how to do it safe and simply have fun. Let anyone who judges you for it be people of the past.
It is absolutely impossible for me to do it with my fingers. I would have had to just give up on it if I couldn't have purchased any toys. You aren't going to “cum” from a prostate orgasm, it is completely different than a penile orgasm.
Everyone likes different things. Some women do not enjoy oral and some love it. There is no broad advice that covers them all other than communicate
Best of luck!
Both of my children were born from anal. It’s not rare at all /s
You sound insecure. He is the same way yet doesn’t touch me himself??
Wow. So there are two problems here. One is that yis dude is a fuckboi, and kinda twofaced as well as being a flake. He is problem 1. You wrre right about your behavior not helping you out here. Dont give dudes like this the time of day. If he texts you from work, he just ignored you and you basically let him get away with doing whatever. He gets off by knowing he could hang out with you but doesnt have the guts to do anything in person nor the respect for your time that you should expect. In the future, try to learn from this and dont be such a doormat. You dont deserve to be treated that way, but you will habe to stand up for yourself. Move on right away next time.
It's a sign of respect to let your partner know.
If your bf is bigger than the last guy he shouldn’t trip
!remindme 20 days
What? Why does he need to ask permission to masturbate? That's not reasonable. If you're done and he still wants more, why wouldn't he masturbate? You don't get to tell someone about their own body or how their libido works. When it comes to your body, your nudes, and what you want to do, these are all your decisions and you need to be the one to make those decisions without any other person pressuring you. For your partner, you need to give him the same level of respect and deference with his own body. If he wants to masturbate, that's his choice although, asking him to leave the room isn't unreasonable. You don't need to be part of that but it would be creepy and controlling of you to tell him he wasn't allowed to masturbate. Generally speaking, in a sex positive relationship every person in the relationship controls their own body and their consent. In healthy relationships everyone is generally allowed to masturbate without asking anyone else for permission.
Each one is different in looks, tightness and smell.
so does he. Like we like having sex with you guys we just like to be made to turn on as well. I think women have this idea that men always get instantly hard or turned on and honestly that si not always the case. we need build up as well.
Well I definitely don’t have a problem achieving orgasm with him as there are other ways but it would be sad to go a lifetime without my favorite sexual act, especially with someone I love as much as my husband. I understand needing to have an open conversation or do something about this but I want to approach the conversation in a positive way and not make him even more nervous or uncomfortable
“Subtle” doesn’t work for guys. You’re going to have to be direct and to the point.
or before penetrating
Your living every guys dream buddy. Wish that would happen to me
Yeah sex is important to me, even if I can't get off the intimacy is very crucial. Our sex life now is already miles above my last relationship but literally anything would have been an upgrade from that depressing shit.
Very much so. Too drunk is also a thing.
Only way if found is to masturbate less and I use a variety of toys and hands, if I'm on denial all week the moment I have sex I will orgasm. If I used my wand every day I would find it much harder to climax from oral and hands. I really like clitoral suction toys, I find it doesn't fuck with my sensitivity as much
Sure hope so. Just tend to get inside my own head and overthink things.
No. You just have a very selfish partner.
I haven't yet, tho a couple of times it has felt absolutely amazing. Usually spontaneous or where I can take a bit of control. I think for me it's a power/security thing. I get the majority of my pleasure from how much I am pleasuring my partner. Her excitement and enjoyment gets me off, as long as it's genuine. I also get more enjoyment when I'm in control. I don't like being on the bottom and I don't like being a passive receiver of pleasure. It feels boring. It's probably a security and anxiety thing too. If a woman was fully focused on me and my pleasure I would feel self conscious and more pressure to perform in order to meet her expectations and ensure that she is enjoying herself. It's weird lol
Ok as a woman I’m telling you, I do not care about dick size. If anything, if it’s big I can’t ride it as easily and the smaller ones can go all the way in and allows more clit stimulation. The best men I’ve slept with haven’t had the biggest dicks, they’ve made me feel comfortable and willing to put their focus on me to make me cum. Tongues, hands, making a woman feel comfortable and cherished are far more important than dick size.
My other half recently mastered this skill and oh boy, I almost saw stars.
If you stay with this selfish asshole or marry him, then I’m sorry to be harsh but you deserve what happens
Firstly, dont beat yourself up. Womens bodies are all different and respond to different things, same as men. The first time between a couple is rarely amazing as youre still learning each other. Listen and look during. Are they making positive noises at what youre doing? Is their breathing getting faster? Look at their hands, are they getting tense, grabbing the covers etc (people often clench their hands when very aroused). Look at their face, do they look like they are writing their shopping list in their head? If so, its probably not hitting the spot for them. Alot of these can help you see if they are enjoying what you are doing. Yes you can ask is this good, but refrain from asking it over and over, it can make it uncomfortable. Try aaking what do you like, when things are starting to heat up. Are you using anything or just going with what you have? Clit stimulation often benefits from a bit of lube. Same with penetration depending on the person. If you have condoms that are different, eg textured, warming or cooling, check if they are ok with that. Not everyone likes the same things. Lastly, dont immediately apologise afterwards. It feels like defeat. My ex had issues with premature ejaculation. He'd apologise then get into a mood. It didnt bother me about the issue, what bothered me was he would just give in and get moody. Not ok lets find another way to get you to finish too. Not talk about what can be done different next time to make it better. If you get into your head afterwards you tend to abandon the person you're there with. Noone likes being ignored immediately after, it doesnt make you want to repeat the event
Whisper in her ear during sex, “Ooh baby I want you to feel me push my cock deep inside you while I cum so hard for you” .It'll make her melt. Just verify a few days beforehand that she's not ovulating and/or on birth control so she feels comfortable and confident saying yes.
Dating apps is like a numbers game, you get one good un for every 20 bad ones I reckon. The more you stick with it the better you get at separating the wheat from the chaff. I met my partner who is the love of my life on tinder. I was conscious of my size when I was dating, and like you I think I have a pretty face, but don't be tempted just to put head shots on your profile. I did that to begin with and then felt like once I started talking to someone I had to tell them that I am a curvy girl…as if its something I have to explain to someone. I did get some guys who were trying to fetishise me, but I learned to spot them early on.