It is wrong, yes. That is cheating. Anything where you're interacting with different-sex people in a sexual or flirtateous setting is cheating. Especially when behind her back. You have a sexless relationship then you address it with the wife or with councelling but this is just plain wrong.
Ok. I'd chalk it up to anxiety then. If you worry about it, it'll happen more. Just focus and think about how things feel. It might pass.
It is wrong, yes. That is cheating. Anything where you're interacting with different-sex people in a sexual or flirtateous setting is cheating. Especially when behind her back. You have a sexless relationship then you address it with the wife or with councelling but this is just plain wrong.