The next time the two of you are making out grab his hand and put it on your clit, make eye contact and tell him you want him to play with it. If you really want to surprise him try not to wear any panties ๐ Guys love it when youโre direct with them.
If you feel embarrassment or reticence, that will be conveyed on how you communicate and it will likely make your partner feel uncomfortable too. Whereas, if you go in with some level of confidence, even if it's a little performative, that sets a whole different tone. I won't speak for all men, of course, but plenty of men find sexually confident women to be, well, sexy.
Sounds like there is more going on here with his reason for wanting it. I recommend a couples therapist. Bottom line, do not do anything your not comfortable with. But do communicate face to face with him, be honest about all your feelings.
The next time the two of you are making out grab his hand and put it on your clit, make eye contact and tell him you want him to play with it. If you really want to surprise him try not to wear any panties ๐ Guys love it when youโre direct with them.
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If you feel embarrassment or reticence, that will be conveyed on how you communicate and it will likely make your partner feel uncomfortable too. Whereas, if you go in with some level of confidence, even if it's a little performative, that sets a whole different tone. I won't speak for all men, of course, but plenty of men find sexually confident women to be, well, sexy.
Sounds like there is more going on here with his reason for wanting it. I recommend a couples therapist. Bottom line, do not do anything your not comfortable with. But do communicate face to face with him, be honest about all your feelings.