As someone who engages in anal frequently, I often gauge myself to know whether or not itāll be possible. For example, if Iām backed up or have been having a really bad bowel day, I often just tell my SO that the back door isnāt really an option. Weāve had pretty much no messes when it comes to anal because ima blue to gauge whether or not I feel like itāll be ācleanā enough for it. My SO is a VERY clean man, so he appreciates when I keep him in the loop. Honestly though, it is an occupational hazard, and if the guy is going to freak out over it and straight up leave only to text you from your driveway asking you to get him hard againā¦ it sounds like it isnāt really worth keeping up this hookup. Messes happen. What is he going to get turned off if you queef?
Iām sorry that you are going through that ..I have experienced my own insecurities with my body especially after having my son so I know how it feels. Itās horrible especially when you have a partner that is super supportive and kind about it and it seems like youāre always picking a fight with them disagreeing because you really donāt feel like you are how they see you. Some thing that helped for me was not feeling forced into getting completely naked every time we had sex ! For example, I got super insecure about my stomach area so I noticed that what triggered it was whenever I had my shirt off obviously and he could see it. Even though he didnāt care -in my head it ruined it for me so I would have the blanket cover it or the pillow or I would keep a tank top on ..I also got some new lingerie that covered the parts I was insecure about ā¦but that made it a lot easier for me because I felt like I was in control of what he could see and slowly I got enough confidence to remove it again and feel OK completely naked with him
I have been so turned off by men once I know their personality. Looks arenāt anything. Itās who you are. So I agree with PP. find people who share your interests. And stop seeking sex. Thatās probably obvious and coming off as creepy as hell.
As someone who engages in anal frequently, I often gauge myself to know whether or not itāll be possible. For example, if Iām backed up or have been having a really bad bowel day, I often just tell my SO that the back door isnāt really an option. Weāve had pretty much no messes when it comes to anal because ima blue to gauge whether or not I feel like itāll be ācleanā enough for it. My SO is a VERY clean man, so he appreciates when I keep him in the loop. Honestly though, it is an occupational hazard, and if the guy is going to freak out over it and straight up leave only to text you from your driveway asking you to get him hard againā¦ it sounds like it isnāt really worth keeping up this hookup. Messes happen. What is he going to get turned off if you queef?
Iām sorry that you are going through that ..I have experienced my own insecurities with my body especially after having my son so I know how it feels. Itās horrible especially when you have a partner that is super supportive and kind about it and it seems like youāre always picking a fight with them disagreeing because you really donāt feel like you are how they see you. Some thing that helped for me was not feeling forced into getting completely naked every time we had sex ! For example, I got super insecure about my stomach area so I noticed that what triggered it was whenever I had my shirt off obviously and he could see it. Even though he didnāt care -in my head it ruined it for me so I would have the blanket cover it or the pillow or I would keep a tank top on ..I also got some new lingerie that covered the parts I was insecure about ā¦but that made it a lot easier for me because I felt like I was in control of what he could see and slowly I got enough confidence to remove it again and feel OK completely naked with him
I have been so turned off by men once I know their personality. Looks arenāt anything. Itās who you are. So I agree with PP. find people who share your interests. And stop seeking sex. Thatās probably obvious and coming off as creepy as hell.
Good for you! š
Someone has a chip on their shoulder, throwing around terms like in fact. Check your attitude.
That is excellent! Keep up the good work!
As someone with the female equivalent of a micro penis.. Iām beyond jealous. You should feel blessed if anything
YES!