You truly can’t unhear some things but time will make it better trust me. I went through a similar thing and I truly got over it the more I spoke about it with him, let him know how much that hurt me and gave myself time to heal. It does take time I know it’s hard cause you’re constantly thinking about it etc. Maybe tell her to remove the list off her phone if it makes you uncomfortable maybe an action along those kinda lines will make you feel more secure ?
Been trying to figure that one out for 20 years.
They should get aroused before considering lube, lube alone won't prevent it being more uncomfortable than pleasurable.
You truly can’t unhear some things but time will make it better trust me. I went through a similar thing and I truly got over it the more I spoke about it with him, let him know how much that hurt me and gave myself time to heal. It does take time I know it’s hard cause you’re constantly thinking about it etc. Maybe tell her to remove the list off her phone if it makes you uncomfortable maybe an action along those kinda lines will make you feel more secure ?
Maybe try it with a female