This isn't weaponized incompetence “when an individual pretends that they can't perform a simple action so someone will do it for them”. He isn't trying to get her to do something that he won't do, he's just plain old incompetent and self-centered. He doesn't care if she enjoys herself as long as he gets what he wants. He won't change unless she forces the issue, and OP really needs to decide if the effort is worth the potential result. This will always be an issue in this relationship and will require him to actively want to change.
Honey you're always sloppy seconds
NO. Definitely not. Maybe if the sperm was inside and she was hanging upside down lol. But no.
This isn't weaponized incompetence “when an individual pretends that they can't perform a simple action so someone will do it for them”. He isn't trying to get her to do something that he won't do, he's just plain old incompetent and self-centered. He doesn't care if she enjoys herself as long as he gets what he wants. He won't change unless she forces the issue, and OP really needs to decide if the effort is worth the potential result. This will always be an issue in this relationship and will require him to actively want to change.
There are countries where this is legal or decriminalised.