And that is my point. A safe gesture was not in place because a discussion was not had. My husband and I specifically discuss new things to try, and if I'm unable to speak we SPECIFICALLY set a gesture. Without establishing those limits prior, it takes full control away from one partner which damages trust. I love being dominated, but communication first is necessary first.
Pretty simply imo, she feels like she can't get off without her vibrator and it does feel like a crutch to her so when you said as long as it doesn't become a crutch what she heard was, 'I don't care if you ever orgasm.'.
And that is my point. A safe gesture was not in place because a discussion was not had. My husband and I specifically discuss new things to try, and if I'm unable to speak we SPECIFICALLY set a gesture. Without establishing those limits prior, it takes full control away from one partner which damages trust. I love being dominated, but communication first is necessary first.
i was my ex's first gf too. he wasn't fond of nude pics either. i still never found out why
Pretty simply imo, she feels like she can't get off without her vibrator and it does feel like a crutch to her so when you said as long as it doesn't become a crutch what she heard was, 'I don't care if you ever orgasm.'.