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Sounds like you might have the potential for a few sexsomniac behaviors (which is a real thing despite how made up that name sounds). It might be worth doing a little research into the topic and it might help your boyfriend if you show him the behavioral studies and research on the topic so he has a chance to understand that you aren't really doing those things consciously, but as a form of “sleep walking” if you will.
This is a relatively simple situation. Calmly but firmly tell him: “I really don't like when you're doing this and I don't allow you to do it. If you do it again it will be the last blowjob you get from me.”
I spent about two years being put on different antibiotics. Finally a Dr said I have chronic non-bacterial prostatitis. I could be good for months then have a flare up of symptoms. Definitely a very frustrating thing to deal with.
What goes up must come down
It's pretty hard to distinguish between the look of pain and petit mort-face, esp for a child. It might be time for a slightly more advanced “talk”
OP…. Look at it from a young childs perspective. We see as adults what you said, and yet, still see so much wrong here WITHOUT certain things being said along with the things you did say. What you told him was “Yes, that was sex”. No. No it wasn't. That was painful and unprepared anal sex. That ISN'T sex. You just associated pain with sex. You understand that right? That's how simple it is. He heard pain, and you said yes it was sex. And at age 7, they understand empathy and are starting to draw their own conclusions and pick up on context clues. What you said WAS NOT OKAY. And in order to fix this, you need to fix your “gift”. Because the “gift” caused this mess and it has to be fixed. Since from my perspective at 25 years old, it just seems like you're being used for your holes. And now it's going to effect your children and their own views on love and their future potential sex lives. Please…just think about what I said.
I realized sometimes we have breaks that overlap on Fridays.
Are you losing erection or just cant come? Viagra only helps with the erection. You may have death grip from wanking.if so stop wanking, stop porn. Although you can get her to either rub your balls, put a few fingers around your shaft or rub your anus for extra stimulation when you are getting close.
I prefer a bushy vagina, but in terms of the bum hole, I’d rather that wasn’t hairy but everyone has a hairy bum and unless your girlfriend shaves every day, there’s going to be hair there. Wouldn’t stop me from burying my face in it.
My buddy and I went back to our 2 bed hotel room with a group of 3 girls after a night of drinking. We made the one friend a bed with blankets on the floor between the two beds. After lights out, my buddy hooked up with one girl and i hooked up with the other at the same time. I’m pretty sure the girl on the floor listened the whole time, lol!
Eh, I’ve done double digits by myself on days where I’ve got nothing else going on. Actual sex is more tiring, though. I don’t think I’ve bested five times in one night with that.
Men vary in their tastes. Some like bigger, some like smaller. In my experience there are broad generational trends based on what models they grew up looking at (i.e. boomers seem to like bigger ones than Gen X men) but even within an age group there's a lot of variation.
Use alot of lube, and make sure the guy is sensitive in your situation. Very slow, and once you open up and adjust.. heaven awaits you my dear
I have low libido! My anxiety medicine, past pregnancy, post partum depression …. All reasons that contributed to it. My husband has been on TRT for almost two years so his sex drive is wayyy up! So it wasn’t matching for awhile at all. And my husband would get discouraged and think it was him and take it personal sometimes if I wasn’t in the mood. A lot of the reason for my low libido as well was my miserable former job I was at. Since leaving that job my libido has gotten a bit better. Not where it used to be, because I used to have a higher sex drive than my husband. Anyway I am much happier at my new job. So to answer your question, hmmmm…. I would say we have sex maybe 4-6 times a week. Depends on both our work schedules.
She isn't in contact with them, she made that clear when I found out, and as a general rule we both stay away from exes. Also she told me some of the stuff that was in there and there are things we haven't done in there, but we can't really do it. But there could be other things, I'm just worried about finding out what they are.
If you do bring it up, bring it up away from sex. Just mention you noticed something different and ask him what's up. Explain what you said here, that you want him relaxed and enjoying himself too. For me, I get wrapped up in my head that, unless I'm entirely focused on my partner's orgasm, that she's not having fun. It's possible he's in a similar thought pattern, but there's an equal possiblity that it's something else entirely for him. So approach with concern and show him that you're haivng fun, and you want to know the difference between the first night and these recent interactions and see if there's a happy medium where you still get attended to, and he gets his rocks off.
Honestly, this mostly sounds like lack of experience. For some folks, especially women (but many men too), it can take a while to really find the right groove around sex when you're relatively inexperienced. As you put it, it's partly because we inflate our imaginations with how we think sex might be but reality very rarely conforms to our fantasies. Instead, I'd urge you to be more present around the sex you're having vs. thinking about what sex should be like. That kind of mindfulness both connects you to your own body and it helps you be more present with your partner, both of which are usually harbingers for “good sex.”
Ideally this should be a pretty exclusive group with tested guys you trust and occasionally bring in a new interested guy. Anybody that leaks the details or posts the videos gets booted. Have fun, but be responsible.
Honestly, this mostly sounds like lack of experience. For some folks, especially women (but many men too), it can take a while to really find the right groove around sex when you're relatively inexperienced. As you put it, it's partly because we inflate our imaginations with how we think sex might be but reality very rarely conforms to our fantasies. Instead, I'd urge you to be more present around the sex you're having vs. thinking about what sex should be like. That kind of mindfulness both connects you to your own body and it helps you be more present with your partner, both of which are usually harbingers for “good sex.”
Ideally this should be a pretty exclusive group with tested guys you trust and occasionally bring in a new interested guy. Anybody that leaks the details or posts the videos gets booted. Have fun, but be responsible.
The subject of dirty talk is covered extensively in prior r/sex posts.
Personally, I wouldn’t. She obviously wants them or she would’ve deleted them herself. She’s open and honest about them and probably just likes them because they are hot. If you make her delete them you are signaling insecurity and also potentially setting up a situation where she is resentful later. She clearly likes to create videos/take pics and is turned on by them so if you are open to it, maybe it’s a kink that the two of you explore together.
Things change when you get older. Take the shot and don’t have regrets. He may be guarding himself due to your bad behavior so it might not go as smooth as the movies but you’ll never know unless you try. Alternatively he might not be into you, in which case better to know then constantly think “what if?”
Yes, phobia and close mindedness are very troubling. Sadly, many are shamed for simply being who they are. We need less shaming and more acceptance in every aspect of life and love!
kisses on neck, chocking, whispering something dirty, hold her hands strong, there are multiple possibilities!
From what I know, you can try to have sex with her legs closed rather than then open (for example in doggo, she's got her legs closed, yours are open. Same with missionary, both her legs closed and you're pushing them more towards her) or if she's one who gets extremely wet and that plays a factor, then have a towel near by to dry her up a bit before going in so there's more friction.
This reeks of privilege, even if people would think you’re poor. Some people can’t just reevaluate their life and make changes on the drop of a dime. Some people can’t move to a lower COL area and leave their support network. Some people can’t get $20k in savings or a loan to build a house, even a small one. Do you ever face discrimination in your life that adds stress and saps energy? Are either you or your partner currently a student? How many kids or elderly/disabled family members do you have to support? What works in your life doesn’t necessarily work in everyone else’s. By the way, I personally do “make time for love.” My partner and I have near-daily sex and each masturbate a few times a week – sometimes when we’re home alone, sometimes when the other is home. Sometimes we masturbate together. When we’ve been working from home together all day and are getting sick of each other, sometimes one of us will masturbate solo as a form of “alone time” (like taking a relaxing bath or reading a book) to recharge. Then, refreshed, we have even better sex later. Masturbation has allowed us to continue learning about our own bodies as we progress in our sex lives. We bring lessons from our solo sessions into the bedroom. We have discovered kinks through our masturbatory fantasies that we then introduce to each other. We’ve been carried through temporary periods of school- and work-related burnout and medication-induced low sex drive through being open about masturbation. Sometimes we just need to rub one out before dinner, delayed gratification be damned, and we support each other in that too. It’s cool if this doesn’t work for you, but I do find it a bit sad that none of these benefits of masturbation have ever crossed your mind. Maybe it’s just not your style, which is fine. But are you sure your partner feels the same way? How often do you two have frank conversations about it?
Is there any reason that you can't go for a second round. Most women I've known are happy to have a guy continue to stimulate them after a man's first orgasm. Most women are even happy to help the man get erect again for a second, longer session.
I'd love to be able to orgasm quickly (or even at all) from oral. Alas i can't possible due to practising prone masturbation in my youth.
Honestly didn’t put much attention into it myself until I questioned it lol
Hey, sorry you're experiencing this. I too have some sexual trauma that has made sex very anxiety inducing. I think the best way is to ease into it and find a trustworthy play partner. Perhaps a partner who is understanding and aware of your anxieties, why you feel anxious, and that it may take you some time to be comfortable. It is good you're making friends within the scene. I think this is a good step to becoming comfortable with someoneand getting to know each other a bit more. I know trauma can present itself in ways we can not control. Sometimes for me it can come from thinking of what COULD go wrong. I try to ask myself “what makes me anxious about this encounter?” And if it's something within my control that can be lightened with some communication, then I will try to do that.
Curious, how sure are you that my wife will like that….
Check out Athol Kay's books like The Married Man's Sex Life Primer 2011. Athol Kay
raw or nah is the way i live
Pure genetics i'm afraid – no solution other than surgery and unless they're painful due to being low hanging, i'd suggest just trying to appreciate the ones you have. Some are high, some are low – but from a womans perspective (this womans anyway), balls with a bit of swing to them are fun. It's also sometimes a medical issue if they're too high and tight due to pain when having an erection. An ex of mine had very tight ones and it was a bit uncomfy for him at times because they'd be pulled too tight.
Ballsack lift? A plastic surgeon somewhere what’s yo specialize in this!
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Switch to weed in moderate amounts. Thank me later.
Pick a day that you can cook/go get her food. She still needs to eat, even with being busy preparing for exams. However make sure you are both clear on it’s just a meal to keep her going and there’s no obligation for anything else. Provide the food then leave unless asked to stay. You can also ask if there’s a way you can help her study. Or just have food delivered if you can’t make it there to do it yourself. Taking care of her without any obligations/strings attached will strengthen your relationship. And get you brownie points for the future.
Pick a day that you can cook/go get her food. She still needs to eat, even with being busy preparing for exams. However make sure you are both clear on it’s just a meal to keep her going and there’s no obligation for anything else. Provide the food then leave unless asked to stay. You can also ask if there’s a way you can help her study. Or just have food delivered if you can’t make it there to do it yourself. Taking care of her without any obligations/strings attached will strengthen your relationship. And get you brownie points for the future.
Definitely enough to wrap around me. Haha
I totally understand! I was very awkward about sex until later in life (we're talking 30s here) so I get the anxiety and trepidation around it, let alone talking about it. But at some point I got over that through small steps and realizing how communication opens up a huge, amazing world of pleasure and fulfillment. If you've already talked about doing the deed soon, then the conversation has started. When you get together for the big event you're going to talk about SOMETHING so before or after the first makeout of the evening just psyche yourself up and ask something basic like “what are you excited to try?” and hopefully she has an answer other than “I don't know.” But if she's mousey about it too (which is totally OK and almost expected!) you can delicately talk about what you're excited about and ask her what she thinks. Hopefully that gets the ball rolling. I've found that once you get that bottle uncorked the conversation becomes much easier and that in turn makes the physical stuff that comes after infinitely less stressful than it would have otherwise been. Saying something about how you think if you both understand each others' boundaries and wants then it's less guesswork and less likelihood of either of you doing something that will make it weird or uncomfortable. Also really make sure she knows that she can say no at any time and you'll be cool about it. Trust me. If you are able to be cool about changes or sharp turns (even if she asks to completely stop) then that's half the battle right there. PS – communication!
This is the way!
Nobody should police your body. Your body your rules. You want to fuck yourself with a massive bad-dragon you go right ahead. Your bf is probably insecure that you are gonna leave him for a dildo. Set him straight.
What do you mean and? He was 45 talking to a 19yr old
this one chick used to swirl her thumb on my peehole while she’d top me off, I hope she’s well, what a saint. she had me throwin up gang signs tbh
Speaking from personal experience? 🫢 Find yourself a man with personal hygiene!!
Be a slut and call him daddy be his daughter,cusion or stepdaughter well he fuck you
Not possible for her to cheag really she lives with her parents and she wants to see me almost everyday, the mental part I doubt it cause why would she want to see me everyday?
Ye but he still talked to two different doctors so..
Imo erotic pleasure doesn't come from physical touch. It comes from the mind. People can get immensely turned on just reading a book or erotic short story where there's no touch at all. The brain is the biggest and most powerful erogenous zone by far. Being dominant, for the right people, is a huge thrill.
The Ethical Slut is a great book, but it really advocates specific aspects of Polyamory. I would recommend “Opening Up” as well for a wider view of Ethical Non Monogamy.
I sure have says getting older and lazy. I really don't says its a past thing
Glad to help. Personally, I only do a full clean whenever anal is planned for. I've read before that douching too often can cause issues with the intestinal lining and you should limit it to once a day and no more than 2-3 times a week.
I'm nervous that she won't like the “new” sensation of a tongue down there and that it will turn her off of it forever.
To be expected, considering your original post. I was asking @Shyan5, assuming they are male.
Did I offend you lol? Hopefully as you grow older and mature, you'll realize what I'm saying. Been there done that. Having meaningless sex with people you're not into is a selfish act, filling in whateverv void you're missing. Can be depression, needing attention, addiction, for guys like me it can be a false way to have self worth or pride. I'm not talking shit to her or anyone who does this. I'm speaking facts. I don't care who any one fucks or why they do. It was more so to help enlighten her and possibly help. I know some people can't handle truth like you, but I'll still give my experiance. Alot of people who've outgrown fucking multiple people at a time have said the same.
Teach me your ways
That's a good question and I'm not so good at talking about myself or really selling myself. Plus, I've heard tinder is awful along with all of the other dating apps.
Hence, the clear communication and preparations
Tbh if your into it he’ll love it even more,don’t be afraid of getting a bit sloppy just have a towel near by to clean up. Instead of sucking all the time do some tongue work, lick up and down the shaft put it in your mouth and with your tongue circle around the tip and the middle division the the head of his dick, that works really good don’t forget about the balls either even if you hold them in your hands an lightly massage them,sometimes as I have his dick in my mouth I put my thumb right under his balls and apply a bit of pressure going up and down, helps stimulate the guys g-spot good luck 🍀
Eye contact and moaning as others have said. I do everything to show him that I am truly enjoying giving him a blowjob, little smiles. I like to start off slowly with gently kisses and licks on the head, I spend a lotta time on the head and slowly take more of him into my mouth.
Yeah that is what I'm saying
You need to speak up and be vocal. I get terribly irate and turned off when a guy talks all this mess and doesn't deliver, ESPECIALLY with oral. Don't beat around the bush. Say something. If he halfass, stalls, or gives you an excuse, then you return the favor by revoking his free BJ card. They will take and take and take as long as you keep giving without complaining. Speak up girl. You can do it. You have nothing to worry about, he does if he gives the wrong answer.
Don’t go into action with a loaded gun.
We'll check it out!
Cock rings are an easy start for a guy that isn't experienced with toys. If he's more on the adventurous side, there are phenomenal attachments for guys available for the magic wand.
I’ve been this way around my boyfriend since we first got together 3 years ago🥰. Since then, I’ve been taking BC and life has gotten more stressful, along with being depressed, so my libido has gone down a lot. But I still am all over him for the most part. We would still be doing it daily if I wasn’t so busy and tired all of the time! We are always all over each other though, and I love it.
Wow i did not think about it. I can say that i enjoy entire process of masturbating. Maybe i am nervous while sex and that is reason?
May Reddit decide.
That’s hurtful to think but possible I guess, thanks for the honesty
All his excuses would not hold up in court
As a guy, this dude comes off as crazy. Dead ass. Who the fuck ranks pussy at his age? Move on you are dodging a bullet. Trust.
I find it hot, sexy when a man announces it. I guess it’s up to preference.
Natural sexual attraction. It’s fine. We all feel it towards a person of interest.
I don’t think it would be bad for you to say it. Here’s why. He probably doesn’t like having sex with you either. What he wants you don’t like, and what you want he obviously doesn’t want to provide. But he still wants to get a nut so he begrudgingly takes what he can get. At this point its really about who is going to be brutally honest and say it first. What you do there is up to each of you and most likely will require some couples counseling.