Sex can be terrifying. 🤷🏻‍♀️ When you’re nervous, scared, stressed, or overwhelmed it can ruin a good situation quickly. Ignore your doctor. While it’s normal to be scared, Imo the length and intensity of your fear leading to an 8 year relationship with imposed celibacy when you’d LIKE to be having sex is not normal. Your doctor should be offering you outlets to have this checked out. If you have the insurance, a pelvic floor therapist might be a healthy place to start to learn relaxation techniques and can help you work with dilating tools to stretch and work with all the way up to active sex. I’d also suggest books, workshops, or a sex therapist for you as a couple to learn techniques to enhance what you are currently working with sexually and move you to a more productive working place to have sex comfortably. Best of luck, and keep chasing what you’re after. You’ll get there!
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Ahaha passive is probably the furthest thing I am in bed
pretty much
Sex can be terrifying. 🤷🏻‍♀️ When you’re nervous, scared, stressed, or overwhelmed it can ruin a good situation quickly. Ignore your doctor. While it’s normal to be scared, Imo the length and intensity of your fear leading to an 8 year relationship with imposed celibacy when you’d LIKE to be having sex is not normal. Your doctor should be offering you outlets to have this checked out. If you have the insurance, a pelvic floor therapist might be a healthy place to start to learn relaxation techniques and can help you work with dilating tools to stretch and work with all the way up to active sex. I’d also suggest books, workshops, or a sex therapist for you as a couple to learn techniques to enhance what you are currently working with sexually and move you to a more productive working place to have sex comfortably. Best of luck, and keep chasing what you’re after. You’ll get there!
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