I have a couple of suggestions based on what youâve said here. Feel free to correct any misinterpretation on my part or to add more context. Donât wait until after the deed is done to correct or ask for something. Correct him gently in real time, right there in the moment. It can even be done in a way that sounds hot rather than scolding or critical . Example: âit feels amazing when you touch me like thisâ âI love it when you blank âthis angle is too much , itâs too big please be gentle with my blank âyou make me feel sexy/slutty/helpless/in charge/whatever when you do/say/touch thisâ. Stuff like that. Or donât even both trying to be âhotâ about it and just be direct. âStop this! Do that again! Bite me here! Harder!â Be immediate and demanding. Sometimes men benefit from immediate communication about your wants and needs. Others need more subtle nudges in order to still feel wanted. All depends on what your guy prefers. Watch porn or read erotica together. Tell each other about those fantasies. If itâs weird to do together, do it separately but try to tell them about what you liked/didnât like about that particular piece of media. Purchase a basic vibrating toy and have him use it on you. If you both like it, it can teach him a lot about how to get you off. How long it takes, how much pressure you prefer, whether or not you respond to dirty conversations in the moment, do you prefer a slow build or getting right to the chase. Thatâs the sort of thing you can figure out together. What you respond to can literally change through the day. This also gives him a lot of power and control over your orgasm which can be reassuring to guys that are put off by the idea of using toys. Doctors literally invented them because their fingers got tired. No shame in working smarter, not harder. Give it time. 5 months is still the very beginning of a sexual relationship. Itâs normal for some experiences to be bad, some to be incredible, and for most to be pretty average or middle of the road. That doesnât mean either of you is doing anything wrong. You can increase your overall enjoyment but not every time is going to be âmind blowingâ. If anything satisfying, comfortable and fun are better sex goals in my opinion.
I would just tell her straight, it seems she's not aware that having shit stains on most of your underwear is not normal, she might not know that.
I have a couple of suggestions based on what youâve said here. Feel free to correct any misinterpretation on my part or to add more context. Donât wait until after the deed is done to correct or ask for something. Correct him gently in real time, right there in the moment. It can even be done in a way that sounds hot rather than scolding or critical . Example: âit feels amazing when you touch me like thisâ âI love it when you blank âthis angle is too much , itâs too big please be gentle with my blank âyou make me feel sexy/slutty/helpless/in charge/whatever when you do/say/touch thisâ. Stuff like that. Or donât even both trying to be âhotâ about it and just be direct. âStop this! Do that again! Bite me here! Harder!â Be immediate and demanding. Sometimes men benefit from immediate communication about your wants and needs. Others need more subtle nudges in order to still feel wanted. All depends on what your guy prefers. Watch porn or read erotica together. Tell each other about those fantasies. If itâs weird to do together, do it separately but try to tell them about what you liked/didnât like about that particular piece of media. Purchase a basic vibrating toy and have him use it on you. If you both like it, it can teach him a lot about how to get you off. How long it takes, how much pressure you prefer, whether or not you respond to dirty conversations in the moment, do you prefer a slow build or getting right to the chase. Thatâs the sort of thing you can figure out together. What you respond to can literally change through the day. This also gives him a lot of power and control over your orgasm which can be reassuring to guys that are put off by the idea of using toys. Doctors literally invented them because their fingers got tired. No shame in working smarter, not harder. Give it time. 5 months is still the very beginning of a sexual relationship. Itâs normal for some experiences to be bad, some to be incredible, and for most to be pretty average or middle of the road. That doesnât mean either of you is doing anything wrong. You can increase your overall enjoyment but not every time is going to be âmind blowingâ. If anything satisfying, comfortable and fun are better sex goals in my opinion.
You canât. Involve a 3rd person.
I donât know, honestly no idea I know that the general idea is that theyre âsoft emotional and submissiveâ