Well reactive desire, for me, means that I don't just suddenly feel like sex out of the blue and am ready to go all of a sudden. I need a build up. Like I know that sex is something I want, but I need the right setting and feeling to get there. When I was young, it meant getting ready for a night out, going dancing, flirting, creating sexual tension. Now those times are gone. So we tend to get dresses at home, pour a drink, talk, flirt, dance. This makes it build up for me and suddenly I am game. I can go for a quickie, but it isn't as easy for me. Women are usually like this, whereas more men are spontaneous. On the other hand for me we are both somewhat reactive. So setting aside time for us together has always worked. It really helps us not needing to initiate. As sex becomes a natural conclusion to our activities.
What about 7 days? Specifically a chastity device
Well reactive desire, for me, means that I don't just suddenly feel like sex out of the blue and am ready to go all of a sudden. I need a build up. Like I know that sex is something I want, but I need the right setting and feeling to get there. When I was young, it meant getting ready for a night out, going dancing, flirting, creating sexual tension. Now those times are gone. So we tend to get dresses at home, pour a drink, talk, flirt, dance. This makes it build up for me and suddenly I am game. I can go for a quickie, but it isn't as easy for me. Women are usually like this, whereas more men are spontaneous. On the other hand for me we are both somewhat reactive. So setting aside time for us together has always worked. It really helps us not needing to initiate. As sex becomes a natural conclusion to our activities.