This. Everyone deals with grief differently and I'd say her sole intention was to take your mind in a different direction so as not to dwell on the sadness of it all. Clearly that doesn't work for you but taking her down for trying to cheer you up wasn't called for. There is of course also the possibility that she has a funeral fetish and funerals turn her on. It happens. Inane case you and she need calm discussion, not vocal shaming.
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This. Everyone deals with grief differently and I'd say her sole intention was to take your mind in a different direction so as not to dwell on the sadness of it all. Clearly that doesn't work for you but taking her down for trying to cheer you up wasn't called for. There is of course also the possibility that she has a funeral fetish and funerals turn her on. It happens. Inane case you and she need calm discussion, not vocal shaming.