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  1. That's a terrible way for him to treat you especially when you've been up front and honest with him about it. What you should do is end the relationship, he cares more about himself getting off than inflicting more trauma on you so it's pretty inevitable that he's going to keep om doing it. Sorry but you dont need him making things worse and he will. 😪

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  2. You came with him early in your relationship! You went 13 years without the big O with him. Your said nothing for 13 years and when you finally did you orgasm again. Then you get mad at him.? Your have a responsibility to participate in sex with him, verbally and physically. Ditch the misdirected anger. Tell him your liked that experience and wants to have more. Your brain is what caused orgasms not fingers, Dick's, or machines. No wonder it is so difficult being a man! Damn it is not easy being so judged. Lol

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  3. As long as it's OK for a man to inquire and push for an explanation when a woman doesn't give consent…but in those situations we are told “no” is a complete answer and to accept it and drop the idea, so…why is it OK here simply because the one being denied is female?

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  4. I can cum through clit once, after that it has to be penetration as clits too sensitive but I’ll cum loads from sex after

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  5. Nope. Not for me. Her snoring and sounding likes she’s being choked isn’t a turn on. Sleep apnea is a really serious health condition. I would have her tested. Nowadays that’s easy, they send you a gadget to wear overnight and then you return it. My wife and I both have it so we both have CPAP. We look like a couple of elephants sleeping with trunks 🤣

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  6. so you'd be totally cool with your partner having nude pictures of their exes (which these women probably dont know of and wouldn't be happy with)? good for you man, but OP's response is also completely understandable.

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  9. Speaking for myself, I love being jerked off. Maybe more than a BJ. Maybe I have a cum kink or something but I have big loads and I love watching it shoot out and onto my girlfriend's body. I do enjoy finishing inside her but there is something very satisfying and visceral about it. This sounds like the case for your SO as well. It might be awkward and hard to talk about but just bring it up casually and say something like “I like jerking you off to finish but I want you to still come inside me sometimes”. Just grabbed it in a positive way. Either way, I'd say you have nothing to worry about. He probably just likes the sight of his jizz on your hot bod.

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  10. My guy sticks the tip of his tongue out when he's focusing on something. I've never said anything because it appears to be a completely unconscious thing, but my god is it sexy. No clue why, but it stirs the loins.

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  12. see you can eat a Burger by opening your mouths open wide does that mean you can`t hold a needle? no something similar down there chill and enjoy life

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  13. You can judge me all you want,I joined Reddit to escape life’s problems,is that a crime?she does cum whenever we have sex,we haven’t had sex in months,and at most it could be twice a month that we would have sex.

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  14. How sexually interested will he be once you have a kid and life truly starts getting difficult? I understand the breeding kink and all(Trihenea out monkey brain), but this is a bit ridiculous. You don’t want a kid, you don’t practice unsafe sex, no matter how much it turns on your partner.

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  15. My guess is, when you stopped him he got mad he didn't get sex. He says he wants experienced women but really he just wants easy sex. Definitely don't go for this jerk.

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  18. Every body is different. I didn't notice any increased or decreased sensitivity in mine at all. You can always just pierce one and see

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  19. When you gotta pee, you gotta pee. It's not about you. It's just a natural bodily function that demanded attention at an inconvenient time

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  24. Probably in the restroom of a train or at the club. Or a back alley. Or a construction site. Went a bit wild in an outdoor waterpark last summer as well. Yes, I have a public sex kink. It's fun. And harmless if you make sure not to bother other people with it. There are lots of hidden spaces like that in public where you can have some naughty, exciting fun.

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  25. Well it’s not a workout…I mean it is. Carry around 40-80lbs of gear all over the place and having to stay awake over 24-72 hrs.

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  27. Try discussing more with your gf why she wants the threesome, if you would want a threesome at all or not just this one. Would she want one still with a different configuration of bodies? If you both like the group sex idea then pick someone who's not an existing best friend. There's plenty of places for couples to meet a third. Athough, your expectation of how it would impode tells a lot. Sounds like you made the right choice.

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  29. No. I think you are overthinking this entirely. Women don’t put as much stock into visual aides like men do. Women for the most part care about how it’s used. You did not damage your penis. Have you tried applying something natural like coconut oil to it? Do it for a week, a few times a day to see if that helps.

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  30. Think about your own orgasms – would you ever mistake them for something else? No but that's because I'm male and release sperm when I climax. Once she gets to know her own body, it will be much easier for her to tell you what she needs. I appreciate this advice, but unfortunately, I've had a hard time implementing it. Before her and I started having sex, she did not masturbate solo due to her culture where it is taboo. After some convincing early in our relationship, she now has sex with me regularly, and enjoys it too. But she explores her own body very rarely. I've bought her a bullet vibrator, which she will only use with me sometimes, but not on her own. I try giving her oral sex, but most of the time she doesn't let me saying that she's too sensitive down there. She rarely lets me anywhere near her clit. She *loves* PIV sex though. I think my next step is to buy her a hitachi magic wand that we use during PIV sex.

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  31. Well there’s literally nothing you can do, plan B is not even an option anymore if it’s been a few days. Wait for your period and if it doesn’t happen, then get a pregnancy test.

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  33. You are not disagreeing. You are being mean, unempathetic and showing a clear disregard for any feelings apart from yours.

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  34. Guess what? You are completely normal. Just like with food, our tastes will change. Enjoy the exploration on your terms. Sex and intimacy are fun.

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  37. Have you heard of reddit? Tinder Swinger sites. Craigslist Facebook Google Now let's be honest. You don't find them. They find you.

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  38. I agree with him. He's saying that shouldn't be her job and its not her fault that guy had shit parents. If he was raised right, he wouldn't act like that in the first place. I don't neg and gaslight women because I was raised properly. He wasn't.

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  39. We literally just thought about the puppy pads very recently, and it's really nice for neither of us to sleep on a wet spot or a towel

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  40. If squirting is what porn movies look like to you, you're right, it really is urine. Cytherea, was the porn actress who most publicized this type of pornographic category. Today you see, mainly on camgirls, women squirting in less than two minutes with clitoral stimulation, something that would be practically impossible for an orgasm, much less a squirting. There is no squirting without orgasm, but there is orgasm without squirting. In the female orgasm, women have several muscle spasms in the pelvic region, mainly in the vulva. Squirting on porn sites, you can tell it's not a real orgasm. In tantric sex, there was already knowledge that it was possible for women to have this type of experience, and practically already knew that squirting is not so easy to achieve, and when you reach that peak of ecstasy, it is not as liquid as in porn movies. There are two strands of research that defend opposing ideas, one concluded that squirting is mostly urine, the other that there is a small percentage of urine. I believe the second conclusion is true.

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  42. Water-based lube gets absorbed so quickly though and needs frequent reapplication. I guess clean up doesn't bother me either, I expect sex to get messy.

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  44. You’re thinking about fucking one of your “pretty good friend’s” wife. One hell of a friend… it is clear you don’t really care for him so yea man go for it. Fuck your pretty good friends wife and let him stay with her. Fantastic friendship

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  46. What have you tried? Do you get enough (or any) foreplay? It just sounds like you need to be sufficiently mentally turned on to finish, which is completely normal.

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  48. Have him jerk himself off until he gets close then use your lips, tongue, etc on the underside of his penis right behind the glands. I think it's called the frenulum. Keep up the stimulation as he cums until he taps out. You'll probably have to peel him off the ceiling. This goes double if you're both comfortable with a finger up his bum doing a 'come hither motion towards his front. Have fun!

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  49. Do it if you have the opportunity to I’m a little older than you and still a virgin and it will continue to get harder the older you get

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  52. Honestly as a woman the thought of a guy going down on me on my period grosses even ME out and I would absolutely never expect a guy too. That being said, I would try asking if there's anything that might make him more comfortable, ie showering right before, maybe being in the shower with cup in, ect. Otherwise, find a compromise. Instead of being eaten out, maybe introduce a toy, incorporate more handsy stuff, find other things that bring you similar types of pleasures

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  53. Because sexual orientation is about the gender of the people you are attracted to and want to have sex with. It is not about the type of sex acts that you do or don't want to do. Many lesbians enjoy penetration, some straight women prefer being eaten out. There are plenty of straight men who enjoy getting pegged by women. Saying that the sex acts you like or don't like define your orientation is just plain wrong.

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  55. Being anxious about it can make you tense up and run dry, so trying to force yourself through it is doing the opposite of helping. Do not ever do anything in sex that is hurting you just to please your partner, and without telling them. How would you feel if you found out that something that you do during sex makes your partner hurt? Would you still enjoy that act? Having a steady relationship can be the perfect chance to work through things, but not by forcing it. Try more lube, or silicone based lube (it is more slippery and doesn't get absorbed into your body like water based does, but make sure you aren't mixing it with silicone condoms or toys). Try more, much more foreplay. Instead of PIV (penis in vagina) try just being penetrated by a finger or more, do that several times. It isn't so much about stretching your vagina, as getting some positive associations with penetration. Try toys. Try kegels Try other kinds of sex, handjobs, blowjobs, intercrural sex. Try talking about it with you ob/gyn on your next visit, there are some physical conditions that can make being penetrated harder. But also, some people just don't like being penetrated and that's it. There are things that can be done it if bothers you, but it is not a failing on your part if you don't

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  56. Just attack him in a lustful way. His body should react in a good way Actually no, don't sexually attack someone who doesn't want to have sex, and then justify it by pointing to physiological arousal. This is extremely problematic.

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  57. layla Martin on squirting. You can do this yourself or have you partner do it. Basically get yourself super relaxed, super turned on. Use lots of lube or coconut oil. Give yourself a pussy massage and clit play until you are desperate for gspot stimulation. Then combine gspot with clitoral stim until you get the urge to pee. At that point breathe deeply, squeeze and relax your pelvic floor muscles, let go of your reservations, relax, and push. It may take you a couple times, but I promise it's well worth it. You may or may not be able to squirt simultaneously with a traditional / clit orgasm. And I can't stress enough that you need to have the urge to pee before trying and be in thigh quivering pleasure. Lastly, put down a waterproof pad to catch any spills.

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  58. If I was with a girl and she was making some silly unnatural face I'd feel self conscious that I was doing a horrible job lol

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  62. If you don’t understand why someone would feel unsafe around a person who doesn’t respect sexual boundaries and is self-centered, consider reading more than you post.

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  63. Dump him. He's manipulating You, that's already a red flag. I bet he Will extremly mad if You tell him that it's better to not have a threesome.

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  64. I’ve just tried my own links and they’re not working for me either. 😬 whoops. Yes, there can be more than just the physical that attracts someone. But even then, it’s still only a small number of men that attract most women, so my point remains the same.

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  66. This may not be what you want to hear: -an open communicative man -a man invested in their partners pleasure -no wavering on intent

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  67. I am obsessed with licking pussy and i am 41 xD But this obsession didnt develop over the years, i already had the fantasy of eating pussy when puberty started, and i licked my first girlfriend every day. But i needed to grow older to not feel ashamed of it and talk about it more openly. Maybe thats why it feels like older men like to lick pussy more. Maybe younger men just feel ashamed to talk about it.

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  70. as in he probably had an acquaintance in mind. Absolutely. Bet you dollars to donuts that if OP wanted to take this a step further, he'd also reject any third parties she recommends. 100% he's got a girl in mind.

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  71. Mine was local. I didn’t feel anything. The only tough part was that the 2 assistants were hot young women. Fortunately I didn’t rise to the occasion. 🫤

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  72. My husband was a virgin when we met, at 26. He never talked to girls and was pretty shy. He finally decided he wanted to push past that and asked a mutual friend of ours if he knew anyone who was single. My husband mentioned to him he liked redheads and my friend mentioned me. He messaged me on Facebook and asked me out for coffee. Point is, don’t approach it as “omg I need to have sex!” That won’t work. Approach it as, “I want to be more comfortable around women and maybe ask one out and see how it goes.” We’ve been married 10 years and have 2 daughters. It can happen for you too.

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  73. Well, 2 days is too long for the morning after pill, so the only thing you can do to know for sure is take a test in 2-3 weeks. But from what you describe, it doesn't sound likely at all. Unless he came shortly before that, precum probably doesn't have viable sperm in it, and then as you said, you used condom. chances of a micro tear are also very small, especially if you used it correctly. Try to keep in mind, that stressing can also make your period late, so if it doesn't come on time, know that it is more likely to be from stress than pregnancy.

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  76. She fucked other dudes man. She didn't tell you because she felt like you wouldn't handle it well which seems to be the case. If you weren't together you can't justifiably be upset. Pussy is resilient and will recover.

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  78. I love beautiful women and that black white or Asian.i am white There are very beautiful black women so yes white men do like black women.

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  80. If you are wondering why: I like the evolutionary model that suggests sometimes dreams are trial runs or simulations preparing us for stressful or unexpected events. Should those events occur in real life, you’ve already experienced it in a dream and are therefore better prepared to deal with it. Also, ever seen Eyes Wide Shut?

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  82. Something like this can sometimes involve thoughtful and respectful compromise. By that I mean that there might be something that you don’t absolutely love to do, but it doesn’t cross a boundary, so you are willing to do it because your partner enjoys it. It’s okay for him to be “open to anything,” but a healthy relationship includes respecting each other’s needs and boundaries. He can be upset and disappointed, and it’s fine for him to express that as long as he is taking care to ensure your comfort and isn’t belittling or otherwise trying to make you feel bad for having different boundaries. I don’t want to make assumptions, but I will say that the way you’re describing the conversations raises red flags for me, and my concern is that he is not being completely honest with you.

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  84. Please go to therapy, asap. This kind of assault can change you, your interactions with men, your self-confidence, all Kinds of things. My first time went like this and “taught” me that saying no was useless. I was not able to overcome that for decades.

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  86. I've also always been ok with bdsm. I honestly thought that fell under the vanilla definition. Of course, I guess I never thought I needed a definition until now.

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  89. Just look for a hung guy to act like the prior men youve had b4.. You could do role plays even or change the wording of prospective guys required from bull to dom or confident hung guys etc

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  92. I am unable to cum twice but on occasion, I can still maintain an erection sufficient for intercourse. Unsure why but if I cum outside of her, I can continue. Inside and I’m done. Maybe try that or just experiment in general. I am of no help!

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  93. First of all, quit feeling sorry for yourself. Nobody wants to fuck someone who is seething with self-pity. Find a hobby you can share with other people. Meetup is good, join a softball league, or if you play an instrument, find others to jam with. People connect with others that share interests. I'm older than you, and I'm far from being great looking. If you can make a woman laugh, you're doing something right. And don't assume everyone will want to be with you. I mean honestly, if you just become strictly friends with a woman, that's great too. Women are the ultimate wingmen. I have friends that will kind of flirt with me in front of other women, solely to get them interested. Don't be creepy. I promise there is somebody out there. And actually many, many more where she came from.

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  94. Like I said, ethically speaking this is 100 percent sexual assault. Legally speaking? You probably wouldn’t be able to charge the guy let alone convict them in most jurisdictions. The reason being is in a court room, a defense attorney is going to 100 percent argue that she gave him implied consent, and they might not be able to prove without a reasonable doubt to the contrary. That’s the tough thing about proving rape or sexual assault in these sort of situations.

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  95. Your comment about seeing men as competition and feeling grossed out by the thought of your girlfriend being with other men could be linked to internalized societal stereotypes about women as objects of sexual desire for men. This is because if you see men as competition, it implies that you view your girlfriend's sexual experiences as a way to validate your own masculinity or to assert control over her in a way. This view is rooted in the idea that women's sexual experiences are primarily for the benefit of men, and can be a manifestation of misogyny. It's important for you to gain insight on your beliefs and challenge any that may be harmful or perpetuate gender stereotypes. Additionally, expressing that you're okay with your girlfriend being with other women but not men could be seen as objectifying and fetishizing lesbian relationships, which often involves reducing same-sex relationships between women to a sexual fetish, without acknowledging the emotional and romantic aspects of those relationships. This attitude reduces same-sex relationships between women to a mere sexual fantasy for the benefit of heterosexual men, which can be harmful and disrespectful to those who identify as lesbian or bisexual. I'd suggest that you invest some time to gain more self-awareness about your own motivations and attitudes towards same-sex relationships, and to ensure that you are respectful and considerate of not only your partner's boundaries and feelings, but also same-sex relationships.

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  96. Appreciate the clarification. Talk to your wife about it. Be straightfoward. “Babe you said XYZ and I'm feeling a bit hurt by that. Can we talk about this?” Also, and I hope you know this as a grownup – there are many ways to please a woman that do not involve your penis in her vagina. Massage, cuddles, kisses (everywhere) oral sex, fingers, you get the idea, and toys. Vibrators, fuzzy handcuffs or straps, feathers, whips, whatever. There is are so many avenues to give her pleasure, and a strapon is just one tiny little slice of that glorious pie. Good luck to you two.

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  97. The “misogynistic” term has become widely used even when the terminology doesn’t quite relate to the situation at hand. You’re doing the right thing by having a conversation about this before anything happens, I guess what we’re missing here to make an educated guess on if you’re being misogynistic or not would involve what did you say was ok? Did you say you’d be ok with it sexually for you to watch or ok for her to have an emotional connection? Did you lay down guidelines on what these other women are supposed to look like? It could go either way but we’re missing enough context to not be able to determine one way or another

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  99. OP, you should start seeing women as competition. My girl’s fiancé told her she could see women and now she and I have been together for nearly 5 years 😂

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  100. I’m sure he loved it. My wife rubs my dick on her face and it feels pretty good. It also lets us know you’re having a good time so it’s more enjoyable for us

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  101. If he’s not mature enough to respect the boundaries you’ve set, he’s probably not mature enough to have a threesome in this relationship.

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  106. Pharmacist here: 1) There isn't really anything safe that is going to be effective. Pretty much everything out there has no evidence or proof for it. And when it does work it is just going to be placebo effect. Oysters, chocolate, you name it, when you actually study it there is no aphroditic effect 2) Where you are going to have changes in sensations are actual drugs, that come with risks. Ecstasy, poppers, amphetamines, are all going to cause increased arousal, but all can be very dangerous and contaminated with other substances. Some people enjoy intercourse on opioids, marajuana, etc. But again are associated with risk. Your best bet, is going to be good old communication, and knowing what turns each other on. Being horny is very much a mental thing, and best achieved by knowing each other well, and engaging in acts, and communication that turn each other on

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  108. So many people would be turned off by men fucking their girlfriends, and be okay with women fucking them. That isn't homophobic. That's stupid. That's just life.

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  110. You’re fetishizing lesbians so yeah it’s misogynistic and also kind of homophobic like you don’t see two women together as real sex or a real relationship

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  111. jesus these comments are so dogshit. It’s rooted in the fact that men have been competing with other men for millenia for fucks sakes. You know who passed on their genes to allow OP the chance to be born? The men who were willing to compete. He doesnt hate gay people. He doesn’t hate women. He’s just a human being who combined his biological makeup with thoughts of his own to feel okay with something and not okay with something else. What is it with these braindead takes on here?

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  113. So an update is that he was able to maintain an erection for sex until he pulled out of course but marijuana does help.

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  114. Thanks for your answer. I remember in sex ed in school we were told that talking about past sexual expereince with a new partner was to be expected. But I have to say that's never felt OK for me.

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  116. Ok, so you are best friends. You are going to marry her. And yet, you are asking Reddit how to get her to fulfill your fantasies? Maybe I missing something but I think approaching this TOGETHER, respectfully, and as the team you claim to be, is the first and only piece of advice I can give you here.

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  118. your response literally highlights the problem in his thinking. You're saying he should only allow her to explore what he “can't provide” while bemoaning the possibility of people who “provide what he can” outdoing him.

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  120. I can't stand them haha. Awful reading. I have tried literotica which is okay I guess! Still doesn't make me wanna let my BF touch me

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  123. Eh? How are we supposed to know? Personally I’d be fucking mortified if someone showed me that, including my partner. But she might be totally into that.

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  125. Yeah. Seems like she has a point but also the idea that op hates women because he doesn’t want his girlfriend fooling around with other guys is kind of ridiculous. It’s unclear if she’s being genuine or if she’s trying to guilt him into doing something hes not comfortable with.

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  128. lol dog, you are allowed your insecurities. my girl fucking a man would make me insecure, her fucking a girl would not. I don't think it's that crazy.

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  129. I share a similar ideology. I can’t compete with a woman. I’d feel much better if my partner left me for a woman than another man. At least she left me for something I couldn’t provide.

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  133. By saying 'you can have sex with women only, because it turns me on' he's making her experience about him and his sexual gratification… which is gross and misogynistic because he's just using the prospective other woman involved as a prop in his lesbian fantasy. To delve into this, we are assuming (reasonably so) that he did not ask for her SO input on his prospective partners. That would make him a bit of a hypocrite. If he did, well, things change again.

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  134. Don't ever let anyone “yuck your yummies”. Scour the internet and you'll quickly find that anything you can think of has a fetish. Feet, cuckold, solo male, solo female, orgies, I think you know what I mean. You enjoy what you enjoy and if you have a high sex drive then that's a gift. A lot of people in general aren't able to self reflect on what they like so if you've found what gets you off utilize that for as long as you can.

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  136. And how women feeling disgusted by something is something they just can't help while men feeling disgusted is immediately pathologised. This whole post is filled with sexism and pseudoscientific takes on psychology.

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  137. Hi! I'm non binary but I was born female. I have periods in my life where I'm literally always horny. Women and AFAB have been conditioned to feel shame about our sex drive but there's nothing to be ashamed about. I can imagine that living in a country where sex is even more taboo will make your libido skyrocket even more.

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  139. I can understand you well. You are living in a society which prevent woman to reach their freedom. ( ı'm also living a muslim country but not strict as your) Firstly: You shouldn't feel bad. You are a girl, you have needs. Also you can have a high libido which is very normal thing. Also you say being horny a man thing. I don't know if it will help but let me say something. My ex gf was raised by strict parents. She didn't even masturbate one time. But as soon as she talked me about sex, she was drooling. Later, she was moaning in her dreams, craving and going crazy for me every single day, for years. I don't think she was a man 😀 Relax, feel safe to write.

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  141. Find someone who meets your description. But make sure there are plenty of good signs that he personally cares about pleasing his lady. Take your time as merely finding someone in the age range you desire is no guarantee that the particular person will care about pleasing his lady. Have fun. And be careful.

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  143. Yeah in the back of my mind I knew the answer I’m just in denial I guess bc I’ve done so much just do get nothing 🙁 and yeah :/

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  145. I disagree with the advice above. I think you should do it. If you get there and you’re just feeling like watching, don’t force yourself to do more. You can always leave early, too. But the advantage of events like these is that, you’re in a room full of people who are all agreeing that sexuality is okay, nudity is okay, and there’s nothing wrong with enjoying carnality. I think these events can be lower pressure than one on one, where there’s a lot of expectations on you, and only you, to perform. If you go to an event like this, I do think it will be a confidence builder. It’s a unique experience, it will be thrilling, and it will let you prove to yourself that you can do something sexually intense. People on Reddit have this way of fearing intense emotions. The more fear you build up over having intense emotions, the more you can get trapped in a cycle of fearing having fear. I think it’s hard to prove to yourself that you’re capable of courage if you never give yourself the chance to do something that requires courage from you.

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  146. To add to that, I would recommend changing your masturbation habits to something like a very soft fleshlight instead of your hands, or use lube and a very light touch. Don't masturbate near when you're having sex so you're sensitive enough to enjoy it. This is because inside a woman is supposed to be very soft and “light” and yes, sometimes this means you can't feel very much. You didn't say if you used a condom but that can really kill sensation, the only thing you can do there is get a size and style that lets you rub inside the condom itself, not the vagina specifically, so lube the inside of the condom head. Also, sometimes too much lube or too thick lube can make it feel like sex with a bowl of warm jello, try different water-based lubes or natural/saliva warmup. Having a very soft and “light touch” partner or sex toy however can be AMAZING because it allows you to edge for miles, becoming more and more sensitive as time goes, too much sensation would make this impossible. I prefer a very light and soft touch and sometimes orgasm way too fast if my partner is squeezing or creating too much sensation.

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  147. You’re putting all the blame on her husband for being a careless lover, but she said herself that she didn’t just let it fall into a pattern and didn’t communicate that more was needed. To suddenly dump on a guy: “hey, sorry I never gave you any feedback or anything sooner but basically you suck? And have always sucked?” And expecting him to just suck up the blow to his ego?

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  148. Like you say, the only way you can know is by her telling you However, is she complaining? From what you write it sounds like she says she's enjoying it, so what's the issue? Continue doing as you are

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  153. Back seat of a transit bus or a family bathroom at a store at least there you can lock the door and if anybody says anything you can tell them your boyfriend had an accident on himself and you were helping him clean up It embarrasses him and it keeps you all safe but remember share videos on here or it didn't happen lol or send them to me for the great advice good hunting

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  157. I personally like to lick the lips and the inside. To really drive her wild I will slide a finger in and stroke the G-Spot while lightly sucking her clit in between my lips and quickly running my tongue over it. As far as the body movements, when she is bucking her hips like a wild horse and has her hands on the back of your head and pushing it into her like her life depends on it you know you’re in the right spot!!!

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  160. I did not say “most,” I said “many.” As in millions, and I stand by it. If it's a deal breaker for both sides of a relationship then so be it, but there are quite a lot of women who genuinely do enjoy it on its own merit.

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  163. Ask her questions about her sexual satisfaction, what makes her cum when she finger’s herself? How does she like it, what does she avoid? Then do exactly as she says. We cannot help you with her body, all are different.

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  166. Seems like a very controlling/manipulative breaking point. He can always just shoot down everything and blame you perpetually for not coming up with something he wants to do. You've tried to come up with 5 things. That's more than I'd do if my partner told me to blindly guess something great they'll want to try while wielding some strange bruised ego blame over my head. Now it's their turn to at least come up with a direction to explore. Aren't you supposed to be partners working on things together, not mind readers?

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  168. Maybe don’t put it exactly that way. He has a special 12 piece tweeze kit with a Velcro closure. He puts on the headlamp and asks if Cleopatra/Domina would like to be groomed… as he slowly peels the 5in Velcro apart. That sound is 🔥! It’s a lot like a dog presenting her belly on my end. Trust is essential and hairs are inherently blemishes for women. I suppose that’s why it’s so intimate.

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  172. I wouldn't say he lied to your face. I can think of a couple of reasons why you ended up here. When you said you want sex more than once a day, everyday he may have thought you were exaggerating as this is highly unusual from his experience. He may have no idea what his limit was as he never had the opportunity to push his limit before. I'm not saying a guy who good for sex twice a day don't exist but you have to look for him. Maybe we're talking about 10% of guys? I'm just guessing here. To his credit he's not doing too badly compared to the general population. Anyway good luck and make sure your next partner really takes your preferred frequency seriously.

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  173. You're taking the name too literally. Performance anxiety isn't just about “performing”, it's a fear of something not going well or not living up to your expectations. If you abstained from sex until you were married, and then married someone you think is perfect for you, there's a lot of pressure for your sex life to be equally outstanding. All I'm saying is, if you've seen 2 gynos and tried everything else, maybe the next stop is a psychologist.

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  175. Take a look through the FAQ section on Sexual Techniques, especially under the heading “Spicing Things Up.” There are lots of great ideas in there. Post removed.

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  176. Yeah it 100% is. As a dude, every dude I’ve ever met who “doesn’t like going down on women” has turned out to be a massive creep or abuser. That’s just my experience tho

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  177. asking me isn't the best idea You're the one who wrote in here with an opinion, friend. OP's SO is all for finding a solution that works for the both of them Is he? Because earlier in the post she specifically said he defends himself by “what about-ing” and bringing up her vibrator. Having a conversation is one thing. Actually working towards a solution is another. I'd reserve judgment until I see he's actively working on it. He most likely didn't even know she had a problem with it Again, see previous comment. He was acting defensive. She has brought this up before. There are two possibilities here. A. He's an addict and can't get off without porn. This would mean that he needs help and support to break the addiction. Or B. He's just a disrespectful, selfish lover. He doesn't need porn but prefers it to looking at his partner, making her feel inadequate, ugly, unappreciated, and used. I'd say B. is worse.

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  179. If you don't feel comfortable dont give in. He should respect it. If you want to fuck there s an endless supply of cocks out there.

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  181. Saying “you have been bad for 2 years” basically means I have been lying/hiding something from you for 2 years. Thats just cruel, keep the story in the present.

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  182. Haha i did. Twice. Im hypersexual and i think my bpd is making me want to do this type of risky sex as some form of self harm haha.

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  183. I think you need to bring this issue to a therapist. It sounds like this is interfering with other areas of your life, and a therapist can help you develop a healthier and more balanced approach to sexuality.

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  184. I do this quite often, he just waits a minute and then she lets him back in and we continue. It doesn’t bother him a bit.

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  185. The question is: what’s holding you back? Are you feeling uncomfortable? Or have a fear he might lose interest after? Or self conscious about something?..etc. Asking yourself that (and maybe sharing here if you’re comfortable) can help us better guide you. But just to say there are no rules. For ex with my current bf we slept together after the first date (we live in different countries and we only had one night that time so I thought “ya we might as well”) 6 months later and we are still together and its the best thing that has ever happened to me. So really, no right or wrong

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  186. That depends on the girl. I rather prefer shorter sex but a few more times. Other girls like to have sex for an hour or two. Communication with your partner can be a blessing in that regard.

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  187. Not to feed your fears, but a lot of the woman i've dated have made me not want to go down on them. Whether from having too much hair, not properly cleaning their pussy, etc. Often times i'd be holding back gagging from taste of some girls. The only reason I would force myself to do it is because I appreciated that they did it to me. I've only been with a few women who tasted amazing Like I said before though, that's more of a me problem and the same would be said for him, provide you do a good job and keeping those other pink lips clean and tidy. The only way you'll get an answer to this is by communicating it with him though.

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  189. 100% agree, there is no number how many dates, if it feels right for both u can have Sex the first time the second or third and so on. For myself i wait around 2-3 months, i dont need to rush anything, i need trust and a feeling of love, otherwise its worthless for me.

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  190. I don't think many people would disagree or consider that bigoted. If a straight man's partner comes out as a man, his sexual orientation just isn't compatible with respecting his partner's maleness, and it's not really something either of them can change.

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  191. Whiney ass SJW response. Nobody said anything about women being sexual objects except YOU. Go think about that

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  194. I had sex with a guy on the first date and definitely thought I would never hear from him again. Well, I've been with that first date guy for 19 years, married for 16 of those. Just do what feels right to you. If that means waiting, that's ok, but if you want to have sex now, that is ok too!

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  196. Also, as I really wanted him to have s nice time, sometimes I'd ask him to tell me how he wants me to blow him, or ride him, or what else he wants done to him, but he'd always say to just keep doing what I already was doing. I used to think he might be ashamed to asked for some stuff, but I guess he figured it wouldn't really be appropriate to tell me that nothing I do will be good enough, because I can't compare to his own hand.

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  197. Hormonal surges, ya know? You were simply more horny at that age and now you're working on a more homeostatic basis because you're past your teens. Could be a mental thing if you're having trouble orgasming, but for that I'd recommend masturbation and teaching your partner what you like through it. Then… Yeah

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  198. Did your GP suggest a hormone panel blood test? From my experience with both myself (56M) and women partners, this would be the next step to see what's going on.

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  199. He sounds like a “nice guy” I would have already been up in them guts, woman. Anyways if hes a player like me then you're wasting his time if you don't give it up by the 2nd or 3rd date. He will move on to the next. But I would put it to the test see if he Will he wait 5 or 6 dates. Your doing good 👍

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  200. “i don't want to bind myself in a relationship right now but i wouldn't mind having some fun. Can you imagine a fwb scenario with me?”

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  201. You're right but I think you're missing the point. Nobody owes anybody a relationship, but if they are looking for a relationship and you're not, it's foul play to play along until you get sex as if you also were looking for a relationship, when you have only sexual intentions.

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  202. Some women on here can find a way to blame men for literally anything, yeah hearing that your fiancé criticised your genitals is going to cause insecurities.

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  203. Well for fucks sake. People talk. Everyone knows this. It’s not reasonable to expect best friends to not tell each other everything. Tell him you’re sorry that your actions hurt his feelings, that that wasn’t your intent, but that you also have no plan to stop freely communicating with your friends.

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  204. It always amazes me how many women don't learn this lesson. No one should ever divulge private information to others without that person's consent. I don't care if it's a husband, boyfriend, coworker, or stranger on the bus. And I don't care if it's to your best friend, mother, therapist, or priest. You do NOT divulge information that the other person would consider private.   A lot of guys would consider this an an absolute no-second-chance reason to dump you on the side of an empty road in the middle of the night. I would have demanded the ring back from you at the table right then and there, in front of your friend. I'd be shocked if he doesn't cancel the wedding and dump you, and if he does go through with the wedding, you've still fucked the relationship. There is nothing you can do to repair this. There is nothing you can do to make him forget.

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  205. Talk about it, give your perspective and listen to hers. It seems like you already have, though. No coercion. It's a conversation, not a debate. As long as you're putting something in HER vagina, if she wants you to use condoms, you use condoms. If this is a relationship breaker for you, it is what it is.

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  206. You can wait the 7 days as suggested by your doctor but I absolutely wouldn’t dip my stick into anything until I was tested first. Obviously Chlamydia can be treated but not everyone gets symptoms. So a lot of people will not get tested. My sister became infertile from getting it and not knowing for 6 years. I had an ex who got chlamydia his first time having sex and it’s sterilized him. Which is the only reason I highly suggest a second test.

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  208. that dumb study that gets parroted around isnt what you think it is, you should research it for yourself instead of just accepting that shit as if its a fact first of all that “study” was on a dating site with an extremely low amount of women in it (every dating site has a low amount of women in it usually 70-90% men and 30-10% of women depenting on the dating app and that doesnt even count all the bots and scammer who have female profiles), so that is already extremely flawed and almost useless people could only rated attractive or unattractive and men are known for not being good in making profiles and taking pictures of themselfs while women are mostly better at it and also care more about their appearence women rated only 20% of men as attractive but messaged men they didnt rated as attractive while men rated women more evenly but only contacted the top 30% of women this pathetic “study” isnt even about height and is mostly used as a ragebait for angry men most women will not care about your height, my SO is 161cm which is about 5,3' i think, the same height as me

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  213. First off don't call her vagina stinky. Genuinely approach her with concern and say you've noticed an abnormal smell. You can say you saw online it can be a symptom of certain infections and has she seen a gyno recently. If you frame it as a health concern instead of how it impacts “your nut” you're less likely to come across as an ass.

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  214. Lmao. All jokes aside, we've reached a level of compatibility with each other that's making us both think we should just date 🤷

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  216. In the book Come as You Are, the author talks about stress cycles and their effect on sexual inhibition/excitement. She explains that completing the stress cycle and returning a place when you feel safe (physically, mentally and emotionally) is crucial to sexual excitement. It could be that the horror movie is acting as a stress cycle and after the movie, the feelings of safety and comfort are felt more acutely, which naturally leads to sexual excitement?

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  217. I'm not sure what you're referring to. What is a “hardcore”? If you are asking about douching, I don't. It's very bad for your vaginal health to do that.

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  218. Is it out of the question that she asked you to get tested because she already did? I don’t know. I’m not going to say what others have said. Learn from your mistakes. But now have you asked her why she wanted you to get tested? I would think that conversation should be more like, “hey you know we’ve hooked up maybe WE should get tested.” Seems odd to sleep with a partner and then say it make them feel better if only you got tested?

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  220. Yes his pleasure matters but it's not a productive way to approach the conversation. Which is why he's here asking for help.

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  222. Guys can you pls leave me alone I get it I’m wrong I’m sorry I really don’t wanna argue back and forth, I took the comments down pls I’m sorry thanks for correcting me

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  225. The move is you(F) lay on your back and have him his get on his knees by your legs as if he was gonna pretzel you. Slide your left leg in between his legs, then throw/place your right leg over towards the right side of his body..usually around the waist area. At this time you can adjust yourself to get a bit more comfortable. He can now slide it in and get to it. Now he can get in deeper and grip your ass, hips, breast, throat, or just admire your body with minimal effort. If you guys know what this is called.. put me on game.

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  227. Good, I hope they work. That’s what I do to not ejaculate. I’ve been with a couple women like you, in the sense that they wanted to fall asleep right after orgasm. But they didn’t have the too quick orgasm problem. Another option is to enjoy other aspect of intimacy, caressing, massaging, giving pleasure, and so on, so that your intimacy lasts longer.

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  228. Toward the end of our 2 week fling, she invited me over for a family pool party. After, I told her the smell of chlorine bothered me (it does but I also used this as an excuse) and we should should shower when we got back to her apartment. The shower muted the smell for a few minutes before it came roaring back. I don't know how I ever had sex with someone with such a stinky box.

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  230. Bite his dick next time he does it or flick him in the balls (the front part where the vas defrens are located). When he asks tell him you are practicing behavioral modification. Negative reinforcement for actions you don't like. Also, fuck that guy.

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  231. Order a pizza from your closest pizza place. Now set up a dating profile. You can have a dick in you before the pizza arrives. But it sounds like you're looking for someone who is safe, will respect you and treat you well (and who will also have sex with you in a way that is mutually enjoyable). That takes time. Nowhere in your post did you mention the hobbies that you do on a regular basis in a social setting.

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  233. He’s sexually assaulting and gaslighting you. How you leave is also important. Don’t talk to him alone. Don’t stay by yourself right after you break up. You don’t have to tell him in person either. You owe him nothing. I think he chose you because of your trauma. So be careful around him. He absolutely knows what he’s doing, and could be dangerous. If you’re living with him and don’t have anywhere else go, local women’s shelters are available for people in your situation. Be safe. I don’t want you having more trauma.

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  234. I'm pretty straightforward with him, I've told him numerous times (spaced out, I'm not an asshole) but I'm pretty sure there's something he's not telling me – and it's defintiely not hygiene related or anything obvious like that, we're very open about when either of us isn't so fresh. It's been getting very 'dead bedrooms' around here. Tonight's the first night we've had sex in almost a month (used to be as much as we could) and it didn't go well. I could just feel the fact he couldn't be bothered – despite him initiating for the first time in forever. As soon as I can see that in him, it's like my vagina completely switches off. Him not wanting to pleasure me like he used to is such a turn off. R.e the second issue, I get that! I'm okay with it, it was a surprising admission from him though considering we're both pretty switchy and he's not the most dominant person sexually.

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  235. No rules! If dryness persists, there’s an OTC moisturizer made for the vagina – use a few times a week. Up your hydration too, a lot. Some women need clit and g spot stimulation at the same time. Maybe look at a toy that does this for you. I like clit orgasms first, gspot comes right after usually. Experiment with toys, fingers, running the bath water over you. UberLube is a great product btw.

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  236. I felt the same way the first time I pegged a guy, take your time and enjoy the ride! Now I do it often and I love doing it!

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  237. He’s just doing what he wants dude. Most people will say Bail. I say you calmly explain that you will never be giving him head again without telling him anything else, and see how he respects that boundary. Your relationship can continue, but he has lost that privilege permanently. He knows your well articulated boundaries. If you see a therapist, now is a great time to talk about calmly reinforcing and setting boundaries. Breaking boundaries has consequences. You can give him an easy consequence or you can bail.

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  239. that makes sense ig thats why ive done illegal stuff in the past. Ok I'll try that thx for the advice I need to clear my mind maybe some sort of meditation can help

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  240. Note that I said infection, not STD. It could very likely be bacterial vaginosis or a yeast infection. Condoms (especially lubricated ones) often cause odours too – maybe a break from intercourse would help ! If “nothing is wrong with her” then why does her vagina smell abnormal? The vagina is self cleaning, if it’s not an infection then something is up with how her body is processing which would then mean something is wrong. When having sex with her I’m sure he can look and see for himself in those moments if she’s keeping up with hygiene. It could also very well be that these two people are incompatible on a pheromonal level and if that’s the case and nothing is wrong with her health, maybe it’s best they part ways. Someone not liking the way someone else’s genitals smell is not the end of the world. If that’s the straw that breaks the camels back then I’d assume there’s a lot more going on than just that.

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  241. Oh heavens no, she wrote the column “Call Me Madam” in Penthouse Magazine for 35 years Btw, I'm a sis

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  242. Maybe . . . the frustration is less sexual deprivation than being penned in by the marriage and rest of your social network, and by society in general? That this desire may not be all that strong, but it's there, and how sad that you can't pursue it because of how husband, family, friends, society at large will react. Nonsexual desires, too, could be thwarted in these ways. Across the world, people are brought to believe that sex without romance is wrong. This doctrine can be hard to unlearn. I hope that at least once, you can safely get the girl. Or the girl gets you. 🙂

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  243. I live in Europe (Netherlands) and have never seen a gyn and don't go to the doc for regular checkups. That's not a thing here, unless everyone around me has kept it secret that they're all doing that lol. I only go when I think something's up and I would go to the doc first and if he thinks I should see a gyn, that's the next step. Just an FYI 🙂

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  244. This can be a lot of fun. Enjoy it. Make it about both of you learning, and then learn together. Many of us went through this in one way or another.

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  246. They might be freaked out by the idea of taking your virginity because they don’t want to risk hurting a sexual partner, or seeing blood. Some people are also too lazy or self absorbed to bother with foreplay and they know a virgin will need that (though most of the rest of us also do). They might be paranoid that you’ll fall in love with them or otherwise develop a strong emotional attachment purely because they’re your first. There could be several reasons but it’s a decent cue to make friends with someone and then ask them to take it- the guy who took mine had already known me for 2 whole years and we started as platonic friends then fooled around a lot before finally doing it

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