I’m 41f and just did it for the first time recently. I looked at the training kits online but never got around to buying them. We watched an instructional video. Not very sexy, but quite informative! How we did it: he loosened it up with a finger and lube. Then he lay on his back and I squatted/ kneeled above him and slowly lowered myself down. It puts the woman in control, you can take breaks and breathe. It shouldn’t be painful. Good luck!
I’m 41f and just did it for the first time recently. I looked at the training kits online but never got around to buying them. We watched an instructional video. Not very sexy, but quite informative! How we did it: he loosened it up with a finger and lube. Then he lay on his back and I squatted/ kneeled above him and slowly lowered myself down. It puts the woman in control, you can take breaks and breathe. It shouldn’t be painful. Good luck!