If you try again in the future I'd recommend prepping with an enema beforehand. The bacteria and stuff will still be present, but I would imagine less risk of actual waste being present. Unfortunately this type of thing can and will be judged by some so maybe only share to less vanilla friends or reddit in the future.
I don't think it can ever be that smooth when you talk about improvements to each other's sexual techniques but it's also not like you need to have this conversation all the time unless you're with a new guy every single time. I think the least intrusive is when you're snuggling in bed after and able to laugh and joke and still bring up possible ways to improve. Maybe you can even inspire the guy for a round two where, even with humor but still enough seriousness to learn, he can ask, “How about this? How about that?”
Lizard brain. Similar to why we crave sex so often (some of us), or like something pointless such as kissing. Google asexual, people that don't have the instinctual cravings for these things.
I think the him just saying “you’re making it up” is insecurity, but him asking you if you came is just him making sure you had a good time as well. Some women do fake orgasms though, probably just wants make sure you’re not, and that you’re actually enjoying yourself.
Did you try inserting an anal plug during PIV? This requires a bit less preparation and maybe it combines anal with PIV enough for you to enjoy it similarly to anal alone 🙂
If you try again in the future I'd recommend prepping with an enema beforehand. The bacteria and stuff will still be present, but I would imagine less risk of actual waste being present. Unfortunately this type of thing can and will be judged by some so maybe only share to less vanilla friends or reddit in the future.
What is the age of consent law where you are located?
I don't think it can ever be that smooth when you talk about improvements to each other's sexual techniques but it's also not like you need to have this conversation all the time unless you're with a new guy every single time. I think the least intrusive is when you're snuggling in bed after and able to laugh and joke and still bring up possible ways to improve. Maybe you can even inspire the guy for a round two where, even with humor but still enough seriousness to learn, he can ask, “How about this? How about that?”
Lizard brain. Similar to why we crave sex so often (some of us), or like something pointless such as kissing. Google asexual, people that don't have the instinctual cravings for these things.
Why would that worry you? Yes, it happens.
Have you asked him why he doesn't do it more, or asked him to either give you more oral or more nipple stimulation? If so, what did he say?
I think the him just saying “you’re making it up” is insecurity, but him asking you if you came is just him making sure you had a good time as well. Some women do fake orgasms though, probably just wants make sure you’re not, and that you’re actually enjoying yourself.
but..how will i do certain positions with such a bend?
That thing she likes…
Toothbrush?? That seems incredibly hurtful
Vaginal orgasm can be hard to get for large groups of people
Did you try inserting an anal plug during PIV? This requires a bit less preparation and maybe it combines anal with PIV enough for you to enjoy it similarly to anal alone 🙂