I tried it out with my current partner. We began with massaging between the balls and Asshole, then putting in a Finger and now I posses a Toy for it and we talk about getting me fucked with a Strap-On. Many men don't know that their ass is a VERY stimulating Zone until they try it out. And many of them are you insecure and say that it's gay.
To be honest, if you say itâs not good after a month then you maybe should look for someone different. Now you are invested and all, but already came here to say, in your own words, that sex is not good with him. The only thing can will change reliably in this situation is your patience. If youâre sexually not compatible then there is nothing you can do about it
They don't need a reason to not like it. Just like op doesn't have to settle for someone who can't give her what she wants. It's just a compatibility issue.
As for being offended, probably, the question is how much/little. If you both have been swearing to each other for a long time to get to one place or another as soon as humanly possible, then a bit more offended I'd say. If it's not been too long, and discussion was mostly casual, then I think not so offended. Really boils down to a) if they find out and b) what reason you tell them when faced with it. If the simple reason was readiness (lack of), I'd just be matter of fact about it. Something like .. “Hey, wanted to let you know I might be around there in a few weeks, hoping we can hang out. I happened to be there last minute a few days ago, but it was brief and I knew I wouldn't have any time to escape”
i feel weird seeing the word âcousinâ repeated so many times đ maybe this is another part of the world and itâs more common to have sexual relationships with relatives but yikes, this just sounds like a mess
Nothing. You should do nothing. If he is bi and he is in the closet you shouldnât out him. If you have a problem with the posibility of him not being straight I guess you could start to contemplate breaking up. You can use an exvuse for this. But in the end he might be struggling with his sexuality, men atracted to anything that isnât women, especially men is very hated in this society. Iâve lost friends, people have threaten me with fisical harm, Iâve been invited to conversion therapy, etc. It is shitty. If he doesnât wanna come out it is ok. Also he being bi doesnât mean he is gay. Iâve dated many girls and even been in straight exclusive relationships. Just like being straight and liking one gender doesnât mean you are going to cheat with other people of the same gender of your partner, being bi doesnât mean he is going to cheat.
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The getting naked part to try and seduce him after he said no is kinda cringy (think if the reverse happened), but I think you were just trying to be playful. The healthy thing to do imo is to sit down and tell him that you're concerned about the drop in sexual activity. Tell him that it's simultaneously important to you and that you care about him. He will have to communicate what is going on, only he can do that. It can be a million things, some understandable and some that may hurt you…but don't let it fester, attack it head-on.
If I have the energy and motivation can normally be back up and ready to go within 5-10 minutes.
I tried it out with my current partner. We began with massaging between the balls and Asshole, then putting in a Finger and now I posses a Toy for it and we talk about getting me fucked with a Strap-On. Many men don't know that their ass is a VERY stimulating Zone until they try it out. And many of them are you insecure and say that it's gay.
To be honest, if you say itâs not good after a month then you maybe should look for someone different. Now you are invested and all, but already came here to say, in your own words, that sex is not good with him. The only thing can will change reliably in this situation is your patience. If youâre sexually not compatible then there is nothing you can do about it
They don't need a reason to not like it. Just like op doesn't have to settle for someone who can't give her what she wants. It's just a compatibility issue.
As for being offended, probably, the question is how much/little. If you both have been swearing to each other for a long time to get to one place or another as soon as humanly possible, then a bit more offended I'd say. If it's not been too long, and discussion was mostly casual, then I think not so offended. Really boils down to a) if they find out and b) what reason you tell them when faced with it. If the simple reason was readiness (lack of), I'd just be matter of fact about it. Something like .. “Hey, wanted to let you know I might be around there in a few weeks, hoping we can hang out. I happened to be there last minute a few days ago, but it was brief and I knew I wouldn't have any time to escape”
took it away
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i feel weird seeing the word âcousinâ repeated so many times đ maybe this is another part of the world and itâs more common to have sexual relationships with relatives but yikes, this just sounds like a mess
Nothing. You should do nothing. If he is bi and he is in the closet you shouldnât out him. If you have a problem with the posibility of him not being straight I guess you could start to contemplate breaking up. You can use an exvuse for this. But in the end he might be struggling with his sexuality, men atracted to anything that isnât women, especially men is very hated in this society. Iâve lost friends, people have threaten me with fisical harm, Iâve been invited to conversion therapy, etc. It is shitty. If he doesnât wanna come out it is ok. Also he being bi doesnât mean he is gay. Iâve dated many girls and even been in straight exclusive relationships. Just like being straight and liking one gender doesnât mean you are going to cheat with other people of the same gender of your partner, being bi doesnât mean he is going to cheat.
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The getting naked part to try and seduce him after he said no is kinda cringy (think if the reverse happened), but I think you were just trying to be playful. The healthy thing to do imo is to sit down and tell him that you're concerned about the drop in sexual activity. Tell him that it's simultaneously important to you and that you care about him. He will have to communicate what is going on, only he can do that. It can be a million things, some understandable and some that may hurt you…but don't let it fester, attack it head-on.